for people who used to be "curious"

[Troy35216]

I didn't want to put this in the sexuality forum cuz i though only gay/bi/lesbian/etc. would answer it and I also want straight input. another thread made me think of this question for all the older people who have said they are "curious". It doesn't seem to me that you can call yourself curious forever. I mean I understand why you say it now. and I understand that it can be a legit description for a long time, like years even. But when and how does it reach the point where you either say, "Well, I got that out of my system and now I know I'm straight." Or "Well now that i satisfied my curiosity I can say for sure that I am bi/gay/lesbian/whatever."
when did you stop wondering? was it a gradual thing or was it Aha! Now I know! or what? And when you were no longer curious was it a relief to know?

edit: oh and i'm not asking for advice on figuring stuff out for myself. I do not have any curiosity that I am trying to figure out or anything. The whole "curious" thing confuses me cuz i guess i skipped that part. I am "curious" about when curious people decided they aren't curious anymore :P thanks in advance for answering cuz i know this isn't something you just do in 3 seconds and then move on to the next post.

[matty123]

When I started puberty around twelve or thirteen, I really was girl crazy. Went out and fooled around with a lot of girls. Around 14 or 15 I wondered what it would be like to be with a guy. Messed with a few guys in school and thought it was fun but not something I thought would last. I guess I was 80/20 girls in high school and now about 80/20 guys in college. Feelings for guys and girls may change as you get older, but I think of it this way -

sexual feelings and emotional feelings kinda help you decide. Wanting your dick sucked by a guy or girl is physical. If you have feelings and could see yourself having feelings for or being in a relationship with a guy or girl would be the emotional.

If you feel that you could develop feelings for a girl and not with a guy then you would be considered straight.

If you feel that you could develop feelings for a guy and not with a girl then you would be considered gay.

If you feel that you could develop feelings for a girl and and with a guy then you would be considered straight.

gay or straight is not just about sex and what feels good to you right now. Your hormones and curiosity are controlling a lot of things as you go through puberty.

Not that puberty is finished for me I find myself more attracted to guys and seek out relationships and sex less and less with girls. I still find girls attractive but do pick a guy over a girl when the opportunity arises. Not real happy about that, but that's the way it is for me. The curiosity phase is gone and I've come out the other side really like being with guys better. Don't know if my feeling will stay the same or just go all the way toward guys as I get older. I am what I am I guess.

[anyone50]

I take it your mainly talking about sexual curiosity and I think that starts the day your born if not before in the womb and it's an ongoing part of our lives. The thing that does change is what your curious about and once thats satisfied you move on to the next issue you are curious about

An example: when your very young you become curious about your own body and once you have explored this your curiosity lessens and you find something new to explore such as the oppisite sex. This is the one that takes more time and eventually you focus your Curiosities on specific areas of sexuality.

As far as I can tell this process continues until we die becuase their will always be something new to be curious about. Incedently I belive this process is the same for different areas of our life and it's the driving force that makes it possible for the vast advancement of technology in science, medicine and just about any other industry you can think of.

[Troy35216]

I take it your mainly talking about sexual curiosity and I think that starts the day your born if not before in the womb and it's an ongoing part of our lives. The thing that does change is what your curious about and once thats satisfied you move on to the next issue you are curious about

An example: when your very young you become curious about your own body and once you have explored this your curiosity lessens and you find something new to explore such as the oppisite sex. This is the one that takes more time and eventually you focus your Curiosities on specific areas of sexuality.

As far as I can tell this process continues until we die becuase their will always be something new to be curious about. Incedently I belive this process is the same for different areas of our life and it's the driving force that makes it possible for the vast advancement of technology in science, medicine and just about any other industry you can think of.

no i'm not talking about being curious about sexual stuff and being curious your whole life. I'm talking about when people say they are straight but curious or that they are bi-curious. eventually do they satisfy the curiosity and say "i'm straight" or "i'm bi" or "I'm something else totally different". it's not a generic thing that is true of everyone or else everyone would be saying they are straight but curious or bi curious and some people know they are straight or bi or gay or whatever without being curious about anything. i'm not trying to say anything is wrong with being curious or not curious i'm just trying to understand when the curious people realize they can take the word curious off their description cuz they've figured it out one way or the other. I'm not trying to get all philosophical about advancements in science and curing cancer and stuff. I just wanna know when ppl decide, "hey i thot maybe i was into guys but i guess not." or "how about that it turns out I'm bi." or whatever

[anyone50]

no i'm not talking about being curious about sexual stuff and being curious your whole life. I'm talking about when people say they are straight but curious or that they are bi-curious. eventually do they satisfy the curiosity and say "i'm straight" or "i'm bi" or "I'm something else totally different". it's not a generic thing that is true of everyone or else everyone would be saying they are straight but curious or bi curious and some people know they are straight or bi or gay or whatever without being curious about anything. i'm not trying to say anything is wrong with being curious or not curious i'm just trying to understand when the curious people realize they can take the word curious off their description cuz they've figured it out one way or the other. I'm not trying to get all philosophical about advancements in science and curing cancer and stuff. I just wanna know when ppl decide, "hey i thot maybe i was into guys but i guess not." or "how about that it turns out I'm bi." or whatever

Well I called myself Bi curious up until last summer and for me all that meant was I was curious what it would be like to be with anopther girl even though I perfer stright sex. After I had my first expereince with another girl I decided it was ok and would do it again sometime so I guess that makes me bi since I like sex with both girls and my bf. So in that sense i guess your curious until you experience it. I'm sure everyone has there own definition but thats how I see it

[xmojox]

I think maybe a lot of people use the word curious because the thought of being bisexual scares them a little.

[denisss]

why should you ever reach such point? just because we invented bombs, planes and computers we are not that different from animals - cos we've got animal instincts still. that's what "being curious" means. it a calling from animal inside us who doesnt give a damn about civilization and drives us to do what it wants.

and I'm quite okay with that.