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Cicero
March 13th, 2013, 10:45 PM
So my emotional and physical attraction for girls has gone up. When it comes to sex though, I don't know what to think. I no longer think sex with girls is gross, but I feel like my brain becomes clouded when I think of it. And my emotional attraction to guys has gone up, I think.

So there's was this guy I've cammed with once (not on/from vt, omegle or anything like that), and I've slowly become attracted to him, maybe. Like we've talked about anything and everything, from how we feel to who we like to what we want to do when we get older. We've even talked on a weekly basis at times. We've also traded pictures of each other and such and I feel very much attracted to him. If I ask myself "could I imagine each other being boyfriends?" My brain get a little cloudy, I'd MUCH rather have a girlfriend, but ere are some small aspects that I can imagine that I would do with a boyfriend. It's easily understandable if I put it in percentages:

6 months ago
Physical attraction to guys: 60%
Emotional attraction to guys: 10%
Sexual attraction to guys: 85%

Physical attraction to girls: 40%
Emotional attraction to girls: 90%
Sexual attraction to girls: 15%

Now
Physical attraction to guys: 50%
Emotional attraction to guys: 30%
Sexual attraction to guys: 75%

Physical attraction to girls: 50%
Emotional attraction to girls: 70%
Sexual attraction to girls: 25%


Here's the thing though, I started feeling this way about this guy when I found out he wasn't curious anymore. Well, I think when I found out he wasn't it was more of a stronger feeling (with me feeling emotionally attracted to him, I think a little bit of it was there in the first place but wasn't really noticeable whereas now it really is). And this is the only guy I've ever felt this way about. But right now, there is this one girl in my class who is amazing! She's beautiful, very nice, and in a way a lot like me. I have a huge, huge love crush on her, and when I try to think what it'd be like to have sex with her, my brain gets cloudy. It's like I can't imagine it, I literally can't. I don't mean it like "I couldn't imagine me doing that" it's more like "I cannot wrap my head around that". Me having a supposed emotional attraction to this guy is really confusing me, because this is the only guy I've EVER felt like this for. Do you think I feel like this because I know there will be nothing more between us other than being just friends instead of friends with benefits type of thing?

It's like my physical attraction and emotional attraction (and small sexual attraction) for girls went up, while my emotional attraction went up with guys too (well, actually, just this 1 guy, I've never EVER felt like this with any other guy).

Edit:
Also, my feelings for girls are much stronger. Even though I really like this guy, I seem to feel even stronger with girls I feel even more in love.

CharlieHorse
March 13th, 2013, 10:47 PM
I think that you're having some crazy hormones, and that's completely normal.

I also think that you meeting this guy has changed your perspective on all guys...

Cicero
March 13th, 2013, 11:20 PM
I think that you're having some crazy hormones, and that's completely normal.

I also think that you meeting this guy has changed your perspective on all guys...

I haven't met him. We've just skyped and such and iMessaged. But my feelings for girls (like this one I have a huge love crush on) are so much stronger, it's like when I look at that girl she's the only one I ever think of and my other feelings like for this one guy are blocked out. So eve though I really like this guy, my feelings for this girl are so much stronger.

ReginaGeorge
March 14th, 2013, 12:15 AM
I think you're thinking about this too much. Sexuality changes constantly, and puberty doesn't help with all the hormones and what not and it can get a bit confusing sometimes, but it's totally normal for your attractions and feelings to fluctuate. It happens to basically everyone, but it can get even trickier when you're bisexual/pansexual/polysexual (anything that involves attraction to more than one gender/sex).

Also, having feelings for a person of one gender can change your feelings about both genders, for example, if you have a crush on a boy, you're likely to prefer boys, if you have a crush on a girl, you're likely to prefer girls. My guess is that it's because we think that person is great, and so you associate them with their gender (and other things as well) so we think their gender in general is great too.

Right now, for me, while the majority of me is attracted to women, I still have a good percentage of attraction to guys, but I have feelings for girls right now, and I've noticed I don't really care about boys right now, and also sexual attraction in general is lower, but emotional feeling for women, not just the ones I like, is through the roof.

You just gotta learn to go with the flow.