I am pretty sure I am Bi

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

I have thought about this for awhile, and I think I have come to a conclusion. I could easily be drawn into an emotional and sexual relationship with a guy(s). So, I think I can resonably conclude that I am bi. What are everyones thoughts on this? Am I perhaps mistaken?

[Sapphire]

We can't tell you whether you really are bisexual. Only time will tell. So just do your thing and you will know for definite given time.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

I know you cant tell me, I was just hoping for opinions...

[Sapphire]

There is nothing in your post to suggest that you are not bisexual.
With time and experience it will become clear to you.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

I love your philisophical answers:P

[Sapphire]

Lol I am in a bit of a philosophical mood tbh. But it is true. Isn't it?

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

Yes, I guess It Is:D

[Bobby]

Why label yourself? What will it accomplish but stereotypes? And anyways, you can't be 100% sure of your sexuality. We had this one neighbor, he was married for 16 years to a woman. He got divorced, had another girlfriend, then became life partners with a guy. This guy is now 43.

[R_master]

the same thing goes for all posts on questioning ones orientation. only you can classify your own sexuality. no one else, especially from behind a computer screen can tell you if your gay, straight or bi

really its all about your fantasies, feelings and physical desire.

it's not a conscious choice so the answer is surprisingly easy to find(some may disagree)
although it often takes time to accept these things.

so if you want a definitive answer just ask yourself :)

[TakenAway--x]

I'm pretty sure it has all been said.

I, however, do not believe that one can be bisexual. I believe you are either drawn to one sex or the other.

The emo children have ruined the possibility for me.

But if you honestly feel that you are attracted to both sexes, who is to tell you that you are not? Be careful with your decision, though. You may end up realizing that it isn't the way that you think it is.

There are people out there who are sure of their attraction, and then they take it back. Think it through. It takes a while.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

Thanks for the thoughts. Emo children?:confused:

[uepilot]

I didn't know at first. It started out my friend told be he was bi. I was like "no way!" The rest of the day I was really quiet. I had always been kind of against homosexuality, but after he told me that I was really a mess of emotions. My thoughts were, "Ew that's disgusting" and then "I want to spend more time with this guy" but then "What the hell is wrong with you?" I was really confused. I took a few months to think about it and figure myself out better. It was really wierd, just like that one incident had changed my whole perspective on life. I no longer had anything against gays. I started being more social and accepting of people. Before long, I had reached the conclusion that I was bi. I wasn't doing it to fit in or anything, although from this hastily written story it may seem like it. I had just dropped it, then when the time came for me to question myself, I figured out that I really do like guys and girls. My conclusion is, try not to think about it too much. When the time is right for you to find out, you will know. If that makes any sense at all, I'm glad I helped. I'm really tired right now and can't really think much.

And just wait until you have your first bisexual experience ;)
HINT: To me, guys are way better kissers than girls.

[Sapphire]

You have a good point here Uepilot but please use the "edit" feature next time instead of double posting.

[TakenAway--x]

Thanks for the thoughts. Emo children?:confused:

Bisexuality has become a bit of a trend among the emo/scene kids, if you haven't noticed. It just makes things a bit hard to believe.

But no problem.

[Sapphire]

Bisexuality has become a bit of a trend among the emo/scene kids, if you haven't noticed. It just makes things a bit hard to believe.

But no problem.

Maybe try to open your mind a bit more. Just because one group seem to "follow" it like a trend does not mean that it does not exist or anything.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

lol, I never noticed that trend :/

[Sapphire]

Neither have I tbh. But supposing its happening, why does she use that as justification for the non-existance of bisexuality? Where is the logic?

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

There is none :/

[Hyper]

Lol finally someone says out one of my ''thoughts''....

However mine is a bit different and I can see a huge fight escalading from this and millions of infractions to anybody who disagrees with the ''its okey/normal/natural to be bi etc'' side.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

lol, millions fo infractions? please, give me your opinion. If you dont want to post it, PM it to me, I wanna see it!:D

[TakenAway--x]

Open my mind a bit more, eh? I was stating my opinion, and in fact, I never said that it definitely did not exist.

Perhaps you should go back and reread my previous statement more carefully. I would think that someone with a tad bit of intelligence would have the sense enough to do that. Where is the logic in putting words into someone's statement?

That's right. There is none.

Studies have shown that most people who claim to be bisexual lean more towards one sex rather than equally towards both sexes. Some also say that their attraction towards the same sex happens only during periods of arousal.

It may exist, but the possibility is still questionable.

[Maverick]

However mine is a bit different and I can see a huge fight escalading from this and millions of infractions to anybody who disagrees with the ''its okey/normal/natural to be bi etc'' side.
No, don't feel that way. You're free to share your opinion regaurdless of what the masses feel as long as its done in a constructive and respectful way.

[Sapphire]

Open my mind a bit more, eh? I was stating my opinion, and in fact, I never said that it definitely did not exist.

Perhaps you should go back and reread my previous statement more carefully. I would think that someone with a tad bit of intelligence would have the sense enough to do that. Where is the logic in putting words into someone's statement?

That's right. There is none.

Studies have shown that most people who claim to be bisexual lean more towards one sex rather than equally towards both sexes. Some also say that their attraction towards the same sex happens only during periods of arousal.

It may exist, but the possibility is still questionable.

You are the one that needs to learn to read and don't insult my intelligence. I did not put words in your mouth, I never claimed that you had said something which you never did. I merely reworded and challenged your opinion. If you are not mature enough to know the difference then you should go back to school to learn the basics of reading.

You say that you doubt the existence of bisexuality which is what I am challenging. It is well known that bisexuals lean more towards one sex or the other. But just because one has a preference (however slight) to one gender over the other does not mean that it is all a farce.

[RaisingSand]

There's nothing wrong with being bisexual, but feelings about your sexuality and sexual impulses can all become a bit muddled during your teenage years what with hormones and all, so all you can really do is sit back and wait for everything to sort itself out. :)

[TakenAway--x]

Sweetie, I learned to read in elementary school. Maybe it is you who did not learn to do so?

Just because one group seem to "follow" it like a trend does not mean that it does not exist or anything.

My statement did not clearly come out and say that bisexuality definitely did not exist. I said that I believe that one is either attracted to one gender or the other. It is merely an idea.

I also said, "But if you honestly feel that you are attracted to both sexes, who is to tell you that you are not?"

Not I or anyone else can tell him personally who he is or is not attracted to. Only he can know. I only stated my opinion, and I have a personal right to do that.

Perhaps your mind should open a bit more and learn to accept that there are people out there who have different opinions than your own.

[Sapphire]

I was challenging your way of thinking. I was not putting things in your mouth. End of.

[TakenAway--x]

Obviously you were not putting things into my mouth. If that were true, this would not be the internet.

You made it out to be as if I had said there was a definite chance of its non-existence, which I did not do. My statement obviously showed that I am open to the possibility that it does, but that I do believe otherwise.

If you had been challenging my way of thinking, you would have gone about it a different way. In any case, it doesn't really matter, seeing as I have supported my opinions, and I do not need to justify them any further.

[Sapphire]

I do hope you aren'tlike this is real life. Nobody likes a smart arse who tlks about things they do not understand.

[Maverick]

This thread has gone off-topic enough. Locking.

[Kiros]

Yes, it's clear that it's gone off topic, but I'd like to point something out.

Carole, it seems like you are merely bashing TakenAway (*name's Sam). Her points are backed up. I'd like to reopen this thread because of that - there was no reason for this argument to be started. On another note, Carole, I know that I wouldn't appreciate it if someone spoke about my words in a thread as if I did not have comprehension of what I said, so my bet is that Sam doesn't appreciate that either.

[REOPENED]

[TakenAway--x]

Yes, I am an asshole in real life.

Obviously, I do understand it, otherwise, I would not have backed up my own statements multiple times. I do not speak of things that I don't understand.

You are angry because you cannot accept that people do not always believe the same way that you do. Maybe you don't understand that, or must I clarify it for you?

Do not be so quick to deem me as closed-minded, when it is obvious that the hypocrite is you.

[Sapphire]

I'm a hypocrite for talking about my own sexuality?! HA! Good luck with that claim.

Oh and btw where exactly did you back your opinions up? I mean with something other than your opinion.

[Maverick]

This forum is for Help and Advice. The current discussion has nothing to do with the contrary. An argument between two people is not helping the OP and it needs to stop.

[Kiros]

Yeah, that's clear... nevermind.