Mindboggling!

[Disasterology]

This whole thing is literally what the title says "mindboggling"! I do not know what he's trying to convey, feelings for me? or nothing..So if anyone can help, I'd appreciate it!

So starting 10th grade I started talking more to an aquaintance, and now we're friends. When his grandfather died I tried cheering him up to the best of my ability, and I just felt like telling him that I cut (why would I tell him?.. I felt like I could without being judged),and apprently he knew all along. Well he said thats the reason he's always soo close to me and stuff, and trying to make me feel better. Soo now his "hugs" practically choke me out or squish me to death, he tries to get me to hold his hand, apprently he's told my bestfriend that I look pretty or cute, and he keeps saying that he's going to kiss me, and has tried, and almost succeeded by just kissing the corner of my lips...but my question is why, I have no idea how thats suppose to make me feel better. And I've always thought he was cute, and now that little attraction has become a major crush! >.< cus he's just..I don't even know how to explain it, I like everything about him, and knowing that he personally understands my selfharm issue makes me feel comfortable around him, and my bestfriend keeps saying I like him, or that he likes me, but I deny it, cus I do not like letting people know who I like, even if they are my closest friend, and I don't want to get my hopes up for nothing. But this new thing with him trying to full on kiss me, is just messing with my head!...I don't know if he actually likes me or just doing what he does for no reason.

[anyone50]

To begin with it sounds like he really likes you so mabe you should accept that at face value. On the other side I see you have trust issues and don't want to be hurt but there are no Guarantees in life or relationships. You need to trust the present and enjoy the relationship for as long as it works for the both of you. I think a good definition of true love is when a person knows the worst things about you and accepts them and loves you as if your perfect. From your post this certainly sounds like your guy.

As for the kiss I wouldn't read too much into it.

[Gandalf]

This while thing is literally what the title says "mindboggling"! I do not know what he's trying to convey, feelings for me? or nothing..So if anyone can help, I'd appreciate it!

So starting 10th grade I started talking more to an aquaintance, and now we're friends. When his grandfather died I tried cheering him up to the best of my ability, and I just felt like telling him that I cut (why would I tell him?.. I felt like I could without being judged),and apprently he knew all along. Well he said thats the reason he's always soo close to me and stuff, and trying to make me feel better. Soo now his "hugs" practically choke me out or squish me to death, he tries to get me to hold his hand, apprently he's told my bestfriend that I look pretty or cute, and he keeps saying that he's going to kiss me, and has tried, and almost succeeded by just kissing the corner of my lips...but my question is why, I have no idea how thats suppose to make me feel better. And I've always thought he was cute, and now that little attraction has become a major crush! >.< cus he's just..I don't even know how to explain it, I like everything about him, and knowing that he personally understands my selfharm issue makes me feel comfortable around him, and my bestfriend keeps saying I like him, or that he likes me, but I deny it, cus I do not like letting people know who I like, even if they are my closest friend, and I don't want to get my hopes up for nothing. But this new thing with him trying to full on kiss me, is just messing with my head!...I don't know if he actually likes me or just doing what he does for no reason.

He could just be trying to say he likes you, but then again he should respect you boundaries, you need to tell him that it's making you uncomfortable no matter why he's doing it. EDITED Perhaps he'll act more appropriately.

If you are still confused by his actions you need to ask him, and judge whether he is being completely honest or not. Us guys can be jerks sometimes so if you then suspect he's lying I'd back off, and make it clear you're not interested.

To remind you, you are in control of what you choose to do and he needs to respect that. -Regardless of the reason he has for behaving this way.

~Ben

[AbbaZabba]

To begin with it sounds like he really likes you so mabe you should accept that at face value. On the other side I see you have trust issues and don't want to be hurt but there are no Guarantees in life or relationships. You need to trust the present and enjoy the relationship for as long as it works for the both of you. I think a good definition of true love is when a person knows the worst things about you and accepts them and loves you as if your perfect. From your post this certainly sounds like your guy.

As for the kiss I wouldn't read too much into it.

I couldn't have said it better, so this is pretty much my opinion also.

[Disasterology]

Well thanks for the advice, thing is I'm not in a relationship, but I like him. Not that I wouldn't want him to kiss me, I just dont want him to kiss me if it won't mean anything.

[Disasterology]

To begin with it sounds like he really likes you so mabe you should accept that at face value. On the other side I see you have trust issues and don't want to be hurt but there are no Guarantees in life or relationships. You need to trust the present and enjoy the relationship for as long as it works for the both of you. I think a good definition of true love is when a person knows the worst things about you and accepts them and loves you as if your perfect. From your post this certainly sounds like your guy.

As for the kiss I wouldn't read too much into it.

And that's why I like him >.< even though he knows the problems I have he doesn't treat me differently.