Mom or Dad?

[AbbaZabba]

Try one in here too, Mom or Dad?

This is truly hard to answer for me, both of my parents are just so great. The love and fun that I have with them is irreplaceable. They both make so many sacrifices for me and support me. Sure we have are differences, but there are never any fights or harsh words ever spoken. (Didn't take me long to realize who was boss and I wasn't going to win a fight) But I am a Daddy's girl, so that is the only reason I am going to say Dad.

"I want some day to be able to love with the same intensity and unselfishness that my parents have love me."

[OrKing]

My mom by far, I don't really know if what I have for my father is love, we're closer to being awkward friends than father and son.

[Pierce]

Deeeeeeefinately my mother. Just like the user above me, my relationship with my father is awkward. I don't know what I would do without my mother, although she does piss me off sometimes lol.

[Jinxxy]

Neither.

If there is any advice I could give any of you younger ones, it'll be NEVER trust your parents with anything.
Make sure you surround yourself with friends you can go to with EVERY problem you have. OR, failing that, learn to keep it to yourself and deal with shit by yourself.

I had to grow the fuck up pretty quick because of my parents and I'll never forgive or forget some of the things they did throughout my life.
I had to move out at 16 because of how badly my mum treated me.

So, yeah, neither, kids. Neither. Ever.

[workingatperfect]

Mom. She can be a major bitch at times and seems to be constantly putting me down and making me feel like shit lately, but she's at least better than my dad. I think he forgets he even has kids sometimes. I have a bad relationship with both, but it's worse with my dad.

[OrKing]

Neither.

If there is any advice I could give any of you younger ones, it'll be NEVER trust your parents with anything.
Make sure you surround yourself with friends you can go to with EVERY problem you have. OR, failing that, learn to keep it to yourself and deal with shit by yourself.

I had to grow the fuck up pretty quick because of my parents and I'll never forgive or forget some of the things they did throughout my life.
I had to move out at 16 because of how badly my mum treated me.

So, yeah, neither, kids. Neither. Ever.

That's not really fair, some parents don't do such an awesome job, and some are damn right evil, but a lot are amazing parents who go on to raise extremely happy and gifted kids. It's certainly not fair at all to tell everyone to never trust their parents. Some people have parents whom are like best friends, who love them more than anything else and will always be there for them for any problem life may chuck at them. It's not fair for those of us who have parents that didn't or don't really give a shit about us to tell those who have parents whom think of their children as the most important thing in the world to see them in the same light as some of us see ours. It's like being forced to eat a pile of dog shit and telling your friend to not eat the cheese cake they've been given because of it. :P

[Jinxxy]

That's not really fair, some parents don't do such an awesome job, and some are damn right evil, but a lot are amazing parents who go on to raise extremely happy and gifted kids. It's certainly not fair at all to tell everyone to never trust their parents. Some people have parents whom are like best friends, who love them more than anything else and will always be there for them for any problem life may chuck at them. It's not fair for those of us who have parents that didn't or don't really give a shit about us to tell those who have parents whom think of their children as the most important thing in the world to see them in the same light as some of us see ours. It's like being forced to eat a pile of dog shit and telling your friend to not eat the cheese cake they've been given because of it. :P

Trust me, at some point, your parents will screw you over some way or another.
I'm just talking from WAYYYYY too much experience for a 17 year old. I apologise for tarring all the parents with the same brush, so to speak.
It's not as if I've seen this shit or anything... ¬__¬

[OrKing]

Haha, unfortunately for a lot of people that's probably true, but for those lucky few it may not be, so I'm not going to put my thoughts, which in a lot of aspects are very similar to yours in their mind. Best to just hope they never do IMO.

[Cognizant]

Both of my parents annoy me, but my dad is SOMETIMES (notice sometimes) more tolerable (and slightly more logical) than my mom.

[xmojox]

Neither.

If there is any advice I could give any of you younger ones, it'll be NEVER trust your parents with anything.
Make sure you surround yourself with friends you can go to with EVERY problem you have. OR, failing that, learn to keep it to yourself and deal with shit by yourself.

I had to grow the fuck up pretty quick because of my parents and I'll never forgive or forget some of the things they did throughout my life.
I had to move out at 16 because of how badly my mum treated me.

So, yeah, neither, kids. Neither. Ever.

I'm sorry you've had such bad experiences, but I truly don't think that's an appropriate message for these forums. I hope that you will get counselling to help you deal with your issues, because if you don't, you're gonna have problems your whole life with such things as trust and intimacy.

That being said, my adoptive parents are both equally awesome and I love them both. I can go to them with any problem I'm having and not be judged or pushed aside. I know I'm lucky.

[AbbaZabba]

I'm sorry you've had such bad experiences, but I truly don't think that's an appropriate message for these forums. I hope that you will get counselling to help you deal with your issues, because if you don't, you're gonna have problems your whole life with such things as trust and intimacy.

That being said, my adoptive parents are both equally awesome and I love them both. I can go to them with any problem I'm having and not be judged or pushed aside. I know I'm lucky.

I was going to write a novel on that, but decided it wasn't worth my time. I truly appreciate your comment and thanks for standing up for me Cole. Have a good one.

[Jinxxy]

I'm sorry you've had such bad experiences, but I truly don't think that's an appropriate message for these forums. I hope that you will get counselling to help you deal with your issues, because if you don't, you're gonna have problems your whole life with such things as trust and intimacy.

That being said, my adoptive parents are both equally awesome and I love them both. I can go to them with any problem I'm having and not be judged or pushed aside. I know I'm lucky.

Excuse me? I have a 14 year old child talking to me like an adult.
I do not have any issues with trust or intimacy as I have a very stable, trusting relationship with my fiancé, my rather large group of friends and many other people. I have father-figures and mother-figures. Just as far as I'm concerned - no mum or dad/mother or father.

Congratulations on having a good, trusting relationship with your parents.
Just realise that talking to somebody who is almost an adult sounds rather rude and could easily piss off the wrong person if you're not careful. Okay?
Have a nice day, kid.

[WalkingOnDisaster]

My mom... She is very nice and very loving, she tries very hard to be here for me.
My dad is a piece of shit that can go die in a hole.

Trust me, at some point, your parents will screw you over some way or another.
I'm just talking from WAYYYYY too much experience for a 17 year old. I apologise for tarring all the parents with the same brush, so to speak.
It's not as if I've seen this shit or anything... ¬__¬

Not true. I am sorry you've had bad experience with your parents, but not too frequently do your parents screw you over. My mom is my best friend. Right now she's the only person I can go to, everyone else has left. She's been here for me when my 'friends' said nasty things to me, did bad things to me, were just bad individuals in general... It's not fair to parents who really try their best and want to love their children with their whole hearts to say that they're all evil and all they do is screw their children over. Granted I have been treated like shit from my father my entire life. But that doesn't mean anything. There are good parents out there. With good intentions. They're not all evil.

Double post merged ~ Mike/ImCoolBeans

[xmojox]

Excuse me? I have a 14 year old child talking to me like an adult.
I do not have any issues with trust or intimacy as I have a very stable, trusting relationship with my fiancé, my rather large group of friends and many other people. I have father-figures and mother-figures. Just as far as I'm concerned - no mum or dad/mother or father.

Congratulations on having a good, trusting relationship with your parents.
Just realise that talking to somebody who is almost an adult sounds rather rude and could easily piss off the wrong person if you're not careful. Okay?
Have a nice day, kid.

Thanks, you too. :) And I'm glad you're in such an amazing place in your life.

I was going to write a novel on that, but decided it wasn't worth my time. I truly appreciate your comment and thanks for standing up for me Cole. Have a good one.

Anytime, Abby. You too :)

Double post merged ~ Mike/ImCoolBeans

[Mirage]

Excuse me? I have a 14 year old child talking to me like an adult.
I do not have any issues with trust or intimacy as I have a very stable, trusting relationship with my fiancé, my rather large group of friends and many other people. I have father-figures and mother-figures. Just as far as I'm concerned - no mum or dad/mother or father.

Congratulations on having a good, trusting relationship with your parents.
Just realise that talking to somebody who is almost an adult sounds rather rude and could easily piss off the wrong person if you're not careful. Okay?
Have a nice day, kid.

Settle down, this forum is meant to be friendly. If you can't even debate politely then this thread will be locked.

[Syvelocin]

Not really sure. I love my mum to death but our personalities can clash sometimes. My stepdad is the most fun to hang out with but only if he's putting in the effort.

I'd hate to really choose between them, but honestly I think my mum deserves the title just cause she was all I had for half my life. Of course, I can talk to her like I never could my dad, and our relationship now is something many people never achieve with their parents.

And yeah, I've always clung more to mother figures in my life than the father figures.

[Leon03]

It's reallly hard to decide.
It used to be my mom when I was little. But it's my dad now. I feel like growing whenever I ask him for advice and anything. He is not easy to debate with but his arguments are convincing. Yet he allows mistakes and is always supportive with a right answer when it comes to boy problems.

Excuse me? I have a 14 year old child talking to me like an adult.
Just realise that talking to somebody who is almost an adult sounds rather rude and could easily piss off the wrong person if you're not careful. Okay?
Have a nice day, kid.
Sorry, as I am even younger :). But do I get it right that it was 'the adult' who didn't get the question in the first place?
This had been doing it for an answer :):
Just as far as I'm concerned - no mum or dad/mother or father.

[joeyboy24]

mum ive always been closer to my mum but i really like my dad to but i prefer mum this is because my dad has been away alot so i gess thats why

[Jinxxy]

[/QUOTE]But do I get it right that it was 'the adult' who didn't get the question in the first place?[/QUOTE]

I did understand the question, and I gave my answer. The question wasn't "Mum or Dad? (But no people who don't like their parents can comment because your opinion doesn't count)", therefore I had every right to comment with my opinion on this post.

What's with all these children arguing with me over my opinion and my hatred for my horrible parents? Jeez.
So much for joining a non-judgemental teen website ¬__¬

Oh, and just to clarify (because somebody's tried to give me enough bad reputation to get me banned) - as far as I'm concerned, where I'm from, you're considered a young adult when you're 16. I'm now 17.
I have every right to be on this website, so stop trying to give me points to ban me.

Please don't double post. -StoppingTime

[StoppingTime]

Oh, and just to clarify (because somebody's tried to give me enough bad reputation to get me banned) - as far as I'm concerned, where I'm from, you're considered a young adult when you're 16. I'm now 17.
I have every right to be on this website, so stop trying to give me points to ban me.

But do I get it right that it was 'the adult' who didn't get the question in the first place?

I did understand the question, and I gave my answer. The question wasn't "Mum or Dad? (But no people who don't like their parents can comment because your opinion doesn't count)", therefore I had every right to comment with my opinion on this post.

What's with all these children arguing with me over my opinion and my hatred for my horrible parents? Jeez.
So much for joining a non-judgemental teen website ¬__¬

Age is meaningless here. You are no better than anyone just because you're older - that makes absolutely no sense. You're using age as the only argument you have against people because instead of discussing their ideas, you're discussing them specifically, and this is certainly not tolerated here.
If you weren't judging others by their age, then I can bet you others wouldn't judge you by how you talk to them. Regardless, this thread is now closed because of the immaturity you have displayed in it.

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