showering with friends

[smithers]

im scared to come out ( telling them im gay) because i shower with all my friends at hockey and at sleep away camp and the stalls are open

[DerBear]

When you say "Come out" do you mean your sexuality?

[ImCoolBeans]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality

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Well, don't. What will you really get out of doing that?

[Pierce]

That is a tough situation. You want your friends to know who you really are but you don't want them to react badly. I know it's hard being in the closet sometimes. You want to say or do something but you can't. First find out how your friends react to gays and the topic of homosexuality or gay marriage. If they are anything less than extremely okay with it, I wouldn't come out to them. Again I know it's hard to remain in the closet, but it might not be worth loosing all your friends. I know people always say "They're not your true friends if they leave when they find out you're gay", but it's better to have a few good but not completely "true" friends then zero real friends. Hope this made sense. Best of luck!

[steellord321]

Not every straight guy has a problem with this so u could try to find out first and if u think 1-2 are ok with it u could tell only them. Anyway Pierce's advice is spot on. Tell them all and u could find yourself bullied and looking for female friends...or not, who knows

[Atonement]

When I was in high school and considering coming out, I resolved that I would gain more bad than I would good by coming out. There were no other out gay men in my school, the community isn't too open, and I didn't see much to gain. Therefore, I would've instead welcome bullying, ridicule, and prejudice against myself so I could be "open" with people. Instead, I came out starting college where the community was better, there were men to date, and much to gain.

[TapDancer]

As much as I love being out, I was lucky to have a close knit group of friends that had kind of guessed since day 1 of high school, if your in a situation where you feel your friends are homophobic, maybe it is best to wait till your older, your friends will be more mature then. If you don't know, then, maybe try to subtly find out. Like, say "Hey, do you like Macklemore" "Yeah, hes cool" "Yeah my favourite songs are same love and thrift shop, whats yours?" and let the convo go from there.