when someone does not reciprocate you

[crepesuzette]

what's really interesting is that when people request my help, they always get it. If the roles had been reversed, I would not have been granted the same treatment. This is a quality that I dislike in most of the people I have met in my life. Like when my cousins wanted our family to attend their weddings, they sent us an invite, but when we ask for help, they are just scared. You know, asking them for a favor is like telling them to rob a bank or something, which is something that no one should ever do. I just feel that way. I mean, clearly, it's doable but people are just not willing to cooperate and it sucks because I'm just a child with no siblings, nobody to guide me and now that I'm going to be in college in a year, I really have had no plans on what I can do for my future. I have come up with a few majors, but I feel like it's just going to be loaded with work and I won't get to make friends and everything. I want friends in high school and college and I want them to be around as much as possible, to provide support, comfort, and guidance. Sometimes it's just hard to find them. when I walk alone, I wish my friends were with me twenty four seven. I don't care if they tag along, but at least they would make me look really good. I only have a few good friends i can trust; the rest are a pack of losers who simply are just there to kill time.
I am not interested, and I don't want to ever befriend anyone like that in college, but I would like to keep my options simultaneously, since I can't assume that everyone else is going to be like that. Hopefully my future is not too dark.

[SammieRose]

Basically what you are saying is that you enjoy helping others, but do not get the same treatment back, and that infuriates you; yet, you come back for seconds and thirds....

You need to stop that behavior, unless you get something back, you should not keep on giving. People will take advantage of it. it is human nature to do so.

I know that being so helpful and open to people will get you lots of "friends", but those are not friends or close family members, they are opportunists banking on you goodwill. You have to walk away from them.

In college you will have many people who will share your goals, but also will compete with you on the job market. So yes, make friends, but real friends, those who are there when you need them and will expect you to be there as well, not the ones that you will be there for them but won't when you need them. The solution is easy, fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, get the fuck away from me! :P

[nice]

when I walk alone, I wish my friends were with me twenty four seven. I don't care if they tag along, but at least they would make me look really good. I only have a few good friends i can trust; the rest are a pack of losers who simply are just there to kill time.
I am not interested, and I don't want to ever befriend anyone like that in college, but I would like to keep my options simultaneously, since I can't assume that everyone else is going to be like that. Hopefully my future is not too dark.

Ok so you hang out with and walk with people you don't like so you can like better?? No offense but that's being so fake if you don't like someone don't talk to them it's that simple. You don't have to be rude to them but when I don't like someone and think they are "a pack of losers" like some of the people you hang out with I don't fuck with them we don't talk.

If you want someone to do something for you like your friends for example don't be fake like that. If they know you think they're losers that's why they don't want to do favors for you.

You say your waiting to see if they change what if they don't and they still hang out wih you and think you guys are like really close when you tell them the truth they will make your life hell for leading them on like that.

Again I'm not trying to be rude or offensive this is just my opinion.

[crepesuzette]

i am not being fake at all. i walk with people i like. tagging along does not necessarily have a negative connotation in my opinion. it can be as easy as saying following me.
i never said i didn't like them. you had it all wrong, nice.

[crepesuzette]

whatever gave you the idea that i was being fake? I obviously walk with people that i like.
first, let me get this straight. i write what's on my mind, and sometimes i just start to combine one thing with another which sometimes doesn't make sense at all.
i do like them and i do show them who i really am... it's just that i feel as if sometimes people just take advantage of me. they're just not there when i need them and it sucks. and i never told them that they were a pack of losers. none of my friends are, but sometimes some "friends" may turn out to be that way and it's just not what i want.

[crepesuzette]

tagging along does not necessarily have to have a negative connotation.

[nice]

whatever gave you the idea that i was being fake? I obviously walk with people that i like.
first, let me get this straight. i write what's on my mind, and sometimes i just start to combine one thing with another which sometimes doesn't make sense at all.
i do like them and i do show them who i really am... it's just that i feel as if sometimes people just take advantage of me. they're just not there when i need them and it sucks. and i never told them that they were a pack of losers. none of my friends are, but sometimes some "friends" may turn out to be that way and it's just not what i want.

I don't care if someone writes what's on their mind I'm just pointing out how you said some people you associate with are a pack of losers so I don't see the point of talking to them. I might still be understanding this wrong so correct me if i am.

[crepesuzette]

what i want you to know is that sometimes these people, like intially they're your friends but after a while you figure out that they aren't. all i wanted is to just be sure that when i meet my friends, they'll stay my friends. i don't want to waste my time with people who won't be my friends later on. i understand that we can't tell them and we don't know what the future holds, but i wish that there was some way that i knew the minute i met them. i don't want to have to regret it later. i have been through depression before because of a long list of events in my life. i want to avoid that but it's hard sometimes to run into people who you think may be your friends but turn out to be your enemies.

[nice]

what i want you to know is that sometimes these people, like intially they're your friends but after a while you figure out that they aren't. all i wanted is to just be sure that when i meet my friends, they'll stay my friends. i don't want to waste my time with people who won't be my friends later on. i understand that we can't tell them and we don't know what the future holds, but i wish that there was some way that i knew the minute i met them. i don't want to have to regret it later. i have been through depression before because of a long list of events in my life. i want to avoid that but it's hard sometimes to run into people who you think may be your friends but turn out to be your enemies.

Yeah I know what you mean my best friend and me had a fight with her other best friend and they don't even talk anymore. And they were like sisters almost. Honestly it's just one of those things you have to take a chance on and hope for the best. You'll know who's your real friends later in life when you guys have arguments. If they don't even try to fix the issue they weren't a real friend the true friends are the ones who try to fix issues and not just leave.

Sorry for that bit of rambling up there.

[crepesuzette]

it's okay. i just don't want arguments. if they want to argue, they can just talk to the wall. i'm sick of dealing with this.

[nice]

Then tell them that if they wanna argue they can kiss your ass.