I Hate their breathing.

[Maddies_Not_Okay]

I was molested my my older cousin for a long time, one of the things I remember is his heavy breathing, it was so...ewugh

Now I've had two boyfriends, both of them, I swear they have really heavy breathing and it makes me sick to my stomach and just creeped out by a guy I like! What can I do to make me stop feeling like this every time??

[Misfit]

The best idea would probably be just to talk to him, explain that heavy breathing creeps you out and if you decide to share the information about your cousin he should hopefully stop (or at least try to) if you decide not to then he should still probably try to stop as that is what a loving couple does.
Another idea if you haven't already is to speak to a school councilor if you feel comfortable to, they are well equipped to deal with a wide variety of issues faced by young teens and are able to help to you to move past these issues, if they personally cannot they they often refer you to someone with more experience who is better equipped.
Hope I helped in some way,
Love from Australia

-Bondi

[Jinxxy]

Yeah, Bondi is right, have you actually sat him down and just talked to your boyfriend about his heavy breathing and how it affects you?
Also, does your boyfriend breathe heavily at appropriate times (such as when he's aroused)? If not, does he have asthma that causes him to breathe heavily?

I was molested when I was 12 and it made me self-conscious about dressing provocatively and some other things... It's completely normal to hate things that reminds you of them and what they did, but there are very simple ways to get around these :)

Does your family/your parents know what your cousin did to you? If not, a step in the right direction would be to tell them first - before going to a counsellor or psychiatrist.

I've had 2 counsellors and 3 psychiatrists between the ages of 12 and 17 and trust me, they make you grow up fast. They are not the nicest of people nor people you should see unless your desperate. All my psychiatrists practically laughed in my face about stuff I told them, my 2 counsellors told other people stuff I'd told them in confidentiality.

The best people that hurt me were my friends, my past boyfriends and now the family of my fiancé, Ryan :)

I hope I've helped with my experience, good luck x

[metallic_pink]

Is his heavy breathing voluntary or not? If it's involuntary then you can't do anything about it for him to stop. You just got to deal with it. Yes, it seems that that feeling is related to the childhood abuse you've experienced. But don't worry, you could still do something about it. Talk to your bf about what you feel and how the abuse affects you now. Talk to a counselor and/or a psychiatrist (if you're ready for that) and they will be able to present you some ways on how that feeling will soon go away. Good luck girl.

[anyone50]

What your dealing with is called transference. It's is a phenomenon in psychology characterized by unconscious redirection of feelings of one person to another. For instance, one could mistrust somebody who resembles an ex-spouse in manners, voice or external appearance; or be overly compliant to someone who resembles a childhood friend. for you it's your bf breathing that triggers it. You didn't go into much detail about when your bf is breathing heavy but I assume it's while he is aroused and if this is the case I'm not sure what talking to him about this will do other than confuse him. You need to sort through this and it helps if you have someone to help you like a therapist who can help you put your expereince in perceptive. Your other choice of course is to just go on the way you are and I don't think this is working too well for you.

[Berad]

I'd talk to your parents about going to go see a therapist of some sort.

[Celtic.]

I was molested my my older cousin for a long time, one of the things I remember is his heavy breathing, it was so...ewugh

Now I've had two boyfriends, both of them, I swear they have really heavy breathing and it makes me sick to my stomach and just creeped out by a guy I like! What can I do to make me stop feeling like this every time??

me too. you need to seek a therapist its the only thing that can help you get over this

[xmojox]

Therapy can help a ton. You need help to work through all of what you've been through. Good luck to you.

[AJJ1]

it will waer out eventually