Getting Help

[CastigateMe]

I'm in a bit of a predicament at the moment.

I desperately need help, I know I do, and I know I have for quite some time. I am growing terribly tired of pushing everyone away, hiding marks on my body, and generally just hurting those around me.

But I'm terrified to get help.

I can speak just fine on the Internet, where I cannot see people. I am fine talking to someone if I can't see their facial expression. I am fine with talking to someone when all it takes to stop it is turning off my computer, or logging out. But these people, the ones that live near me, the ones who I would go to for help, I have to see a good portion of them nearly every day.

I just get so scared when it comes to face to face talking. I'm awfully weak, if you ask me, and I don't know how I would handle it if the person I asked for help were to register even the tiniest hint of disgust on their face. I just wouldn't know what to do.

But I know that I need help. This horrid addiction is basically running my life, and I don't know how much longer I can handle this.

Edit - Also, are there any mixes or such that could be useful when trying to get rid of scars from blades or burn marks? They're not too bad, but regular cocoa butter and scar creams have only faded them a bit.

[ReginaGeorge]

You are extremely brave to want to take this first step, it's not easy, and it's take a lot. I'm proud of your for making this decision and recognizing that it's not good for you.

If talking face to face is really hard, you should try writing a letter. Write it over a few days, write out everything you want to say, everything you feel, and your fears, everything. Give it to someone you trust, your parents would be the best bet, because you could include "I'd like some help" or "I'd like to see a professional/doctor/psychologist to help me" and then they could provide for you. If you wanted and think your parents would go for it, you could ask them for their initial reply in a letter as well.

This won't get you out of talking about it, but it will get you over the first hurdle of letting them know what's going on without having to torture yourself in the process.

Telling your a friend/s if they don't know already is a good step too. It's helps you prepare for talking about it with other people, and they can also understand and support you through it, because you'll need some friends.

I really hope everything goes okay for you, you can do it. I know you can do it. Good luck, sweetie.

[CastigateMe]

You are extremely brave to want to take this first step, it's not easy, and it's take a lot. I'm proud of your for making this decision and recognizing that it's not good for you.

If talking face to face is really hard, you should try writing a letter. Write it over a few days, write out everything you want to say, everything you feel, and your fears, everything. Give it to someone you trust, your parents would be the best bet, because you could include "I'd like some help" or "I'd like to see a professional/doctor/psychologist to help me" and then they could provide for you. If you wanted and think your parents would go for it, you could ask them for their initial reply in a letter as well.

This won't get you out of talking about it, but it will get you over the first hurdle of letting them know what's going on without having to torture yourself in the process.

Telling your a friend/s if they don't know already is a good step too. It's helps you prepare for talking about it with other people, and they can also understand and support you through it, because you'll need some friends.

I really hope everything goes okay for you, you can do it. I know you can do it. Good luck, sweetie.


I'll make a point to try this sometime.. Thank you so much.

[lauren1]

Mia, there's also something else. And I know this because my best friend used to cut herself.

Try to fill your life with lots of things you like to do, either alone or with friends. The more you have to do that you enjoy, the less your mind will think about yourself and about cutting.

Good luck, Lauren

[SmexiLexie510]

Even admitting that you need help is a step. This whole journey is made up of tiny steps.
It made me ill worrying about telling people. I was physically sick, I was mentally and physically exhausted so please do not let yourself get to that point about this. I'm not going to say that 'the time will come' but maybe it will? Depending on how old you are, you can go to the doctors or a psychiatrist without telling your parents or anyone. But you could always wait until you're in a position where you're comfortable. Im proud of you for even admitting that you need help.
Trusting people is hard, but maybe they'll surprise you.

[Shadow]

Hun you have made the first step on the long and windy path to recovery, it is a bumpy road but you have to stay strong even when it's rough just hang in there. You could try the butterfly project where you draw butterfly's on your arms so every time you feel like cutting you think about how if you were to cut you would kill that defenseless butterfly.

[APimpNamedSlickback]

I know my step brother gives really good advice and he could tell you what to do or say to be more comfortable