polyamorous relationship. your views

[peaceNlove]

hey:)do any of you guys have any interest in polyamorous relationships? if you do can you explain your feelings about it? any opinions on it? and if you have been in one can you describe your experience? i just really want to know other teens who feel that they want to be in one or have been in one or are in one. thanks!

[ReginaGeorge]

I personally do not see how they work, but if there people are all aware of the situation and honestly agree with it, and can make it work, then I don't see the problem.

BUT, these relationships aren't a green light for just having lots of benefits, and have the other people belong to you (unless that consented in a bdsm relationship), in a relationship, you need to love that person, or those people.

If you can balance it all okay, I say go for it.

[Pierce]

I don't think they work. In some cases it might work but in most, if not almost all, it doesn't. I have no interest in participating in a polygamous relationship. I think the beauty of long relationships is finding that ONE person you love. If you feel like it works go right ahead. It's just not for me.

[WalkingOnDisaster]

Okay I am gonna seem dumb... What is a polyamorous relationship?

[Swagamemmnon]

Okay I am gonna seem dumb... What is a polyamorous relationship?

Its sort of like you're dating 2 people. It's not like cheating, as all 3 (or more) partners are aware of the situation.

[WalkingOnDisaster]

Its sort of like you're dating 2 people. It's not like cheating, as all 3 (or more) partners are aware of the situation.

Okay. Thanks for the explanation. Never heard of such a thing...

[Elysium]

If people can make it work, I really don't see why not.

[Swagamemmnon]

If people can make it work, I really don't see why not.

Indeed. I don't see problems with them if the people in the relationship really love each other equally. We tend to look at partnerships based on the historical Western view of marriage=two people. Looking at other cultures, however, there have been polyamorous relationships that worked for them.

[AbbaZabba]

Again each to his own, but I don't see how they could work long term and I certainly wouldn't want one.

[Apollo.]

It would not be my thing, I've got my baby and he's plenty for me! Each to their as long as nobody gets hurt and everyone's happy the go for.it!

[teen.jpg]

They can work just a great, or even better, then a "normal" relationship. But, I can see a lot more going wrong in a polyamorous relationship.

[HumbleMuffin]

I certainly have no problem with it, and would be interested in pursuing one. I'd just need to find the right combination of people.

Walking on Disaster: As a bit of clarification, you're not just dating two people who know about it, but rather, you're dating two people who are also dating each other. All parties are in a consensual relationship with each other. Of course, there can be more than three people.

[peaceNlove]

Thanks for the replys guys :) all of your replys were good:) for those of you who see problems with it, what problems are you specifically talking about?

[Wanderer_]

I like what Johnny Depp said about them:
"If you find you love two people choose the second one, if you really loved the first one you wouldn't have fallen for the second"

[LuciferSam]

Its sort of like you're dating 2 people. It's not like cheating, as all 3 (or more) partners are aware of the situation.

Isn't it polygamous? Or is that just for marriage?

[BandedKlepto]

If I were to date someone, and then get involved with the polymorous bs, I would end it out of sheer jealousy. I am a very jealous person sometimes and sharing people is not an option for me. xD

[Swagamemmnon]

Isn't it polygamous? Or is that just for marriage?

It's just for marriage. Polyamorous relationships don't involve marriage.

[peaceNlove]

I like what Johnny Depp said about them:
"If you find you love two people choose the second one, if you really loved the first one you wouldn't have fallen for the second"

wait, so do you mean that johnny depp specifically said this about polyamorous relationships? and, i do like that quote, but the point of a polyamorous relationship is that it's not just one person loving someone and then loving another person, its every person loving each other.

[peaceNlove]

If I were to date someone, and then get involved with the polymorous bs, I would end it out of sheer jealousy. I am a very jealous person sometimes and sharing people is not an option for me. xD

oh yea, you definitely have to be willing to share. lol. but the point is that everyone shares each ohter(if that makes sense). in an emotional way though.

[peaceNlove]

I certainly have no problem with it, and would be interested in pursuing one. I'd just need to find the right combination of people.

Walking on Disaster: As a bit of clarification, you're not just dating two people who know about it, but rather, you're dating two people who are also dating each other. All parties are in a consensual relationship with each other. Of course, there can be more than three people.

yea me too.

[peaceNlove]

They can work just a great, or even better, then a "normal" relationship. But, I can see a lot more going wrong in a polyamorous relationship.

what do you see going wrong?

[Apollo.]

Fuck that! Not my thing at all, I could never share my boy! He's all mine and its staying that way! Saying that if other people like that kind of thing I'd support it as long as they were happy, it's just not for me.

[teen.jpg]

what do you see going wrong?

Jealousy. LOTS of jealousy. If the people in the relationship don't know how to satisfy everyone, it won't work?

[peaceNlove]

Jealousy. LOTS of jealousy. If the people in the relationship don't know how to satisfy everyone, it won't work?

yea, but thats why they have to find people where everyone equally loves each other. it does happen. there just needs to be that connection throughout each other.

[Wanderer_]

wait, so do you mean that johnny depp specifically said this about polyamorous relationships? and, i do like that quote, but the point of a polyamorous relationship is that it's not just one person loving someone and then loving another person, its every person loving each other.

Yes - and IMHO that's wrong, unnatural and usually very biased
How often do u hear of a relationship like that with one woman and two 'husbands' or so

[xmojox]

I like what Johnny Depp said about them:
"If you find you love two people choose the second one, if you really loved the first one you wouldn't have fallen for the second"

Johnny Depp is an amazing actor. Not so sure he's any more qualified to give relationship advice than I am, though. See, by that logic, people would never reconcile after one of them fucked up.

From all I know about them, polyamourous relationships can be really, really good. It just takes the right mix of people with the right mindsets.

[peaceNlove]

Yes - and IMHO that's wrong, unnatural and usually very biased
How often do u hear of a relationship like that with one woman and two 'husbands' or so

i feel like you're still not getting it. And if you think it's wrong, good for you i guess? idk, to me it's not right to make it seem as though someones way of having a relationship is wrong. you wouldn't want someone belittling you're relationship.