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HeartCoreHannah
March 5th, 2013, 02:13 AM
I haven't cut in four days. I threw all of my blades, knives, ect. away. Basically anything that was sharp enough to cut paper was thrown in the trash. I also quit smoking! I'm trying as hard as I can to get my life back together.
I'm afraid things are going to get bad again and I'm going to be right back to where I was. It always happens, so I'm not crazy to be afraid it is going to happen again. Every time I think things will finally be okay, something horrible happens and all my work is thrown away. I just really hope it isn't the same this time.
Also, I would like to thank everyone who has sent me a pm and has commented on my posts. Your positive feed back means a lot to me. I love all of you.
ReginaGeorge
March 5th, 2013, 02:29 AM
That's an amazing effort. It's a hard decision to make, and you managed to do that. It must have been really hard. It's really great you've decided to do this. It's takes bravery. I take my hat off to you. It's not something you can just do on a whim. I'm really proud of you.
Cutting is an addiction, it's really hard to just go cold turkey. You are almost guaranteed some relapses. Those are a part of the process, it's not smooth and it's not easy. It may feel like everything has gone to waste, but recovering isn't about how many consecutive days you can not cut for. It's not a simple as that. It's not as simple as just not cutting again.
It's about learning new ways to cope so you don't even have to count the days because it won't matter, you won't have to resist the urge. Recovering may not even be never cutting for the rest of your life either. It's a coping mechanism. I'm not encouraging, but I'm telling you to not put too much pressure on yourself. Relapse is not a failure, it's a sign that you're trying, it's a sign that you are getting better. I know it doesn't seem like it.
Here in Australia, we advertisement for quitting smoking and I think it can be applied to self-harm. The guy trying to quit lasts a week the first time then gives up for a while. The second time he tries to quit, he lasts a couple months using patches and things. The third time he tries he manages to quit completely and successfully for three years. The message is: every time you try, you get better at it.
You can do it. You can get better at it. Don't be scared, I believe you have every ounce of power needed to overcome this.
You're better than this.
Don't give up.
ReginaGeorge
March 5th, 2013, 02:37 AM
I found it on Youtube, it's less than a minute and it's a bit different from what I describe but it has the same principal and the same message:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FQpcK5gL5W8
HeartCoreHannah
March 5th, 2013, 04:09 AM
That's an amazing effort. It's a hard decision to make, and you managed to do that. It must have been really hard. It's really great you've decided to do this. It's takes bravery. I take my hat off to you. It's not something you can just do on a whim. I'm really proud of you.
Cutting is an addiction, it's really hard to just go cold turkey. You are almost guaranteed some relapses. Those are a part of the process, it's not smooth and it's not easy. It may feel like everything has gone to waste, but recovering isn't about how many consecutive days you can not cut for. It's not a simple as that. It's not as simple as just not cutting again.
It's about learning new ways to cope so you don't even have to count the days because it won't matter, you won't have to resist the urge. Recovering may not even be never cutting for the rest of your life either. It's a coping mechanism. I'm not encouraging, but I'm telling you to not put too much pressure on yourself. Relapse is not a failure, it's a sign that you're trying, it's a sign that you are getting better. I know it doesn't seem like it.
Here in Australia, we advertisement for quitting smoking and I think it can be applied to self-harm. The guy trying to quit lasts a week the first time then gives up for a while. The second time he tries to quit, he lasts a couple months using patches and things. The third time he tries he manages to quit completely and successfully for three years. The message is: every time you try, you get better at it.
You can do it. You can get better at it. Don't be scared, I believe you have every ounce of power needed to overcome this.
You're better than this.
Don't give up.
I found it on Youtube, it's less than a minute and it's a bit different from what I describe but it has the same principal and the same message:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FQpcK5gL5W8
Thank you so much. This is the most helpful thing anyone has ever said to me. I was very close to smoking tonight and after reading this, I don't feel as bad about wanting to and the urge has subsided for the time being.
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