Asexuality?

[WalkingOnDisaster]

I read a bunch of sources and have come to the conclusion that I might be asexual. I still like a single guy. But I never had any crushes on anyone, girls included, my entire life. Even with my boyfriend, I don't really have an attraction to sex or fulfilling any sexual desires.
I am afraid that one day it'll irritate or otherwise turn off my boyfriend. Where I do like him, we're more like buddies than bf-gf at the moment, and I want him to be happy.
Is this asexuality or just being straight but picky?
Any help is much appreciated and very welcome......

[Gandalf]

I read a bunch of sources and have come to the conclusion that I might be asexual. I still like a single guy. But I never had any crushes on anyone, girls included, my entire life. Even with my boyfriend, I don't really have an attraction to sex or fulfilling any sexual desires.
I am afraid that one day it'll irritate or otherwise turn off my boyfriend. Where I do like him, we're more like buddies than bf-gf at the moment, and I want him to be happy.
Is this asexuality or just being straight but picky?
Any help is much appreciated and very welcome......

I am no expert on asexuality, all I know is that you should just do (or not do) what seems true and healthy for you.

With regard to your boyfriend, would it be worth being honest with him and maybe he would support you? If you are happy as you are without sex then this shouldn't phase him.

I don't think you're being picky, I just wouldn't rush to label yourself.

~Ben

[AbbaZabba]

I have never heard of it before, but just read about it on wikipedia. The only advice I am going say is about your relationship. I think it is something you two need to work on and have the conversations on. As for saying your relationship is more like buddies, I see nothing wrong with that. My BF was my best friend since age 6 and we are now in a relationship. Yes we were just kids, but I look at our relationship as something that took 8 years of being buddies, to turn into a relationship. Good luck and I haven't the clue on asexuality.

[HumbleMuffin]

Sex isn't required for a relationship, and there are many asexual couples! I'm not sure how it works if one of the partners is sexual, though.

You could be asexual and -romantic. If you don't know, there's more to sexuality than.. sexuality. Some people have separate romantic attraction than they do sexual attraction. Usually these go by the same prefixes as sexualities, such as heteroromantic, homoromantic, biromantic, etc.

Make sure you don't lock yourself in a box by choosing words to describe yourself, though! Words only tell part of who you are, and you can always change.