Am I Lesbian?

[sjohnson1577]

when i'm (13) at home with my sister (16) we toy with each other's vagina an i don' really like boys. am i lesbian

[Serenity]

To be a lesbian, you must feel emotional and physical attractions towards other girls. Playing with your sister does not indicate your sexuality and under no circumstances should you ever do it again, ever.

[LateForTheSky]

To be a lesbian, you must feel emotional and physical attractions towards other girls. Playing with your sister does not indicate your sexuality and under no circumstances should you ever do it again, ever.


I agree with this post except the part that they shouln't be sexual active with eachother. I am in NO way incouraging it and it is illegal to, as on 13 you are not legaly allowed to give concent to any sexual activity (broken often btw) depending on your location your sister could get in trouble with the law if this continues. At the same time if you are comfortable i dont see any problem although it can come accross weird. ie i wouldnt tell too many people about it.

[sjohnson1577]

I also have sort of make-out with my best friend (girl) more than often and my vagina gets wet. is the wet vagina thing normal:(

[Aηdy]

The "wet vagina thing" is your vagina lubricating itself for sexual activities. It still doesn't indicate you're lesbian at such a young age though.

[[[chickaroo92]]]

You really shouldn't be doing this, especially at such a young age, and...with your sister?! Gosh.

[Malcolm Tucker]

You really shouldn't be doing this, especially at such a young age, and...with your sister?! Gosh.

Er no.

It's is ok, as long as you are both comfortable in this situation.

[0=]

This thread concerns her sexuality, not your beliefs concerning whether incest is immoral or not. If you would like to argue about that feel free to start a topic in Ramblings of the Wise, but keep it out of here.

[[[chickaroo92]]]

This thread concerns her sexuality, not your beliefs concerning whether incest is immoral or not. If you would like to argue about that feel free to start a topic in Ramblings of the Wise, but keep it out of here.
I actually never intended to argue, or up bring religious beliefs in here. Don't be like that.

I'm just expressing my opinion on the whole thing. Thank-you very much.

[0=]

Your opinion was not constructive. You're just going to get this thread locked by continuing to argue about it when you know you should stop. I'm calling a mod to this thread if you do not stop. You did not address her question and put her to shame, which is spam and not very nice.

In response to the starter of the thread:

You need to think to yourself and decide if you feel no attraction to boys and that you are both physically and emotionally attracted to girls. If you cannot tell for sure then it may be a passing phase of curiosity. If you absolutely know it feels right and you wouldn't have it any other way you probably are a lesbian.

[[[chickaroo92]]]

Your opinion was not constructive. You're just going to get this thread locked by continuing to argue about it when you know you should stop.

How am I arguing? Seriously. if there's any arguments going on, obviously you're the cause of it, seeing that you think you're all that!


Also, to the starter of the thread:

My apologies. I should have understood the situation a little bit more before seeming to be all 'judgmental'. If you haven't had any feelings for other girls...yet, then obviously you're not lesbian, but simply like the pleasure of 'playing' around with your sister...I don't know. Whatever you think may be best, go for it! Good luck in whatever you choose to do.

[Maverick]

0=, from now on if you have a problem with someone's post, report it and the staff will take the appropriate action. It is not your place to dictate who can post what and if you cannot provide anymore more constructive posts to this thread any longer, do not post.

[[[chickaroo92]]]

I think that this thread should be locked.

[byee]

There's alot wrong with alot being said here.

First, to the OP, maybe you're confused about your sexuality because you're doing sexual things with your older sister. There's this unwritten, unspoken rule in all families that members don't fool around with eachother. Sex is personal and private, and when it becomes an open form of entertainment it stirs up alot of unwanted feelings and confusing thoughts. Like yours. You need to stop this behavior, and if you cannot, then you need to tell your folks and they need to stop it for you both.

Second, it's simply remarkable to me that anyone could actually believe (and say out loud, no less) that there's no problem with incest. There's tons of info out there that specifically follows kids who engaged in this sort of thing, and found super duper emotional, sexual, and relationship probs in later life. An incestuous relationship is always very destructive, regardless if both seemed to 'want' it at the time.,

Third, and finally (I'll go to sleep now), as i've said before I know there's this open minded attitude around here that pretty much no matter what most people feel/think/want/or have done or are planinng or wanting to do is pretty much ok, it's really not always the case. And with incest, it's one of those times, guys.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

I agree 100% Sam

[0=]

The issue here is whether or not she is a lesbian. The purpose of the thread isn't to lecture her about incest. Someone should make a debate thread because this is obviously a hot topic.

[Maverick]

They are completely entitled to give advice on her behavior. You'll just have to accept that they have right to share their opinion. This isn't a debate topic. This is someone's life we are talking about and they are entitled to help her the best they can, which will lead to discuss more complex topics that unavoidably will unfold. Excluding information is counterproductive.

[[[chickaroo92]]]

They are completely entitled to give advice on her behavior. You'll just have to accept that they have right to share their opinion. This isn't a debate topic. This is someone's life we are talking about and they are entitled to help her the best they can, which will lead to discuss more complex topics that unavoidably will unfold. Excluding information is counterproductive.
I agree with you and sam 100%. 0= you'll just have to realize that everyone is entitled to their opinions, and are just merely making a statement, that they feel they should make.

[byee]

The issue here is whether or not she is a lesbian. The purpose of the thread isn't to lecture her about incest. Someone should make a debate thread because this is obviously a hot topic.


You know, O=, you're usually very insightful, and I've noticed and been impressed at other times with the soundness of your advice. I think you've fallen off the beam, here, though. Let me clarify what I'm getting at with my advice to the OP. First, I'm not one to lecture (either you or the OP, or any poster, for that matter). However, it seems pretty clear to me that her stated concern about being a lesbian is DIRECTLY related to the incestuous relationship she has with her sister. I don't think you can seperate them, her concerns (thoughts, feelings) from her behavior (engaging in mutual masturbation with her older sister). There's a reason for things, it's always good to try to connect the reasons for people's concerns with the cause (if we can). That's what I tried to do here. Again, I'm not debating the morality of her (or anyone's) behavior, just trying to establish a possible cause/effect relationship between her actions and feelings.

[LateForTheSky]

The thread is entitled "am i lesbian" That is the question any other opinions are extra, if u wish to show ur opinion then do so but bitching each other and getting away from what should be focused on is spam. 0= i agree with u on this but let people express their views. Perphabes if people explained why they find it wrong maybe that would be more constructive. Maybe they dont know maybe its just something that they have been told and believed it. If that is the case then that is a closed mind and there is no point in trying to debate with them. Which brings me to that word debate, this is a Help And Advice forum not a debate forum so we should stay on track and refer to the question asked. I have already said my thoughts and tried to help on this subject. So i hope i helped as very few of u actualy answered the question in my opinion.

[Serenity]

From this point forward, any posts not pertaining to the Original Post,

when i'm (13) at home with my sister (16) we toy with each other's vagina an i don' really like boys. am i lesbian

will be deleted. You guys all need to stop trying to correct each other and get back on topic now as Ant previously said. Thanks.

[The Batman]

your young your just now finding out about yourself when your older you'll find out how you really feel sorry if it doesn't help