Are you still in the closet? Paranoid that someone will find out?

[kye.]

Well for me, I'm still in the closet and I don't think I'll ever be coming out. I'm bi by the way. I'm even afraid to post pics online or my real name because I'm paranoid that someone I know will find out lol so are you still in the closet? Are you paranoid as well that someone you know will find out?

[Jinxxy]

Only my family (apart from my cousin and my brother) don't know I'm Bi. All my friends and pretty much everyone I've ever met knows :)

Come out when you feel ready and to start off with, tell friends you trust :)
That's how I came out. Slowly, but surely :)

[ImCoolBeans]

I've come out to (about) 15 people, maybe give or take a few more (give, not take :P )

Both of my parents and one of my brothers know. I've told all of my close friends, a few coworkers and my boss actually knows too. All have been extremely accepting and it's given me a lot more confidence. It took me a while to come out to as many people as I have so far -- so don't worry about "taking too long" or anything -- it's entirely up to you and you should do only what feels comfortable and okay with you.

[Atonement]

I'm not in the closet anymore, but I was at one point, and I can talk about it because I have a keyboard and that's the rules of the game...

Anyway, I used to be quite horrified people would find out. I was open to essentially the Internet, but never told anyone in real life. I had told my mom in 9th grade, but beyond that, I told no one in reality. She has always been my biggest support, so she was great to tell. I came out right before I went to college, and it all went perfectly. I mean, coming out is a continuous process since the assumption is contrary to reality, so everyday, it's continued to go well. People fear coming out a lot, and it can be hard, however it is so much better to not leave in fear of anything but rather face the minor troubles that may come.

P.S. Don't feel pressured to post your name or picture if you're not comfortable with it. Being outed isn't worth it, to me. If you want to be open, be open, but don't risk being outed. Stay in control of what you want to happen.

[justin 13]

I'm still in the closet and I don't think I'll ever be coming out.

[Naue]

I'm not out as of late, only to a few people.

I'd say the most important thing is learning to be comfortable with yourself, learning what you actually are attracted to and just becoming more used to yourself.

It takes a long time to build up the strength to be able to be confident in yourself and be able to explain yourself.

If you can depend on yourself for just that strength you need, I assure you that you can do it.

[kye.]

Thank you so much guys! I didn't think people would actually answer my question lol not even an admin!

But anyways, thanks again for sharing your advice with me. Hopefully in the future I will be able to let everything out. I'll take your advice and come out whenever I'm more comfortable and confident in myself. :)

[JJoshy]

No one knows about me either, id never be able to tell my family because they are strict religious and so are most of my friends, would be good to know another gay person for real and talk to them about it:(

[teen.jpg]

I'm in the closet too. Well, kind of. I've told just about all my friends, and am going to leave the family problem alone for now. It's for the best.

[Abyssal Echo]

I'm out everyone thats anyone knows :) its pretty cool I can be me instead of hiding and worrying about getting caught.

[kye.]

Thanks guys :P I know, my dad is religious as well but I'm pretty sure we would accept me. I would just feel weird if my family knew I was bi..it wouldn't be the same lol and I know, it's better to let everyone know instead of worrying that I'll get caught sometime -.- ugh how life makes me wonder lol

[crazypete92]

My mom is a hardcore Christian and i came out to her and it was actually good. my step dad i havnt though cause hes intimidating. i came out just last year to friends and they have all taken it good.

[minish]

Oh yes, but I'm like the most out there closet guy in my school. To close friends I sometimes refer to myself as their 'Gay best friend'. It's just my family, I know that if I tell all of them they'll make a big song and dance out of it, whilst I honestly don't think that the gender I 'like' better should be treated no differently than a straight person.

:/

[pineinchneis]

im out to my friends and parents

[Skyline]

I'm out to a few friends... but at this point... if you ask... I'm not going to deny it...

[norcaldude18]

I use to be afraid of everyone finding out or even suspecting I was gay. I remember in high school, I would take extra precautions so that no one would find out. Deep down, I think everyone suspected it since I was terrible with girls and never had a gf. I have only come out to my sister, and I'm waiting for the right time to tell everyone else. I wish they would just ask me so I could say yes lol.

[Pierce]

I'm in the closet plan to come out in the upcoming months or beginning of next year in high school when I'm a senior. I'm absolutely dreading the coming out experience. Just like you, I try to post as little personal info about myself as I can because I'm afraid someone will know me.