Friend asking awkward questions

[TheGuyNextDoor]

Ok, so after realising a few months ago that I was bi, I came out to one of my best friends who I knew was bi. The thing is, she's told my best friend who's now asking me questions like "Who do you find attractive that you know?". The thing is, I think he might be trying to find out if I find him attractive, and if I say (truthfully) that I'm not then he'll get upset about it but I can't lie either. I can't just keep changing the subject or he'll think I like him but don't trust him enough to say so. I almost feel trapped. What do you guys (and gals) think I should do?

[Atonement]

Tell him you don't want to talk about it. Be firm, not an asshole. You don't want to damage the relationship, but just make it clear that this is not a topic you want to explore. Furthermore, if he's pressing it so much, he might be waiting for you to say you're into him. Just a thought. You know more about the situation than I do, so go with your gut feeling.

[cinderellagirl732]

Just tell him tht you aren't into him that way. Maybe he's secretly bi or gay and likes you and that's why he won't let it go. But honesty is the best way to approach this. Good luck(:

[dontfiguremeout]

Well I would just say you are still wrapping your thoughts that you just in a way came out and still need to think about it. If that's what you truly feel right now. But it's your decision weather you want to tell him about this or not. If you don't want to tell him, just politely say I don't feel like saying it now, I will later when I'm ready to tell people who I like. That's a pretty good solid answer that he should respect.

[Second Chance]

Since this is your best friend we're talking about I think you should either tell this person you don't feel comfortable talking about your feelings, or you should be honest by saying that while you value your friend as a friend you just don't feel comfortable going beyond that. My thinking is that you're best telling your friend the truth in a nice way assuming you two are close. All you have to say is that you like him as a friend and nothing more, and that should solve the problem. If your friend is testing the waters to see if he can do stuff with you and you are not into him, then just say you don't want sexual stuff to mess up the friendship you have. If this person is really your friend, then he'll back off.

[Jakey116]

Ok, so after realising a few months ago that I was bi, I came out to one of my best friends who I knew was bi. The thing is, she's told my best friend who's now asking me questions like "Who do you find attractive that you know?". The thing is, I think he might be trying to find out if I find him attractive, and if I say (truthfully) that I'm not then he'll get upset about it but I can't lie either. I can't just keep changing the subject or he'll think I like him but don't trust him enough to say so. I almost feel trapped. What do you guys (and gals) think I should do?


Put it out there just either say nah your my best mate, or yeah your good looking , anyway let's move on