TakenAway--x
November 13th, 2007, 03:54 PM
"Love exists. There have been studies that show changes in chemicals in the brain when it happens. Some feel it and act on it. Some deny it. Some never find it."
Lately I have been in a bit of a bind. My boyfriend is in another country at the moment, and of course, as any girl would be, I have been rather upset since he left. It is something that is continuously on my mind. I miss him terribly.
I know, I know. What is my point? What does this have to do with it? Well, I'm gradually getting there, if you will just hear me out.
There is a girl that will occasionally message me on MSN. The first time she ever messaged me, we spoke of my boyfriend's absence. At the time, her boyfriend had been in a different state and she had been missing him as well. And when I told her that I was falling for my significant other, what she told me was to give it time because that is all that you can do with love.
Gradually she had been telling me that I needed to find better things to focus on. That I shouldn't be worrying about this as much as I am. She basically told me that I was "obsessing" over it. What I figure is, he is my boyfriend, and I have every right to be worried about it, and Cal and I spoke of how much we would miss each other before he left.
So yesterday, she messages me again. She asks if my boyfriend is back yet or if he had messaged. I said no, and mentioned a couple of other things. I told her about my breaking down the day before, and she began saying things like, "You should try to concentrate on things in your real life. Friends and other things.. Cal is someone I'm sure you barely know, that you should try to keep your mind off of" and something along the lines of, "There is no reason to be so emotionally upset about someone."
It angers me that she tells me that I barely know my own boyfriend. She is not someone to judge.
In any case, what she then said to me was this:
"Love really doesn't exist.. it all comes down to endorphins and lust. You don't have to believe it.. most people don't, but scientifically, it's true. When you feel love for someone, you are accepting him as your mate."
Personally, I do not believe in her logic. It does not make sense. I do not understand it. You cannot scientifically prove that which cannot be proven. Scientists try to make sense of the world, of the universe, and humans can only make theories about the things that they do not understand.
The existence of God cannot be proven, nor can the true feeling of love and what it actually is.
Lust and love are two very different things.
Where do you stand on this topic, and how do you feel about love. Does it or does it not exist? Explain your reasoning, and back up any facts you might have to offer.
Lately I have been in a bit of a bind. My boyfriend is in another country at the moment, and of course, as any girl would be, I have been rather upset since he left. It is something that is continuously on my mind. I miss him terribly.
I know, I know. What is my point? What does this have to do with it? Well, I'm gradually getting there, if you will just hear me out.
There is a girl that will occasionally message me on MSN. The first time she ever messaged me, we spoke of my boyfriend's absence. At the time, her boyfriend had been in a different state and she had been missing him as well. And when I told her that I was falling for my significant other, what she told me was to give it time because that is all that you can do with love.
Gradually she had been telling me that I needed to find better things to focus on. That I shouldn't be worrying about this as much as I am. She basically told me that I was "obsessing" over it. What I figure is, he is my boyfriend, and I have every right to be worried about it, and Cal and I spoke of how much we would miss each other before he left.
So yesterday, she messages me again. She asks if my boyfriend is back yet or if he had messaged. I said no, and mentioned a couple of other things. I told her about my breaking down the day before, and she began saying things like, "You should try to concentrate on things in your real life. Friends and other things.. Cal is someone I'm sure you barely know, that you should try to keep your mind off of" and something along the lines of, "There is no reason to be so emotionally upset about someone."
It angers me that she tells me that I barely know my own boyfriend. She is not someone to judge.
In any case, what she then said to me was this:
"Love really doesn't exist.. it all comes down to endorphins and lust. You don't have to believe it.. most people don't, but scientifically, it's true. When you feel love for someone, you are accepting him as your mate."
Personally, I do not believe in her logic. It does not make sense. I do not understand it. You cannot scientifically prove that which cannot be proven. Scientists try to make sense of the world, of the universe, and humans can only make theories about the things that they do not understand.
The existence of God cannot be proven, nor can the true feeling of love and what it actually is.
Lust and love are two very different things.
Where do you stand on this topic, and how do you feel about love. Does it or does it not exist? Explain your reasoning, and back up any facts you might have to offer.