My mom has anorexia

[LolliManley]

My mom has been anorexic for 30 years now, and she has never recovered.
She has problems with her heart, organs in general and her bones.

And I feel like I am slowly going down that road too... I'm 14, on the borderline of underweight, but I feel fat all the time. I don't restrict or binge or throw up, I have been there though, last summer. I don't know what to do, or how to love myself... people say to tell yourself that you look great, but I just have this voice in the back of my head saying "who are you kidding? you're fat!"

This is not good obviously, but I want to get into modelling in a few years and I can't if I feel about myself in this way.

I really need help, and I CANNOT tell my mom about it, it would kill her.

Please help! :(

[anyone50]

I'm so sorry to hear about your moms condition and hope she finds a way to get help so she will be around to see you grow up. As for your problem we learn from our parents and emulate them as we grow up and thats why you are on the borderline but now your old enough to actually know whats going on see where the path leads to by seeing your mom in this condition and want to do something about it.

Most people can't cope with this problem on their own and recovery is seldom accomplished without outside help. While a lot of people say working on boosting your self image is the key to loving yourself more there is a medical reason for some to see an image in the mirror that isn't realistic and has to do with how the brain. This condition has been know to be transfered from parent to child in some cases and this maybe whats going on with you and your mom.

You say you can't tell your mom it would kill her but have you ever thought that if she knew you were going thru the same thing she has battled for years it might want her to get help for the both of you. I would give this some thought.

[Eth_94123]

I was an anorexic but my mum managed to help to to recover and get better!

[rocketsheep]

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