losing my viginity to a guy because its easy

[mammolito96]

warning: this may be a bit of a long post but i really need some help :)

so theres is this guy at my school and he has recently asked me so have sex with him (hes a popular kid, and i'm just the average guy). he is straight and curious and only asked me because he knows im gay. so since he asked me we have been talking and trying to find a time and place to do it, in the meantime he has sent me nudes and i have sent them back. he has now started sending me videos of him masturbating and anally masturbating. i have sent some back and i just wanted to know:

should i lose my virginity to him?
and am i doing the wrong thing sexting him back?

any comments and advice are really appreciated :) thanks guys

[norcaldude18]

If you think you will regret it later, then no I would not go through with it. If you won't regret it, then why not? The thing you have to be careful with is that he may try and humiliate you after you guys do it. He may tell everyone that you took it up the a** like a little queer or say something along those lines. But if he's hot enough and an overall good guy, I personally would do it. If you lose your virginity to him, you may develop feelings for him. And since he's "straight", don't expect him to love you back(at least not until he figures out who he really is).

[prob1996]

Sex is pretty powerful and even if u don't mean to there is alot of emotions attached to it. I don't think you should. Like the above poster said, if ur having doubts or unsure, then it's not a good idea. I think if you really felt something for this guy u would know in ur heart its right. I know he just wants sex and honestly who doesn't?? given a chance we all would do it but this is ur first time and that should be special to u. U have the choice in deciding how and when u want to give it away.

The sexting thing......hmmmm u can never be too careful with that stuff. it's fun and ppl do it. but i know ppl who have gotten into a SH*TLOAD of trouble for it. doesn't seem worth the risk to me.


Hope this helps!

[nutellaeverdeen]

If it feels right do it dude from what im hearing you seem like youre doing it just to do it you now i would give you the whole should be special speech but who cares if you feel like having sex with someone hot go for it but just go into knowing you might regret it later or enjoy it so much that you make it a weekly thing. Take risk have fun but be safe please.

[jegoss02]

I say go for it. If he's open to it and you are as well then if say its fine. Maybe he might become something more. Glass half full!!

[Tinker]

Just be careful about it and if you know he likes you then do it just don't get to attached or your feeling will get hurt if he doesn't feel the same way you do in the end. Hope this helps

[Cicero]

I'm just gonna be blatant about this.

It was stupid to even sext him. He now has actual pictures of you that can be used against you. It's better to do everything in real life than through pictures of videos, because it leaves a type of "paper trail".

[Second Chance]

I bet you that this guy has a STD or something because why else is he so eager to have sex with just anyone? Anyone who is this direct and eager for sex has something going on, and I would avoid him. It is really suspicious to me that this "popular" kid is coming onto this strong, and don't let his good looks, photos, or anything else make you think with your little head instead of your big one. There is no sense in loosing your virginity to a jerk or someone who is full of diseases and probably couldn't get a date with Typhoid Mary. Something is just not right about this guy especially since you are saying that he is "popular" and you are not and he is trying to get in your pants.

In the future I would never sext, send photos, or make videos for anyone. You never know who could get their hands on those things. Especially if this guy is a douche, then he could sent those things to your whole school and blackmail you with them. I would not beat yourself up over what you did, but definitely don't do something like this again because there are a lot of weird people out there, and the nice guy in public can be a real freak of nature in the bedroom.

[Jakey116]

warning: this may be a bit of a long post but i really need some help :)

so theres is this guy at my school and he has recently asked me so have sex with him (hes a popular kid, and i'm just the average guy). he is straight and curious and only asked me because he knows im gay. so since he asked me we have been talking and trying to find a time and place to do it, in the meantime he has sent me nudes and i have sent them back. he has now started sending me videos of him masturbating and anally masturbating. i have sent some back and i just wanted to know:

should i lose my virginity to him?
and am i doing the wrong thing sexting him back?

any comments and advice are really appreciated :) thanks guys

i personally think your doing the right thing, your enjoying it, your having a good time it doesn matter and no ones getting hurt.. just do what YOU want to, and do what YOU feel is right :)

[Leon03]

I wouldn't do it. You might nor regret it right away but most likely later in life. To me there is no age you should have your first time or shouldn't have it before. You will feel when the right person and time has come. And just because he asked you to do it doesn't sound a right reason to me.
And sexting is one thing but sending pics and clips a totally different one. Can you be sure that he is not going to use your footage against you as easy as he was asking you if you wanted to do it?
(hes a popular kid, and i'm just the average guy)
Would you think about him and the situation the same way if he wasn't that popular?

I guess your own concerns are strong enough to write down this on VT. So you should think twice before you act.
Of course I don't know this guy and I might be completly wrong. But still I can't get rid of the feeling he might use his popularity to take advantage of you.

Good luck and all the best!

[Short Circuit]

IF you are asking for advice about this on here, then you are DEFINITELY NOT READY TO HAVE SEX! Making love is the ultimate act between 2 people, and should not be done just because you can.

As for the sexting thing, how do you know those images are really of him? It is easy to download images/videos on a cell phone. I would never ever take such personal images and share them with anyone, but who am I to judge others?

[Catholic Guy]

I'm sure if you think it's the right thing to do then it is, if you don't then don't do it

[Ryhanna]

If you really want to, do it. But don't expect it to lead anywhere or for it to be anything more than a one-time thing. It really sounds like he's just looking to experiment.

But if you understand this and are completely fine with it, then there's nothing wrong with doing it. Remember though, you only have your first time once. If you want it to be special, this is the wrong opportunity. And if you have any doubts, it's probably a bad idea.

[Pipo]

warning: this may be a bit of a long post but i really need some help :)

so theres is this guy at my school and he has recently asked me so have sex with him (hes a popular kid, and i'm just the average guy). he is straight and curious and only asked me because he knows im gay. so since he asked me we have been talking and trying to find a time and place to do it, in the meantime he has sent me nudes and i have sent them back. he has now started sending me videos of him masturbating and anally masturbating. i have sent some back and i just wanted to know:

should i lose my virginity to him?
and am i doing the wrong thing sexting him back?

any comments and advice are really appreciated :) thanks guys

1. Just because you did this topic means you're not ready to have sex.
2. It's actually illegal to send pictures to each other over the internet means if you ever get caught you two might get punishment
3. I've a feeling if you refuse to have sex now he might use the videos/pictures to black mail.
4. Yes it's all wrong sadly.
5. When you're ready for sex you don't ask from others should you do it.

[Harry Smith]

1. Just because you did this topic means you're not ready to have sex.
2. It's actually illegal to send pictures to each other over the internet means if you ever get caught you two might get punishment
3. I've a feeling if you refuse to have sex now he might use the videos/pictures to black mail.
4. Yes it's all wrong sadly.
5. When you're ready for sex you don't ask from others should you do it.

This seems to be a bit cynical mate, I think that since we are all young on here, I mean really 14-18 isn't the hallmark of experience, these are the years where we take a risk and enjoy life. I'm not at all encouraging illegal activity I'm just saying we've all done stupid stuff in our time. Would it be better if he hadn't done this topic?

Do a bit of assessment mate, look if he does try and blackmail you the ball is in your court. Your already outed, everyone knows your gay but his homosexual trends are hidden away. It would be social suicide for him to show those pictures because how do you get your hands on them in the first place if your straight?

My best bet of advice is to wait about 3 days, that will allow your mind to think it over and for any problems or issues to emerge, then after those 3 days follow your gut. If he's a nice bloke and you feel like wanting to lose your virginity then do it. Carpe Diem

[Pipo]

This seems to be a bit cynical mate, I think that since we are all young on here, I mean really 14-18 isn't the hallmark of experience, these are the years where we take a risk and enjoy life. I'm not at all encouraging illegal activity I'm just saying we've all done stupid stuff in our time. Would it be better if he hadn't done this topic?

Do a bit of assessment mate, look if he does try and blackmail you the ball is in your court. Your already outed, everyone knows your gay but his homosexual trends are hidden away. It would be social suicide for him to show those pictures because how do you get your hands on them in the first place if your straight?

My best bet of advice is to wait about 3 days, that will allow your mind to think it over and for any problems or issues to emerge, then after those 3 days follow your gut. If he's a nice bloke and you feel like wanting to lose your virginity then do it. Carpe Diem

You do know that difference between 14 and 18 is really big? it's like whole new world when you're 18 than when you're 14.

Who said he can't lie and start making stuff out?

[mammolito96]

I bet you that this guy has a STD or something because why else is he so eager to have sex with just anyone? Anyone who is this direct and eager for sex has something going on, and I would avoid him. It is really suspicious to me that this "popular" kid is coming onto this strong, and don't let his good looks, photos, or anything else make you think with your little head instead of your big one. There is no sense in loosing your virginity to a jerk or someone who is full of diseases and probably couldn't get a date with Typhoid Mary. Something is just not right about this guy especially since you are saying that he is "popular" and you are not and he is trying to get in your pants.

In the future I would never sext, send photos, or make videos for anyone. You never know who could get their hands on those things. Especially if this guy is a douche, then he could sent those things to your whole school and blackmail you with them. I would not beat yourself up over what you did, but definitely don't do something like this again because there are a lot of weird people out there, and the nice guy in public can be a real freak of nature in the bedroom.

Ok i just want to clear up that he has been sending these images and videos over an app called "snapchat" so he does not have posession of them himself, and also i know they are from him because his face is in most of them. i know its still a risk and im not justifying, just wanted to make that clear.

thanks guys :)

[DeepFriedFat]

YES! do it, it will be worth it when you look back on it!

[Jinxxy]

warning: this may be a bit of a long post but i really need some help :)

so theres is this guy at my school and he has recently asked me so have sex with him (hes a popular kid, and i'm just the average guy). he is straight and curious and only asked me because he knows im gay. so since he asked me we have been talking and trying to find a time and place to do it, in the meantime he has sent me nudes and i have sent them back. he has now started sending me videos of him masturbating and anally masturbating. i have sent some back and i just wanted to know:

should i lose my virginity to him?
and am i doing the wrong thing sexting him back?

any comments and advice are really appreciated :) thanks guys


I'm going to be honest with you as this is a subject that strikes a raw nerve...

Your virginity is a lot more precious than you think. It's a one time thing, you'll never feel that way EVER again.

It's an emotional, intimate experience you should experience with somebody you are in love with, not lusting after.

I lost my virginity at 15 and I thought that guy was the love of my life - he was my first love and later broke my heart, leaving me seriously mentally scarred and regretting ever doing it with him.

I'm with a great guy now and we're even engaged, I just wish I could have the experience with him instead of the guy before him...

[Jinxxy]

P.S, sorry for posting here, I know I'm not meant to, but I just wanted to get my point across as it's an important subject to me...

[PaPa]

It's totally your choise!

[Pizzahead]

Do it if u want but remeber u only lose your virginaty once so u will always know that you lost it to a straight guy

[dan96]

there's nothing wrong with both, just make sure it's what you want

[josh93]

S It might seem cool and stuff to do but the picture/video is really risky and could if caught could screw ur life up big time. Trust me seen it with a person that was doing something similar. I think u should just check this guy out some more.

[xmojox]

If you feel the need to ask whether or not you should, then you probably shouldn't. And never ever ever put your face in a sext picture or video.

[Ethan1369]

Just be careful about it and if you know he likes you then do it just don't get to attached or your feeling will get hurt if he doesn't feel the same way you do in the end. Hope this helps

I have to agree with Tinker

[cpkid09]

i honestly dont think u should do it unless you love this guy but thats just my opinion. if you are comfortable 5 years from now looking back with the fact u had sex with a guy just cuz he asked u then go right ahead haha

[dufus]

Rock n roll. I'd do it.

[Avamis]

Well this is your choose. I would say that doing sexual act with someone is from emotional relationship and not just wanting to do it, especially the first time. But it is your decision, and go with whatever you find right for you :)

[Poopie]

Personally not even if I was gay

[gig-guy]

i would do it. why not? he wont tell if he doesnt want anyone to know which he probably doesnt so id do it!

[IAMMCLOVIN]

Me and my friends are thinking about doing this!!

[chrisf55]

It's not really my place to say whether you should or not, but if you do, you will probably regret it later, you should make sure that this is what you want.

[Jose]

Hey im a bi guy i was curious and so war my freind we started to talk and mess arond and finally we both gave and recieved anal no regrets ne still go out w girls and enjoy sex tith them we also have fun w other guys go for it only if feel comfortable and i dont think sexting is a good idea but since u both have each others pics no one har an upper hand

[mijr1999]

i know this is an old post but do what ever you want its not up to everyone else but still think about it.

[Jaiv6]

Go for it

[Thekiid031]

You have to be physically AND mentally ready to lose your virginity. He's probably a player and just looking for some easy dick pleasure. If I were you, I wouldn't do it. Its not worth it, you'll most likely end up feeling regretful. But hey, its your body and at the end of the day its your decision.

[justin 13]

No dude, dont do it is too risky. Wait 4 the right guy.

[lettuce]

Whatever you do, be careful about the sexting. Even though you both are both young, child pornography is a serious crime with serious jail time. So don't get caught. Also, if either of you try to spread any of it after blackmail, distribution of child pornography is a much larger offense.

[Dark Hatred]

If you think you will regret it later, then no I would not go through with it. If you won't regret it, then why not? The thing you have to be careful with is that he may try and humiliate you after you guys do it. He may tell everyone that you took it up the a** like a little queer or say something along those lines. But if he's hot enough and an overall good guy, I personally would do it. If you lose your virginity to him, you may develop feelings for him. And since he's "straight", don't expect him to love you back(at least not until he figures out who he really is).

This is really good advice. You don't want him spreading stuff about you. Like he said, if you develop feelings for him he's gonna call you a "faggot" and make everybody aware of that.

[cpkid09]

you really shouldn't just do it to do it, or just because he said so. do it when you are comfortable an think you are ready. there is no reason to rush it really

[Soldier212]

I think he is really curious. I think that you have the chance to do so. I lost my virginity at age 11, and I am ok, just make sure you use protection.

[dtranger04]

tough call. do waht you feel is right

[Michael_6]

I would say yes to losing ur virginity to him and to sexting but be careful