hurt his feelings

[crepesuzette]

there's this one guy that i really like and today i just injured his feelings by implying that he was fat because he had a bottle of coke with him. he started crying at the end of the period and now i feel very bad. as he walked by, i apologized but it was kind of terse. i should be feeling sorry, so why aren't I?
what can i do to ameliorate the situation?

[ImCoolBeans]

I think the only thing to really do is apologize. Give him a day to calm down a bit and then try talking to him again -- let him know that you meant nothing by it.

[Ryhanna]

I don't understand why you don't feel sorry. Did you say it with the intention of hurting him?

If you want to fix things, all you can do is sit down with him and apologise. Tell him that you were just making a really bad attempt to be funny, and did not mean to insult him.

[crepesuzette]

nope i did not intend to do it. i felt like i did it because there was such a little bit of anger in me. i felt like lashing out at everyone in my group because we were working on something together and nobody paid any attention to me.

[dontfiguremeout]

Hmm, well like they say, if you have nothing nice to say, then don't say it. And everyone will get days like these, and you really need to learn to be patient! Tomorrow or the next day you should go up to him and truly say your sorry by pulling him over to the side and actually say it, not as he's walking by say sorry and you did it.

[Wanderer_]

Then you need to tell him that and buy him a bloody coke!

:) show him that you don't actually care about his beverage of choice

Please don't double post.-Jordan

[pollier92]

drink a coke infront of him and bring him one and tell him you are sorry

[crepesuzette]

should i do that? would that be insulting to him? cuhs i insulted him and said his coke made him that way. i should just give him a letter of apology. let's hope that he is not hanging out with people tomorrow because when he's with a bunch of big guys i don't want to go near them.
i hope i can meet him quick in the morning and go hey buddy i'm sorry for what i said. i didn't mean any of it. i was just mad.
plus where i am coming fromm, people used to be really nasty to me and i had gone into depression before so yeah it was hard for me to deal with that shit. then i decided to just be indifferent because nobody cared about me when i cried. i felt like i was bad luck to everybody since they all hated me so much especially people of my own race and others as well but more from my own. i hated them with a passion and sometimes i feel like retaliating but now it's useless cuhs i have to let go of that hurt and move on with something more positive.

[JustinPCGamer]

Why hurt him? Apologize a second time.

[anyone50]

Hmm, well like they say, if you have nothing nice to say, then don't say it. And everyone will get days like these, and you really need to learn to be patient! Tomorrow or the next day you should go up to him and truly say your sorry by pulling him over to the side and actually say it, not as he's walking by say sorry and you did it.

This was well said

[crepesuzette]

i did not mean to and i'm glad i got that off my chest. i apologized to him and it looks like we're okay.but he doesn't really talk to me so i guess it's my fault. i had a crush on this guy last year and i accidentally backpack-dialed.. look i know it's hard to believe, but sometimes my phone just dials people's numbers when i leave it in my backpack, and if i don't extract the battery, it will ring others like this guy's. so when he decided to just cut ties with me, i was like dude i apologized. it was an accident, not something intended. this was last year's thing and it has nothing to do with it. it's just that the guys that i like just turn out to be the ones that end up hating me, either for a reason or no justifiable reason.