Trying to rebuild a relationship with a girl

[jhv222]

Try to keep this short and sweet.

There was a girl I was good friends with for about a year. She had a boyfriend. About 7 months ago when we were drunk I hooked up with her and we slept over.

I kinda ignored the whole situation, she had a thing for me while she was with her boyfriend.

Since then, which was 7 months ago, I haven't texted or IMed her at all. I occasionally see her on campus or at parties, I usually just say "Hi" if we happen to see each other, but nothing more.

I plan on pulling her aside next time I see her at a party or on campus and apologizing to her about what happened 7 months ago. I want her to know that I feel bad that I hurt her and I shouldn't have let us
hook up.

At the time I didn't think this, but now I kinda feel like a jerk for not saying anything sooner. I figure its better to apologize late then never and I don't want to put any pressure on her or "bring up old scars" (she broke up with her boyfriend about 2 months after we hooked up).

Does this sound like a good idea? Or does anyone have any additional advice? I realize that she still may not want to be friends but she is a nice girl and I feel like I still owe her an apology, and what she chooses to do with it is up to her.

[Pierce]

I think it would be a good idea to apologize. When you apologize don't say anything that could be taken as an indication of you wanting to get with her again. You want her to believe your genuine apology truly is genuine, and not just an attempt to sleep with her. Plan out what you're going to say before you approach her. Best of Luck!

[crazy_teen]

It's 7 months late for an apology but telling her that you're sorry means that you know you've been a jerk and didn't just ignore it like it was nothing. But don't expect forgiveness or ask if you could still be friends 'cause it would not sound right.

[anyone50]

I agree with the poster above 7 months is a little late but i would still go ahead better late than never they say. In my opinion you will have to work harder to gain this girls trust than someone that has never met her would and a lot would depend on how forgiving she is. She must have seen something in you to spend that one night unless she was so drunk it could have been anyone which doesn't help your case. My advise is to take it slowly and try to become friends before trying to get into anything serious with her. Start hanging out with her and taking an interest in things she does. Good luck

[AbbaZabba]

I definitely think you owe her an apology, and do it honestly and openly. If you were open and honest with me, I would accept your apology, but would not go out with you, at least right away. You would have to build a friendship and trust all over, and that is something that takes time, so work slow and look at it as only a friendship. If she acts pretty friendly from just the apology, well more power to you, she must like you. Good Luck.