Regret coming out???

[animaLover7]

So I've come out to a couple of my closest friends. A couple don't approve. But I feel bad for coming out to them. Like it was wrong of me. With one friend, it's made things easier, but only that one. And I have a problem. I have this guy friend who keeps telling people he asked me out and I said no. He didn't ask me out. But if he did, I almost think I would. But I'm a lesbian. I've told people. If I dated him, they'd make a big deal. He keeps asking me if I'm a lesbian. I've almost said yes a few times but something tells me I'd regret it. What do I do??

[tundravortex]

just say yes,if people make fun of u let them think wat they think just be your self

[ReginaGeorge]

Firstly: You are not wrong for coming out to them. Their ignorance is their own problem. They are in the wrong for not accepting you. Don't ever think that you are wrong. You are perfectly okay. I promise you that. If they don't support you, they aren't true friends. Tell them how you wish they can support you, and if they reject that, keep with that one friend who makes you feel good. They are your friends. Friends make you feel good.

Secondly: The rumor is you said NO to dating him meaning you DIDN'T date him, so I don't see any problem here. It just gives him a bad kind of reputation because you 'rejected' him. This rumor shouldn't hurt you, but since it's making you uncomfortable ask him to stop. He's not your friend if he doesn't after you tell him your feelings.

Thirdly: If he asks you if you're a lesbian, don't base your answer on HIS feelings, base them on yours. If you want to come out to him, you do. If you want him to know, tell him. Don't hold back because you think it will hurt him, or he'll be mad because of the rumor. You coming out to someone isn't about that person, it's about YOU. They are supposed to put aside their feelings, because coming out is about YOU.

Good luck, do what you feel is right. :)

[animaLover7]

Firstly: You are not wrong for coming out to them. Their ignorance is their own problem. They are in the wrong for not accepting you. Don't ever think that you are wrong. You are perfectly okay. I promise you that. If they don't support you, they aren't true friends. Tell them how you wish they can support you, and if they reject that, keep with that one friend who makes you feel good. They are your friends. Friends make you feel good.

Secondly: The rumor is you said NO to dating him meaning you DIDN'T date him, so I don't see any problem here. It just gives him a bad kind of reputation because you 'rejected' him. This rumor shouldn't hurt you, but since it's making you uncomfortable ask him to stop. He's not your friend if he doesn't after you tell him your feelings.

Thirdly: If he asks you if you're a lesbian, don't base your answer on HIS feelings, base them on yours. If you want to come out to him, you do. If you want him to know, tell him. Don't hold back because you think it will hurt him, or he'll be mad because of the rumor. You coming out to someone isn't about that person, it's about YOU. They are supposed to put aside their feelings, because coming out is about YOU.

Good luck, do what you feel is right. :)


Thank you for the advice. It really opened my eyes and made me feel better about me. I told a couple of my friends today because I was more confident. Thank you so much again.(:

[Eth_94123]

Don't regret it, you are who you are and you should be proud of it :) if they don't like it then it just shows that they weren't a good friend!

[Twilly F. Sniper]

I had some, in fact, the only people I haven't came out to are my family for that reason. You're right just stand your ground :)

[Faolan]

People can be ignorant jerks. Especially high school girls. From what I've seen at my school, people get picked on and bullied, but they make it through. After high school it gets better.

[Jakey116]

So I've come out to a couple of my closest friends. A couple don't approve. But I feel bad for coming out to them. Like it was wrong of me. With one friend, it's made things easier, but only that one. And I have a problem. I have this guy friend who keeps telling people he asked me out and I said no. He didn't ask me out. But if he did, I almost think I would. But I'm a lesbian. I've told people. If I dated him, they'd make a big deal. He keeps asking me if I'm a lesbian. I've almost said yes a few times but something tells me I'd regret it. What do I do??

Just do what will make you happy in the long run.. If your going to be uncomfortable n Embarrased for ages then maybe say no and tell him to mind his own business