Conflicted? Help?

[Teen Titan]

Ok before I start please dont just tell me to go for it because this friendship is so important to me.

Anywho.... back to my problem. I have started to get feeling for this girl, who im BEST friends with. We are super close and I dont want to ruin our friend ship but its all I can think about. Another issue is that recently she told me she likes these 2 guys (she told me who one of them is), this one of which just asked her out. As her best friend i've been helping her decide what she should say (she saying no even thou she like him because she only liked him a little bit and what i said really opened her eyes about him).

After she told me she like 2 people i tried to see who the other one is but for some reason she wont tell which make me thing it might be me. I was waiting for her to say something first but the other day we were talking about what we would make our b/gfs do if we were out with some one and she said that the boy would have to make the first move which makes my situation even more difficult.

SO i was wondering if i should ask her out?

All help greatfully recievced, please read my top paragraph before commenting and could you tell me about your own experience if you were in the same situation and how it went,

SORRY ABOUTN ALL THE WRITING :)

[Harry Smith]

Hey louis, I'm gay so I don't have the same experience but I'm close with a mate and he always seem to ask me for girl advice ( I'm still the closet) but yeah the worse thing is that it is going to start to hurt when she starts talking about one of these two boys because in her mind your just a friend. She's going to reveal a lot of things about these boys, she going to send you long texts about how great they are, or even longer texts about how much she hates them. But just try and go through it, be there for her and support her.

However the fact that she likes 2 guys isn't great. Just sit through it, if she sees you as her rock through the crisis of a boyfriend then you will get closer. Just wait in the tall grass and see how it pans out. Sorry I couldn't be to useful, I'm just saying wait it out for a bit. Hope this helps- Harry

[AbbaZabba]

I'm on my phone so I'm not going to type a lot but you need to make a move if that is what your heart feels. You have everthing going for you. I wish I wasn't on my phone, but handle it as a friendship. Tell her just what u told us. If she is a true friend she won't dump you as a friend. Just let her know you u like her as a friend and would like to do something with her. I got a lot more to say but it is hell on a phone.

[crazy_teen]

There are girls who'd say they like this guy and then this guy to their guy friends. It's either they're comfortable talking to you about it (because you're in a friend zone) and wants a male opinion or she could be watching your reaction if she indeed likes you. But don't want to get your hopes up.

No matter how much you want to protect your friendship, nothing will come out of it if you're not going to do anything. She just said that she would want the boy to make the first move, so you can't expect her to make the move for you if you're really the other guy she's talking about. But sometimes girls will show signs if they really like you and they'll let you know in other ways.

You can look and wait for more signs. If you think it's you, then go for it.
You can also tell her how you feel because that's the only way you can let her know.
Or keep it to yourself and just be a supportive friend and wait until a new guy who will come up to her and be brave enough to tell her how he feels and snatch her away from you.

Goodluck!

[Leon03]

Maybe you ask her for advice. Sounds strange but if you start like 'There is this very good friend of mine who I started to have a crush on', you can talk to her about your feelings and concerns easier. She will pretty sure get who you are talking about. But not addressing her personally leaves her an easier way out if she didn't mean you to be 'the second boy'. This might not be the way to go but if this all is based on misunderstanding the two of you would keep a better chance to get over it and retain your friendship.

Good luck :yes: