Annoyed&Fustrated

[FrozenFlame]

Alright so me and my girlfriend have been going out for a very long time now. Our relationship have seen the happiest of times and the crappiest of crappiest of times. But for the last two weeks she seems so distant. And I know it's not like the usual girl who has grown out of the relationship since we already went through that phase and in the end we had one of our "happiest times". Before the last two weeks she used to always want to hang out all the time and have happy times. Recently she rather just watch TV and things like that. She's making things seem more like friends than a couple....so if it's not the usual girl getting tired, than any other ideas of what could be going wrong. And if it's one of those mood things, any idea of how I can put her back in the mood? I was already surprised that I was able to make her be all girlfriendish again when she came back from her vacation. I just kept showing her my love for her and she eventually gave in. But now she saids talking about those "things" are annoying. I don't get how the girl who was crazy about our relationship, even when we hit our bad times, seem to not care about it much anymore....help please T.T

[Gumleaf]

you need to tell her how you feel and see where she is in the raltionship. communication is the best way to work out issues.

[Serenity]

you need to tell her how you feel and see where she is in the raltionship. communication is the best way to work out issues.

Took the words right out of my mouth. No one can solve anything in your relationship except you and your girlfriend. You can get all the advice in the world but it really means nothing unless you talk it out with her. If she doesn't want to talk it out, she's not serious about the relationship, and you need to move on. Simple as that.

[RaisingSand]

I agree with Stephen and Val, the best way to sort things out is communication. If you just ignore the issue, it's just build up and build up, eventually creating a whole lot of unwanted resentment towards the other person.
The most important thing in a relationship is that both people are in it are happy and are emotionally getting what they need out of it.
I suggest you talk with you're girlfriend and find out where's she's at at the moment and go from there. :) Good luck man.

[byee]

Yeah, communication's the key. But you probably already knew that. Tell her how you feel, tell her what you see, tell her what you'd like.

But, the thing is, eventhough you might do all of the above and be a really great guy and the best b/f on the planet, she still might find all of this, as you say, 'Annoying'. In which case, you have to accept that maybe, at least for now, you need some space. whatever is happening for her, whyever (is that a word?) her feelings have changed, they have. And all the communications in the world might not change thata. You might need to accept this, however reluctantly you might feel. Sorry.

[TakenAway--x]

Perhaps she is going through a time of distress.

There came a time when I grew distant from my ex boyfriend because I was depressed and really did not feel like putting effort into the relationship. He quit trying as well, and eventually friends is all that we became.

Then again, she says it is annoying when you bring up your relationship. She sounds a bit childish, especially in the fact that she will not tell you what is going on. I'd suggest asking her.