Approaching a girl

[Platinum]

So i like this girl, and I'm extremely shy. We've never talked more than a few words at a time. What would be the best way to approach her?

[ScottishFilipino]

Just approach her and just talk to her.
A little at first. And over time, more and more.

[anyone50]

Find out what her interest are and use that as a starting point. The more you talk to her the easier it will get.

[JoeHillsTSD]

Just approach her and just talk to her.
A little at first. And over time, more and more.

This! I'm sorry but this does not help anyone! It pisses me off when I see answers like this to someone who is obviously too shy to "just do it".

Anyway, find out what she is into (whether that means listening to one of her conversations, having a friend find out for you, or asking one of her friends). Then, make some petty excuse to go talk to her (walk by her and stop her to let her know she "dropped her pencil" and hand off a one of your pencils to her, sit behind her in class and ask her for help, get a friend to talk to her and join in on their conversation) bring up one of her interests or talk about something general (news, music you like, the teacher that everyone hates, lol idk).

Good luck man

[Berad]

This! I'm sorry but this does not help anyone! It pisses me off when I see answers like this to someone who is obviously too shy to "just do it".

Anyway, find out what she is into (whether that means listening to one of her conversations, having a friend find out for you, or asking one of her friends). Then, make some petty excuse to go talk to her (walk by her and stop her to let her know she "dropped her pencil" and hand off a one of your pencils to her, sit behind her in class and ask her for help, get a friend to talk to her and join in on their conversation) bring up one of her interests or talk about something general (news, music you like, the teacher that everyone hates, lol idk).

Good luck man

That's because you have to force yourself. You're never going to have a successful relation ship otherwise.

[JoeHillsTSD]

That's because you have to force yourself. You're never going to have a successful relation ship otherwise.

Forcing yourself doesn't work for everyone. And giving simple answers to someone who has obviously been unsuccessful at doing so doesn't help them. You know what does help? Telling that person ways you may have gotten over your shyness. Or giving them tips on getting around it.

[rocketsheep]

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[dontfiguremeout]

I would start out with small talk. I think once you guys kinda get to know each other, then start doing some bigger conversations, but not like overly big ones. And once you guys get comfortable with each other, then start hanging out, then when you feel like it's time, ask her out. I think this is a great way, and it will only work if you want it badly.

[AbbaZabba]

Matthew, this is a post I gave someone else and truly hope it helps.

First, quit labeling yourself. Saying your shy doesn't help. If you are worrying about her, don't worry about being shy too. It adds to the confusion and you don't need that.

Shyness is a weak self image. Learn to like yourself. Be proud of yourself through your weaknesses.

Focus on her, listen to what she has to say and don't worry about what you should say. In other words, direct your conversation toward her.

As for girls, there is no magic answer. Don't be afraid of rejection, your going to have to jump into the snake pit and you will not always win, but keep trying. It will get easier every time. You are going to have to practice your social skills to gain experience. If you're trying to get a date, try a movie first. You got a couple hours you don't have to talk and after the movie you'll have something to talk about. Direct your conversation toward her, girls like to yak, plus it makes us feel good, it shows you are interested in us.

I can only speak for myself, but I love eye contact, so don't look all over the place. I am all about communication, and not all girls are like me, but I'd rather you tell me you are nervous, it will get it off your chest and I will try to make you feel better. Try to avoid this though, some girls don't like weaknesses, but it doesn't bother me.

Focus on the moment, and not about your worries. Good Luck Matthew, wish you the best.

[Eth_94123]

Just go talk to her, I'm sure things will go well for you fingers crossed :)

[liezia]

its easy, i think they are like guys