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JoeHillsTSD
March 14th, 2013, 08:10 PM
If you haven't seen my previous posts in this sub forum, I basically asked about trying to ask me crush, let's call her Girl A, out on a date. Recently, I've been making a bigger attempt to talk to her and get to know her better in preparation of me asking her out.

I have this friend, let's call her Girl B, who obviously likes me: she texts me first everyday, she drops everything she's doing in class when I enter the room to run and hug me, she follows me around class, and she'll nestle up next to me and lay her head on my shoulder at random times. I didn't find this as a problem until yesterday. I was talking to Girl A at the end of class hoping that I could get a quick conversation with her before school ended, and Girl B cut us off during conversation. She stood next to me and hugged me and laid her head on my arm and wrapped her arms around me. Girl A just stared and didn't say much, but it awkward. When the bell rung I was hoping that I could walk Girl A up to her locker and talk to her, but Girl B grabbed Girl A and started walking without me, so I couldn't talk to A alone or get much of conversation in because B kept begging me to walk with her to her locker.

That's not it though. I also have a friend, Girl C, who I had a crush on during the summer and beginning of the school year. When my friend's saw me hanging out with her, they immediately started making jokes about me and her, and she immediately shook her head and say she wasnt into me. So, I stopped pursuing her because I'm not one to be clingy. Fast forward 5 months later. Now she does some of the stuff Girl B does to me but a lot less clingy. Take today for example, me, Girl C, and another one of my friends were walking to class. Girl C and my friend were going to the same class but I had to go to a different one. She wanted me to walk her to class and told me to "hold her hand, or put my arm around her".

Help me: Am I thinking too far into this, someone let me know. Does Girl B seem like a clinger to you, and how should I get rid of her without hurting her feelings? And do you think Girl C likes me? I'm confused at this point and can't really tell.

Synyster Shadows
March 15th, 2013, 02:36 PM
For girl C, I'm not sure. For B, there's really no way to say it without making her feel bad. just be gentle, but there's really nothing else you can do.

chillaxman
March 24th, 2013, 03:48 PM
If you haven't told Girl B yet, I may have a solution. But first:

Think about which girl you like most: Girl A, B, or C. Then think about which girl likes you more: Girl A or Girl C. Girl B doesn't count because it seems she likes you most, but it sounds like you don't like her too much. If you really don't want to go after Girl B, then you might want to become close enough friends with her and essentially friend-zone her or yourself. Or you could bring it up that you like Girl A. It really depends on your current relationship with Girl B. Girl A I am sure you can find another way to contact. I wouldn't recommend making any advances until you set up a plan for who you are going to pursue and how you are going to do it. Don't have a full plan, but just have those two general ideas. Emphasis on general. If you have everything mapped out, you'll freak out when it doesn't go according to plan, assuming it won't. Hope this helped. :)

JoeHillsTSD
March 24th, 2013, 07:25 PM
I'm definitely pursuing Girl A. But C has been a lot more flirty than usual (we've always flirted with each other, but recently she's been doing a lot of stuff that I deem girls do in a relationship). It's just that I have mixed feelings for her (I can't tell whether I would want to be in a relationship with her, or if I just want to be friends).

But I am set on A, and am trying to get her out with me.

Girl B isn't even an option, I just want her to stop blocking. But I don't want to be mean or hurt her feelings.

chillaxman
March 24th, 2013, 09:23 PM
Good luck, man. Also, I'd consider my Person B advice. I did it with a girl last year and we're still best of friends, without a relationship. A little friends with benefits, too. :)

Pierce
March 25th, 2013, 09:38 AM
Although this isn't very helpful, let me just say, Congratulations on being such a ladies man lol. Now to the advice. I would pursue girl A and continue to hit on her / ask her out or w/e you do. Tell her that girl B and C are just friends, and nothing more than friends. I'm pretty sure girl A will understand and eventually girl B and C should get the hint if your leading them on.

JoeHillsTSD
March 25th, 2013, 01:56 PM
Although this isn't very helpful, let me just say, Congratulations on being such a ladies man lol. Now to the advice. I would pursue girl A and continue to hit on her / ask her out or w/e you do. Tell her that girl B and C are just friends, and nothing more than friends. I'm pretty sure girl A will understand and eventually girl B and C should get the hint if your leading them on.

Lol not even close to a Lady's man, I'm just very flirty (especially with all the attractive girls we got at the school this year).