do people keep their friends after graduation?

[crepesuzette]

I have moved to this new city two years ago and I have not made a lot of friends since then. I don't even know if they're going to be my permanent friends. Once we head into college, everybody is going to miss each other. I jsut cannot bear the pain because these people are the only true friends I've ever had in my life. Everybody else is just a bunch of traitors or people that were just making time. I was so upset when I lost so many friends or rather so-called friends. i hated them all and the things that they have said to me in teh past has not only made me self-conscious but also less confident because I was not athletic and I often laughed loud. So then I went through depression but then later recovered from it after talking to various members of a group. I still experience loneliness due to the fact that I'm an only child and I have nothing to do online except talk to people. However, it seems like everybody else is living their struggles because nobody tries to talk to me first. I have to take the initiative and as a result, build up relationships. I envy those who make friends right away, regardless of their race or religion. I am just jealous of those who are more fortunate than I am. People always leave me when I carry strong emotions.

[Jess]

Some people do. I certainly didn't :/ well I don't think they were my true friends anyways.

[crepesuzette]

oh all right. then i guess i won't have to be worried then. you see, i want to make a lot of friends, like maybe around 40 but at the same time i want them to not be drinkers and alcoholic abusers. don't think that i have high standards, but i definitely want to be friends with people who share things with me in common and i just want to be around the right people. It's hard since I haven't had that many friends as a child in elementary and junior high.

[anyone50]

Some people do. I certainly didn't :/ well I don't think they were my true friends anyways.

I have to agree with this especially about the part concerning true friends. So many of the people I know equate acquaintances with friendship. Just because you know someone and hangout occasionally doesn’t make them a true friend. I have many acquaintances but only a couple I really consider my friends.

[dontfiguremeout]

It all depends on the friendship! I know after high school, I'll probably keep in touch with one or two friends. Other than that, it's time for me to move on and meet new people in my life.

[Caver]

Some people tend to grow apart or just don't have time because of work, or studying and separate to their own ways.

[crazy_teen]

If they're real friends and worth keeping, why not? But time will come that you will really have to part ways because you have to.

It can be challenging to make new friends in a new environment but sooner or later, you'll find and meet new people. Just hang in there. :)

[Steve Jobs]

You aren't alone! I experienced that at many times of my life too. In fact, I'm now in my first year of college, and when I went back home midyear, I found a lot of people simply moved on. It kind of scared me that people I used to call my friends, after six months seemed and acted like total strangers to me.

I've gone through a phase where I've really questioned who my "true" friends are - and there aren't many. I agree with you - there are plenty of timekillers, people to go drink, hang out and socialize with, but there aren't many that will truly stick up and make sacrifices for you. It's really all the matter of who you meet and when.

If you haven't had a particularly good time at high school, just move on. If you have met people you want to invest more of your time with, then make a conscious effort to do so. Moving away for college and going into a particular field where not many of my friends are at means lots of differences, but there are still people from home I keep in constant contact with for the very reason that they've made themselves worth keeping to me :)

[SAR151]

Agreed with Steve.

[Maverick]

Graduated high school almost 6 years ago and talk to none of them to this day. I have entirely new friends now.

[norcaldude18]

Ya I kind of think after high school, people move on and find new friends. I graduated last year and am still close to a few of my hs friends. The rest of them moved away or did their own thing. I talk to some of them once in awhile but I wouldn't consider them my friends any more.

[PinkFloyd]

I sure I hope I do! I mean me and my best friend, Khristan (yes with a k :rolleyes:) are both planning to go to the same school which is San DIego State... We're only in 9th grade though. :/

[Second Chance]

Assuming you are a senior this year I have to agree with the others in this thread that once you graduate high school you might not see some of the folks you knew from high school. The reason is because for those who go onto college those folks tend to socialize with folks who are in the particular area that they're studying in. Like the show "The Big Bang Theory" where all of those guys are scientists and friends that is kind of how it is like in college. In high school everyone is kind of stuck together, but in college people tend to go their own way which is not a bad thing.

College is pretty good because you will be with folks who really want to be there and will be with people who will be a lot like you. However, it is up to you to put yourself out there and join clubs, organizations, or get active in things because people will not come to you, but you have to go to them.

I would enjoy the time you have in high school because the nice thing about high school is that you don't have a ton of responsibility. If you have some people who are friendly with you, then hang out with them and enjoy yourself. There is a chance you might not see them around too much after graduation, but that shouldn't stop you from at least having a good circle of friends now. There might be a chance you could still end up being friends with some of your current friends especially if you all go to the same school.

[crepesuzette]

so i have no idea which college i should attend where i can find lots and lots of friends. however, i hate to be a party animal because it's just not me. i know some of you may disagree with me, and it's okay, but partying all day just isn't my thing. studying is my priority but i also need to take a break from that, you know, to breathe in fresh air and to make some good friends who have the same values that I have.

[Jakers61]

There's maybe 3 real friends you'll keep in contact with. I'm "friends" with about 2000 people around here, surely I'm never going to keep in contact with them, and like 1800 of them I only talk to if I see them somewhere. I really only have about 15 true friends and I guarantee I'll only keep in actual contact with like 2-5 of them.

[Lost in the Echo]

Some remain friends, but others drift apart.
It's up to you and your friends to try to keep in contact with each other.

If you and your friends make an effort to remain in contact, then you'll likely continue being friends.

[crepesuzette]

i want to keep in contact with my current friends but i hate to see them change from good to bad. once that relationship is broken, i'll have to find someone that can replace that or something. i haven't always had that many friends, and it's simply because i don't do what people say and i feel pressured to conform but then again it's like i'm not being myself.

[Second Chance]

so i have no idea which college i should attend where i can find lots and lots of friends. however, i hate to be a party animal because it's just not me. i know some of you may disagree with me, and it's okay, but partying all day just isn't my thing. studying is my priority but i also need to take a break from that, you know, to breathe in fresh air and to make some good friends who have the same values that I have.

The best college to attend is the one that has the major (field of study) you want to do. For example, if you want to become some sort of mechanical engineer, then you would go to MIT whereas if you want to be a vet you would go to a school with a strong agricultural program such as Nebraska State. Schools are not like cars where you go with the brand you think is best. You have to choose the school that has the degree you want, meets your budget, and is in the place where you want it (near to home or faraway). If you are totally undecided with what you want to do with life, then don't go to a four year school. You should go to a community college to sort things out before you spend a lot of money and go into a lot of debt at a four year school.

The socialization thing happens at all schools, and whether you attend UCLA or the University of North Dakota you will always find people and things to do. Depending on your major many people become pretty close over their four years especially those in the majors that are not as well known. One way or another you will find your place in any college you go, but you have to put yourself out there because no one will come to you. You can go to the biggest party school in America and be totally lonely if you don't make an effort to get to know folks in a positive way.

i want to keep in contact with my current friends but i hate to see them change from good to bad. once that relationship is broken, i'll have to find someone that can replace that or something. i haven't always had that many friends, and it's simply because i don't do what people say and i feel pressured to conform but then again it's like i'm not being myself.

Everything depends on what you and your friends do after college. If you and your friends end up commuting to an area school, then there is a chance you all can keep in touch. If you and your friend end up going all over the country and take up totally different majors putting you all in different kinds of work, then you all might loose contact. However, you will make a lot of new friends in college who will easily make up for the loss of anyone you loose contact with after high school. It is not like you are condemned to a life of being alone after high school, and never choose a college just because your friends go there. I guarantee you that by the end of the four years you might make a new set of friends and may not see the old high school friend around much, if at all.

Talk to your guidance counselor at school about all of this because he/she will give you good advice on your college concerns.

[crepesuzette]

let's just hope for the best.

[baseballfan]

Depends a lot on how close your friends are and how many you have