Dawn01
March 11th, 2013, 11:04 PM
Ok, there's this guy and I do love him as a friend... But it's driving me mad how our relationship is seems to be becoming a friends with benefits kind of relationship!
We talk on the phone almost everyday, and I've met his mother and his siblings (he has a five year old sister who liked me a lot!). We could spend hours talking and we would never get bored, and we talk about almost everything (and by everything I mean his ex girlfriends, my ex lovers...). I'm sorta head over heels for him, but it's just hard to admit :wub: We had a lot of problems in the past, involving other friends and... eeerr... Once I kinda stole a kiss from him he kissed be back, but them he said that he was with another girl and it was a big confusion :/ But them, after giving him some time, we started talking again and we are really close right now, we hang out once a week :D
The problem is that even though I like having his friendship with him, I also can't deny that I want more, and I'm kinda afraid after all the trouble we went through. In the last time we saw each other (Sunday), he said that he was going out with a girl, but he said that he is not in love with her and and that he just not very into dating her now, you know, they just hang out sometimes, kiss and have fun, nothing serious. I got somewhat upset when he told me this, because I wanted to be in that girls place and the ideia of other person kissing him just bothers me a lot :(
Also in the last time we saw each other, he said that he many people think he is gay because many girls would flirt with him but he would ignore them because they are "bitches". I don't know, does he think I am a "bitch"?! Because we spent the day cuddling in the bech, and he just let me hug him, lie my head on his shoulders, put my legs over his legs while he is sitting, grab his hand, put his fingers on my mouth (yeah, I'm wierd, I like biting other people fingers xD ) and many other attempts of flirting made by me without complaining nor trying to kiss me, I mean, he treated me normally and sometimes he would giggle in a shy way, I don't know. IN FACT, I WANTED MADLY TO KISS HIM, but I was afraid because of the last time and because the other girl thing (even though he said that maybe they are not doing that anymore, he doesn't know). I kinda tried to make him notice that I wanted to kiss him when my mother was almost arriving there to grab us, but he just did that giggle thing and said that we should look for my mother D:
I don't know if the problem is that he doesn't take my flirting attempts seriously and he just want me as friend, or if he thinks I'm a bitch and doesn't want to give me the chance to be something more than a friend with me, or if he actually likes me but is shy (HE IS VERY SHY). I just know that once I hugged him very closely and I could felt that he was getting really hard (!!!), and seems that he is hard almost everytime he is with me because he grabs his shirt and covers the genital area, and he spent most of time like this (?!), I don't know, it just... Amusing, and maybe it's a good signal. He says that I'm pretty and he told me that his mother thinks I'm just adorable (she kinda "ships" us, LOL!)
I don't know, should I try talking to him your do you think it's too risky? I'm afraid our friendship is still somewhat fragile :/ Should I tell him that I'd like to kiss him again and that I like him more than as friend? Should I be sincere with him and tell him that when he told me about the other girl thing, I got upset? Do you think he feels something for me or he is just enjoying our "with benefits" thing?
We talk on the phone almost everyday, and I've met his mother and his siblings (he has a five year old sister who liked me a lot!). We could spend hours talking and we would never get bored, and we talk about almost everything (and by everything I mean his ex girlfriends, my ex lovers...). I'm sorta head over heels for him, but it's just hard to admit :wub: We had a lot of problems in the past, involving other friends and... eeerr... Once I kinda stole a kiss from him he kissed be back, but them he said that he was with another girl and it was a big confusion :/ But them, after giving him some time, we started talking again and we are really close right now, we hang out once a week :D
The problem is that even though I like having his friendship with him, I also can't deny that I want more, and I'm kinda afraid after all the trouble we went through. In the last time we saw each other (Sunday), he said that he was going out with a girl, but he said that he is not in love with her and and that he just not very into dating her now, you know, they just hang out sometimes, kiss and have fun, nothing serious. I got somewhat upset when he told me this, because I wanted to be in that girls place and the ideia of other person kissing him just bothers me a lot :(
Also in the last time we saw each other, he said that he many people think he is gay because many girls would flirt with him but he would ignore them because they are "bitches". I don't know, does he think I am a "bitch"?! Because we spent the day cuddling in the bech, and he just let me hug him, lie my head on his shoulders, put my legs over his legs while he is sitting, grab his hand, put his fingers on my mouth (yeah, I'm wierd, I like biting other people fingers xD ) and many other attempts of flirting made by me without complaining nor trying to kiss me, I mean, he treated me normally and sometimes he would giggle in a shy way, I don't know. IN FACT, I WANTED MADLY TO KISS HIM, but I was afraid because of the last time and because the other girl thing (even though he said that maybe they are not doing that anymore, he doesn't know). I kinda tried to make him notice that I wanted to kiss him when my mother was almost arriving there to grab us, but he just did that giggle thing and said that we should look for my mother D:
I don't know if the problem is that he doesn't take my flirting attempts seriously and he just want me as friend, or if he thinks I'm a bitch and doesn't want to give me the chance to be something more than a friend with me, or if he actually likes me but is shy (HE IS VERY SHY). I just know that once I hugged him very closely and I could felt that he was getting really hard (!!!), and seems that he is hard almost everytime he is with me because he grabs his shirt and covers the genital area, and he spent most of time like this (?!), I don't know, it just... Amusing, and maybe it's a good signal. He says that I'm pretty and he told me that his mother thinks I'm just adorable (she kinda "ships" us, LOL!)
I don't know, should I try talking to him your do you think it's too risky? I'm afraid our friendship is still somewhat fragile :/ Should I tell him that I'd like to kiss him again and that I like him more than as friend? Should I be sincere with him and tell him that when he told me about the other girl thing, I got upset? Do you think he feels something for me or he is just enjoying our "with benefits" thing?