what am i doing wrong

[shadyh]

hi well I'm 14 and i want a gf but so far i keep getting rejected but all of the girls that rejected me said I'm a really nice person with a cool personality and that I'm good looking. i also dress nice wear nice cologne nice clothes make sure my hair looks good and all that stuff. so what am i doing wrong is it true that nice guys finish last do i need to be more tough or be a little bit more hard to get or be a little bit meaner idk i just feel like i could be a good boyfriend i know how to be romantic and be a gentlemen and give compliments and stuff like that so what do i need to change about myself

[byee]

Sounds like you need to do nothing different. It's not about you, it's about them. Trying to figure out what girls will find attractive is probably impossible. Not only is everyone different, but what makes them different is based on intangibles like 'feelings', and such. Think 'Chemistry'. You just haven't found, or been found, by the 'right' person who you 'click' with. It takes time.

Keep trying, keep looking, don't get discouraged. And don't try to be something (or someone) you're not. It won't work, you won't feel 'authentic', and you won't enjoy it. And neither will she.

[RaisingSand]

You're 14, slow down a bit! :) It doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong, you just haven't found a girl you really click with yet.
Secondly, never change yourself for anyone. The right person for you will accept and love you for who you are. :)

[ThatCanadianGuy]

I honestly think that kids are putting too much importance of finding a relationship at TOO YOUNG an age. I don't wanna be blunt but... be a kid for a bit while you have the chance! :D

[Uh-Oh?]

I agree

i am 16 and still nervous with girls yet im getting better. I think that at that stage in life school is more im,portant that relationships

thats what college is for :lol:

[ThatCanadianGuy]

^^^ My thoughts exactly :D

[shadyh]

Thanks for your advice I appriciate it. It makes more sense to me now

[Gumleaf]

you are doing nothing wrong. you seem like a reasonable person. it just takes time, the right girl will come in time.