Asking a close-ish friend out that i just told i like

[Mister_Fantastic]

Ok, so i am friends with a nerdy girl. I personally think she is really pretty, and we both have a lot in common. So i just told her that i like her and she got offline right away.... I need tips, what you think will happen, and advice to ask her out if it doesn't upset her. Thank you very much in advance :)

[ImCoolBeans]

How close of friends are you with her? Sometimes when you tell a close friend that you like them they are a little shocked at first. If that's the case, then she may just need a little time. But that also goes in the opposite direction too. When you tell somebody you don't know very well that you like them they may not know what to say at first. Try talking it out with her and make sure you're honest -- honesty is usually your best bet with these kinds of things.

[TopThrill]

First of all, clumsy move (although sometimes girls like that). You might as well just ask her out since she already knows. As for what will probably happen: All 2 of my romance endeavors were with 2 close friends of mine, and I got too scared to even day anything to her and things got awkward. So keep having conversations with her so you don't ruin a friendship you already have. Also, don't let anything her friends or yours say, cuz as soon as they get in your head, it's over.

[unnamed94]

the only thing that come into my mind after i read what you wrote was 'why wouldnt he tell her he likes her in person'. dont tell her you like her like that, its just not the right way to tell this kind of things. if you would have told her in person (or on the phone or any other way that involves direct communication with her while you tell her) then you wouldnt be in that situation. the only advice i can give is talk to her about it in person, how are we supposed to know what will happen if you dont tell us anything about you, her, how close you two are, etc.? good luck on everything

[anyone50]

Yea the online thing seems a little impersonal at least if you did this face to face you would have a better idea of her reaction. I think you caught her by surprize and her logging off could be anything from her not knowing what to say back to she afraid you have stronger feelings for her than she has for you. I'm guessing you will see her eventually and maybe you take take some clues from this. if it appears she is avoiding you just back off for awhile and try to keep your comments generic. If she does talk to you, i would down play the I Like you incident unless she bring it up. All you can do is invite her to hang out with you the rest is pretty much up to her.

[AbbaZabba]

Some pretty solid advice on the above posts, I just want to repeat one thing and I don't know how many girls are like me, but definitely do face to face next time. I'm huge on eye contact and something like that should be face to face, and it eliminates pulling the plug & leaving you guessing. When you put yourself in a position to be left guessing, a lot of stuff just keeps repeating itself in your mind and that's no fun. I'm pretty out going as a person in general and unless you were a super close friend, I would have probably not responded either. Good luck Andrew, wish you the best.

[Mister_Fantastic]

Ok, here is an update on what is going on, so she had not told me she was busy after and she got online, without telling me she was not able to talk. So i said hi, and about 5 minutes later, she wasn't "asleep" or off the page so i said, is it really affecting you that much, and she kind of flipped on me, and said "IM BUSY". After this i said please tell me or go into busy mode for all you gmail users, and said that is what its there for. Now she won't reply back at all after her last saying thanks.... thanks a lot.... I really need help because we were actually pretty close and now she is slipping from me not only from a liking aspect but as a friend....

[CoolKid97]

I'm sorry to hear the update :( give her space and time so she can think about it. Next time do it face to face though. Best of luck!

[Mister_Fantastic]

I'm sorry to hear the update :( give her space and time so she can think about it. Next time do it face to face though. Best of luck! thanks... its been pretty awkward between us, i am noticing she is popping up everywhere in my life... its kinda crazy

[CoolKid97]

thanks... its been pretty awkward between us, i am noticing she is popping up everywhere in my life... its kinda crazy

Your welcome! I asked a girl out that was on my bus. We broke up after two weeks. Really akward because we just sit there not talking. Lemme know of any more updates!

[Eth_94123]

I definitely agree give her space and time to think about things, sometimes it takes a while for people to come to terms that one of their close friends like them, keep updating us I hope everything goes well! :)

[JoeHillsTSD]

When you fall for a friend you need to show them rather than tell them. Progressively flirt with them, hold their hand, make more physical contact. This will help you find out how they feel about you, if they return all these actions they obviously like you. If they seem to be pulling away, or even tell you straight up, then they aren't interested. If they feel the same way, this will also help transition you from the friend stage to the bg-gf stage.

Never ask someone to be your gf, confess your feelings, or ask someone out for the first time over any electronics. Ever. It never helps you and always comes to bite you back in the ass. If you do, you are unable to see their true reactions, it is impersonal, it may make the person alot more nervous or upset, and it just makes it harder for you to know anything for certain.
^Just some advice for the future^

Send her one last message apologizing, something like "Sorry to throw this all on you at once. I'll talk to you later." Then give her some space. She probably didn't know how to react when you confessed your feelings, and you must have scared her off when you continued to message her after she left. The best thing you can do is to play the waiting game: don't bother her unless she bothers you. This means that unless she texts, calls, messages or anything else to you, don't contact her. Wait till you can see her in person, and talk to her facetoface. And even then, start that conversation off with an apology for scaring her off

[Mister_Fantastic]

Your welcome! I asked a girl out that was on my bus. We broke up after two weeks. Really akward because we just sit there not talking. Lemme know of any more updates! We now are stopped and started talking again, and i want to get her an adipose to say sorry..... is this a right move?

[Mister_Fantastic]

Well, this thread is useless because now ever since i told her this... she lost interest in being friends with her....