really confused....

[lozzzz]

This situation with this friend is really confusing me and I'm beginning to question if she really is a friend, at first I used to get on ok with her but i feel as if shes being quite indirect. This is just really long and I don't know where to start but I get these feelings that I've done something wrong and i'm trying to ignore this indirectness, and that she seems to be turning this other friend against me, by being way out of proportion and she's just making situations out of nothing. I've tried to ignore it...and at first, I'm quite self-conscious anyway, I just thought I was being paranoid, but it became clearer to me when I would see how she turned her back against me when we sit at this table and looks really annoyed and makes comments to this other friend of mine. I know this sounds weird but seriously the stuff she says leaves me confused. But here I am constantly trying to figure this out - is she my friend? why would she act like this? have I done something wrong? and its like one minute shes extra nice too me and then the next... I don't think she even realises that shes quite obvious and I do notice these things. Shes constantly making these comments like whenever i'm around and to other people, she seems to be acting like I'm in the wrong, yet I know what she's really doing and saying and she seems to think I don't know what's going on, so she can take advantage. I just don't know what to do she seems to have convinced this other friend of mine. She seems to always be at the centre of everything and has something to say.
Thanks.

[Second Chance]

I would say that the fact that you have doubts about this friend shows that there is a problem between you both. I would be direct with your friend and tell her what you are telling us to see her reaction. If she totally blows you off and doesn't acknowledge your feelings, then my guess is that she really isn't your friend. If you feel you cannot be open with this friend, then that is another sign that she is probably not worth your time. Based upon what you are describing it sounds like neither of you are comfortable with one another, and it seems like you both have grown apart. However, just talk to her to see what's going on to give her the benefit of the doubt. If she doesn't respond to you in a positive way, then I would gradually distance yourself from this person.