could use some advice from girls...boys too though.

[xmojox]

I've been with my girlfriend for like 8 months now and its awesome except for one tiny thing. She honestly believes that since I'm with her I shouldn't need to masturbate. Ever. I tried explaining to her that I'm still gonna need to jack it but she won't budge. How do I explain it to her? Answers from girls would really be appreciated. Thanks.

[Troy35216]

why are you reporting in to her when you jerk off? why do you need her permission to do it? you've already explained it to her. she just doesn't like the explanation. the only other thing i would do is make sure she knows it doesn't mean you don't like her or are not satisfied by her and so on. other than that it's none of her business if you jerk it, or when you jerk it.

[xmojox]

why are you reporting in to her when you jerk off?


It's not as much me reporting in as it is her askin. It honestly seems to hurt her feelings and I don't understand why.

[Troy35216]

she might think your doing it cuz you aren't satisfied with her. all you can do is tell her that is not the reason. other than that she needs to get over it cuz from i read she will never find a bf who will stop jerking off just cuz she is dating him.

[johnsmith1]

Males will continue to do it even when thet are married apparently. If it bothers her that much, just keep it private.

[rubyduby]

Personally, I think everyone needs to masturbate no matter if your in a relationship or not.

[Sean4U]

why are you reporting in to her when you jerk off? why do you need her permission to do it? you've already explained it to her. she just doesn't like the explanation. the only other thing i would do is make sure she knows it doesn't mean you don't like her or are not satisfied by her and so on. other than that it's none of her business if you jerk it, or when you jerk it.

Perfectly put Troy, OP it is your body and your penis, and what you do with it when NOT with her like that is not really in need of permission....my dad jacks off and has been married for 22 years....masturbation is a lifetime practice for almost all guys AND girls I imagine

[anyone50]

I agree with the majority here about keeping it to yourself but there are a few points you left out of your post that would be helpful in giving you good advise. First off is your relationship with this girl sexual? It's not right for her to demand you don't masturbate if she's not doing anything to accomadate you and your needs. If there is sex involved does she understand that your need for release has nothing to do with her and her abilities to satisfy you?

If on the other hand she feels your masturbation interferes with your desire to please her sexually or that your not wanting sex when she wants because you just masturbated before you see her she may have a gripe. It sounds like this is something you guys are going to have to come to gripes with becuse now that the topic is out in the open she's always going to wonder even if you tell her your not. Just curious does she tell you that she never masturbates since you been going out?

[xmojox]

I agree with the majority here about keeping it to yourself but there are a few points you left out of your post that would be helpful in giving you good advise. First off is your relationship with this girl sexual? It's not right for her to demand you don't masturbate if she's not doing anything to accomadate you and your needs. If there is sex involved does she understand that your need for release has nothing to do with her and her abilities to satisfy you?

If on the other hand she feels your masturbation interferes with your desire to please her sexually or that your not wanting sex when she wants because you just masturbated before you see her she may have a gripe. It sounds like this is something you guys are going to have to come to gripes with becuse now that the topic is out in the open she's always going to wonder even if you tell her your not. Just curious does she tell you that she never masturbates since you been going out?

Our relationship has been sexual for about 5 months. How I can get her to understand that is kinda the question I'm asking. :what: As I said earlier, it isn't a matter of me telling. She asks. The alternative would be for me to lie, and I'm not comfortable doing that. And, yeah, she says that she doesn't masturbate. And me wanting sex is definitely not an issue.

[anyone50]

Our relationship has been sexual for about 5 months. How I can get her to understand that is kinda the question I'm asking. :what: As I said earlier, it isn't a matter of me telling. She asks. The alternative would be for me to lie, and I'm not comfortable doing that. And, yeah, she says that she doesn't masturbate. And me wanting sex is definitely not an issue.

I know this is not what you want to hear but I don't think there is a way to resolve this with this girl and I only say this because if you have already told her that your masturbation practices have nothing to do with her and she still insist that you should be satisfied sexually with her It's all on her.

Somewhere she has gotten the idea proably from parents or at least thru her upbringing that if you have sex with a guy he dosn't or shouldn't need to masturbate and your not going to change that mindset over night.

As a last resort you could try re-educating her by giving her a book that explains why guys masturbate even though they are in a relationship. You can find this type of book at most major bookstores under self help and relationship sections. I have read that this was very common with women a couple generations ago around the 60's and 70's of the last century

[xmojox]

I know this is not what you want to hear but I don't think there is a way to resolve this with this girl and I only say this because if you have already told her that your masturbation practices have nothing to do with her and she still insist that you should be satisfied sexually with her It's all on her.

Somewhere she has gotten the idea proably from parents or at least thru her upbringing that if you have sex with a guy he dosn't or shouldn't need to masturbate and your not going to change that mindset over night.

As a last resort you could try re-educating her by giving her a book that explains why guys masturbate even though they are in a relationship. You can find this type of book at most major bookstores under self help and relationship sections. I have read that this was very common with women a couple generations ago around the 60's and 70's of the last century

Thanks muchly :) I'll go book shopping today.

[PinkFloyd]

Maybe you shouldn't tell her. I mean make sure you don't get caught thoguh because she will get pretty mad I'm guessing. To tell you the truth, I have been sexually active with the same girl for over a year right now so I rarely jack off. It was an adjustment at first, but Sex in my opinion is a hundred times better than masturbation, BUT I still sometimes do it occationally. Everyone does. so yeah, just don't tell her.

[xmojox]

Maybe you shouldn't tell her. I mean make sure you don't get caught thoguh because she will get pretty mad I'm guessing. To tell you the truth, I have been sexually active with the same girl for over a year right now so I rarely jack off. It was an adjustment at first, but Sex in my opinion is a hundred times better than masturbation, BUT I still sometimes do it occationally. Everyone does. so yeah, just don't tell her.

When she asks, and, believe me, she does ask, the only way to not tell her would be to outright lie, and I won't do that. I'll just have to try re-educating her. Sex is awesome, I agree, but sometimes a guy just has to take things in hand, so to speak.

I really do appreciate the responses I've gotten and I thank you all.

[PinkFloyd]

When she asks, and, believe me, she does ask, the only way to not tell her would be to outright lie, and I won't do that. I'll just have to try re-educating her. Sex is awesome, I agree, but sometimes a guy just has to take things in hand, so to speak.

I really do appreciate the responses I've gotten and I thank you all.

no problem

[Nellerin]

I've been with my girlfriend for like 8 months now and its awesome except for one tiny thing. She honestly believes that since I'm with her I shouldn't need to masturbate. Ever. I tried explaining to her that I'm still gonna need to jack it but she won't budge. How do I explain it to her? Answers from girls would really be appreciated. Thanks.

Just do not tell her about it, it is not like she will necessarily know if you masturbate or not.

[Body odah Man]

I've been with my girlfriend for like 8 months now and its awesome except for one tiny thing. She honestly believes that since I'm with her I shouldn't need to masturbate. Ever. I tried explaining to her that I'm still gonna need to jack it but she won't budge. How do I explain it to her? Answers from girls would really be appreciated. Thanks.

I'd just not let her know. She doesn't need to know every time you j/o does she? ;)

[Harley Quinn]

This is over a year old, don't bump old threads. :locked: