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Fiction
March 13th, 2013, 11:27 AM
I am so ridiculously jealous. I can't even handle the idea of my boyfriend talking to another girl (one that I don't know) without ending up in tears and wanting to cut, and I know that's not normal. I end up having a go at him and just being a total controlling manipulative bitch and I know it's wrong and it's going to end up with him leaving me anyway but I can't stop myself.

I'm just so convinced that I have no real chance for anything long term and that he'll leave me for someone eventually anyway and that i'm going to end up back where I started and end up dead.

I don't know but what the fuck is wrong with me. I hate myself sometimes.

The worst part, my last relationship was manipulating and controlling and it's only since I came out of that reltionship since i've been like this. But surely that should have made me not want to be like that, not turned me into what he was.

xDarkAngelx
March 14th, 2013, 06:06 PM
Have you told him how you feel? That your scared that he will leave you and find someone else? Might help to tell him this and how long have you two been together?

Jman437
March 14th, 2013, 06:13 PM
I am so ridiculously jealous. I can't even handle the idea of my boyfriend talking to another girl (one that I don't know) without ending up in tears and wanting to cut, and I know that's not normal. I end up having a go at him and just being a total controlling manipulative bitch and I know it's wrong and it's going to end up with him leaving me anyway but I can't stop myself.

I'm just so convinced that I have no real chance for anything long term and that he'll leave me for someone eventually anyway and that i'm going to end up back where I started and end up dead.

I don't know but what the fuck is wrong with me. I hate myself sometimes.

The worst part, my last relationship was manipulating and controlling and it's only since I came out of that reltionship since i've been like this. But surely that should have made me not want to be like that, not turned me into what he was.

Trust him, if he wanted to be with that girl, he would be with that girl, and if you're afraid of the future of your relationship, enjoy the moments in the present, because, if that relationship ends, you'll regret the happy moments you didn't have ;)

Ryhanna
March 14th, 2013, 06:18 PM
Have you told him how you feel? That your scared that he will leave you and find someone else? Might help to tell him this and how long have you two been together?

I agree. It might be very helpful to talk things out with him, and explain how you're feeling. Maybe if he reassures you of his feelings for you, it will help you to stop feeling this way.

Also, I don't think that you're 'becoming' like your previous partner. It sounds to me like your previous partner hurt you quite deeply, and now you're scared that you're going to be hurt again. And there's nothing wrong with that, it's normal.

Cicero
March 14th, 2013, 07:23 PM
He picked you to be his girlfriend, out of every girl he's talked to. He's picked you. There should be no reason to feel this way. But I completely understand.

The best thing you could do is explain how you feel to him about this, just so he's a little more understanding, and he'll probably reassure you that he loves you and only you.

Fiction
March 18th, 2013, 12:45 PM
Thank you everybody.

It's just difficult :(

and i've been with him a year and 2 months

xDarkAngelx
March 18th, 2013, 12:55 PM
Thank you everybody.

It's just difficult :(

and i've been with him a year and 2 months

Then clearly given you've been together that long, he wants you and only you.