Help just please help guys

[Dtrain]

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[lyriclover]

Talk to the closest person in your family. Or a trusted teacher. What happened wasnt your fault, it was a freak accident.

[Horatio Nelson]

Dang bro...(at least I think you're a bro haha) That really does sound like living hell. I'm mot really sure what to say to help, would it be cool if I prayed for your situation?

[crepesuzette]

yeah it seems like you have so many responses despite how long your post is. interesting how the world always leaves me in the cold.

[Second Chance]

This is a really tough situation, and the fact that you are not on drugs or worse despite all the bad stuff around you is a credit to you.

I would say don't fret about your Mum because in the end of the day she had issues, and she did not make the best decisions probably due to her illness but also because she probably could not handle the stress of motherhood. All because your Mum left does not mean that she had something against you but rather had issues with herself. I know that kind of sounds patronizing, but you said yourself that your Mum had mental issues which shows that she was and probably still is not capable of making rational decisions. Chances are had you been with your Mum life would have been a lot worse in light of her psychiatric issues.

Your stepmum sounds like something out of Cinderella, and I feel for you that she is not compassionate towards you. Your Father is in an impossible situation because he has to choose between you and his new wife. I can't blame your Father for marrying the woman since she seemed cool at the time, and it is amazing she turned out to be crazy after the fact.

Especially in light of the ring finger issue with your Father it is understandable that emotions are going to be raw in your house for a little while. I think your family needs an external mediator to work things out. At very least, you should talk to your school counselor to work out your feelings. You don't want to get bad grades and jeopardize your future because without decent grades, then you will be stuck in your Father's house long past high school which would not be a good thing.

Your friends sound like douches, and that is shady they turned on you especially when you most needed them. I think you should find another social group to hang around with and get involved in something in school that interests you and can take your mind off of problems at home. More than anything, you need to be around people who like you for you.

The fact that you made a post on here shows that you don't want to die otherwise you would not seek advice. Start with your school counselor and be totally honest about everything that is going on. I just would not go into the suicide part because you don't want to end up being hospitalized against your will. I would talk about all the other stuff because you need an outlet.

Like what one of the others said, if you have a relative or friend you can crash with for a week or two, then it would be a good thing to get out of your house. With spring break coming up maybe it would be good to go on a short vacation to put things in perspective. Just make sure you are staying with someone who is stable and responsible if you do go anywhere.

If it means anything, I think you had a bad sequence of events happen, and the finger thing was an accident. If your Father is an overall nice guy, then he will be all right in time. Hopefully, your Father does not have a job that requires use of all his fingers so that he can adjust. Like anybody, including yourself, I am sure your Father is freaked that he is missing a part of his body, but he will get over it. You have to remember that parents are like overgrown teens, but they eventually come around given time.

[Apollo.]

Ok man, the above post has summed most of this up so all I'm going to say is the accident was not your fault at all it was just that an ACCIDENT. Also please do not consider suicide its not the answer I'm currently typing this from hospital after a suicide attempt that my boyfriend found out about and got mw to the hospital part way through. I regret it so much now. Please if you are feeling hopeless at any point PM me and I will try and help you out.

[Dtrain]

UpThanks guys im slowly starting to get over and try to make myself realize it was an accident but its still very hard considering everyone in the house wont even look or talk to me. I cant eat dinner with the family, talk or do anything with them just because they dont wanna talk to me. Today I tried talking to my dad about the situation but all he did was get out the ziplock bag of ice where his finger is in and just said "look what you did, look what you did to my finger" as soon as he did it, i just broke out crying and ran into my room. I really cant take this, Im going to talk to them about me moving in with my mom for good but its still a decision because i have a band trip on the first week of april that cost 800 dollars to go too.



******Update I just talked to my dad before i went to bed and he said he has forgived me and this accident was just out of Gods plan. Even though my step mom still treats me with anger and my school life will probably still be bad, knowing that the person i love most in this world forgives me makes me feel so much better.

[Second Chance]

While I think it was really harsh what your Father did at first I am glad that he finally came around. Especially since he is really your only parental figure at this point there is no question he needs to be rational especially since so much depends upon his relationship with you. At least things between you both are all right, and just try to be a good son/daughter and keep up the relationship with him no matter what your stepmum tries to do.

Your stepmum sounds really mean, and personally, I would ignore her and just pretend she doesn't exist. She would probably love to use this incident to turn your father against you, and don't let her turn you emo or get suicidal or depressed because that would probably make her happy. Be the best you can be so that one day you can get into a good school, get a good job, and eventually be out on your own away from the insanity.

I am sorry that school is still rough for you. Is there anyway you can talk to your Father about your school situation? Do you have any friends at school, or are you basically alone at this point? Don't you have any friends in band or any of the clubs/organizations you're in?

I think you definitely should open up about your problems to a trusted teacher or counselor at school. It would make all the difference to have someone or some people give you advice, and teachers/counselors are there to help you. Also, as mentioned before, gradually find another circle of friends since your current ones are not that great because you deserve better than what you're getting now.

[chrisawesome]

This is a tough and serious situation, I will just put it short and sweet... ---Dont let your parents problems get in your way, life is what you make it, life is in your hand and you should take the wheel.

I've been bullied by my own "friends" too! If you live in a somewhat large school, then just avoid them. I've had to do this for about a year and everything turned out much much better. If your not around the right crowd, then just walk away and find someone else. I promise you, out of 7 billon people in the world, there is someone that will love you. I hope you dont do suicide because I promise, that is not the answer. Some people in my shcool have died that i really havent met and it still makes an impact on me when I think about it. I'm not an expert so just talk, please talk to a good teacher or a counselor or a principal. No matter how brutal and mean they can be, they are just trying to help you. That is why they are educators, not prison guards