Am I being stupid?

[Harry Smith]

Hey guys, just wanted some advice for my lovely life. My best mate as I would probaly describe him only ever talks to me when he wants advice or when he's feeling like shit. For example he'll text me and moan about this girl he has been chasing for the last 8 months. I'll talk to him about it and everything appears good, we'll stay up late just texting about it. But then whenever I seem to try and talk to him he is always offish and just replies with a couple word answers. I've tried talking to him about literally everything but I still struggle to get much out of him.

When we're at school he will hardly make the effort to ever talk to me even if we're sitting next to each other. And why I do mention something he just gives me some half ass response. However if I have to tell hims something that this girl said to me about him he'll be talking to me about it for the whole day. It just feels like a one way street.

The worse thing about it is that I really like him, like when he does talk to me it's really relaxed and he is generally funny but its so rare

[Gandalf]

Hey guys, just wanted some advice for my lovely life. My best mate as I would probaly describe him only ever talks to me when he wants advice or when he's feeling like shit. For example he'll text me and moan about this girl he has been chasing for the last 8 months. I'll talk to him about it and everything appears good, we'll stay up late just texting about it. But then whenever I seem to try and talk to him he is always offish and just replies with a couple word answers. I've tried talking to him about literally everything but I still struggle to get much out of him.

When we're at school he will hardly make the effort to ever talk to me even if we're sitting next to each other. And why I do mention something he just gives me some half ass response. However if I have to tell hims something that this girl said to me about him he'll be talking to me about it for the whole day. It just feels like a one way street.

The worse thing about it is that I really like him, like when he does talk to me it's really relaxed and he is generally funny but its so rare

I'd focus on telling him how you feel about the one way friendship, you need to be completely honest about it, but in a sensitive way. Make it clear to him that he is still a good friend.

I don't think there is anything else you really could do to be honest. Just hope he takes your honesty in a positive manner, I don't think it's worth falling out over.

Let us know if you need anything else :)
~Ben.

[Harry Smith]

Thanks mate

[Pierce]

I was in a friendship like this, and I was in your position. It seems like he just needs someone to vent his problems to and you're kind enough to listen. I'm honestly not sure what you should do. If the friendship is not that important to you, you can take a chance and reply to his problems as he does for you. It might show him that it sucks to not have your problems listen to. Another thing you can do is midway through talking about his problem connect it to a problem your having and try talking about that. It's clear that he can talk at that moment and because he messaged you about his problem open to talk. See if he tries to help you with your problem. Hope this helps and I didn't go off on a rant that makes no sense. Best of Luck! Feel free to message me any time!