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[nothere12345678]

I'm thinking about coming out as bi at school but most of my friends are seriously homophobic. I don't know if I should keep it hidden or tell them anyway. Please help!

[Trinity_15]

It is honestly up to you. Do you feel like it is time to let people know? If they tease you or are mean then they're not your friends. Your friends should accept you. And if they think you might try something with them just tell them that they are not your type. Hope it goes well :)

[Harley Quinn]

Do what you're comfortable with and know that you can handle, there's no point in coming out if you know you won't be able to handle negativity. It practically happened to everyone. You have to do it when you know the time is right personally, and maybe it would be easier and best to come out to individuals rather than to everyone. One step at a time is always easy, slowly slowly catchy monkey.

[Pierce]

If your friends are homophobic I would strongly advise for you to stay closeted at the moment. I know being in the closet can be tough but it's better then coming out of the closet and finding yourself surrounded by homophobes. Hang in there, also maybe try to find some new friends. Not saying loose your old friends but find some new friends who would accept the real you. Your brave to consider coming out surrounded by homophobes, I'm still closeted and all my friends are okay with homosexuality and support gay marriage. Again I advise you to stay closeted for the time being. Hang in there and best of luck!

[Mebenick]

I agree with Pierce. If your friends are homophobic, I think it would be best to stay closeted for now. But if I may give my honest opinion, I don't think those are the kind of friends you want in your life if you have to worry about them not supporting you. In my case, that was the easiest to tell as I knew they loved and supported me. But I wish you the very best of luck with it all and I'm here for you if you ever need to talk. Good luck!

[teen.jpg]

How do they show the fact that they are homophobic? Do they abuse the "f" word? Do they use gay as an insult, or a synonym for stupid?

If so, you may be pleasantly surprised. I had the same fear for my friends, and when I told them I was bi, I got the most pleasant and nice responses. They are still my friends and nothing has really changed.

If they are a real friend, you should really have no reason to be afraid.

[ItsMyTime2009]

Hi, it's honestly up to you, do what you think will make you happiest. One thing i recommend, tell the person you trust the most first and if it feels okay telling them, well you can start to tell more people. When i first told my friends i was gay, i expected them all to hate me but they didn't, they accepted me for who i am, as i haven't changed and if they are your true friends they should also see it like this. If they don't respect your decision, then they aren't your friends :) Hope everything works out okay! :)

[PinkFloyd]

My advise is to wait until you are out of highschool. I mean I come from a primarily homophobic town too. I have a few gay friends that are open about it that just get bullied non-stop by this group of 10-15 kids. It's awful. My advise is to just wait until you're out of highschool to tell people. That way everyone's a lot more mature. I understand that that is really hard, and I'm sorry for that. If I were you, I would come out to at least your parents and other people really close to you so that you don't feel too alone. If you need anything else, shoot me a message. :)
-Rob

[anyone50]

I agree with Rob High School isn't the best place to come out especially if you know how your friends are. If you really feel strongly about living a more open life as a gay person I would suggest that you do it in a place aside from school and your friends.

My story has simuliaries but different in that when i came out as bisexual I did it away from my school and friends (They still don't know I'm bi and my sexual behavior) I just started hanging out at places and clubs that catered to bi's and gay people and once i get out of HS it will be so much easier. It's your choice but once it's out you can't go back.

[xmojox]

Rob and Anyone have it right, I believe. What do you have to gain by opening yourself up to potential abuse from your friend's? I would, in all seriousness, make some different friends, though, because i wouldn't wanna hang out with ignorant homophobes.