everyone's definition of homosexual?

[mynameisjane]

most of the posts in this forum ask "am i homosexual?" and every response is that you have to be sexually and emotionally attracted. i dont entirely understand why that is. webster's dictionary difines it as "of relating to, or marked by sexual interest in the same sex as oneself." every definition online is pretty much the same, i think i found just one that included emotional attraction. so why is everyone using that definition?

if i were sexually attracted to only girls and not guys, but i never feel an emotional attraction to anyone, would i still be straight?

i think people are afraid of being what they dont want to be. why cant it be looked at this way, that if you think you'd be happier in that lifestyle, go for it. if you think you'd have a happier life if youre straight, then be straight.

i've felt sexually attracted to girls before. i just dont think about it entirely because i dont think that lifestyles for me. and i'm just much more attracted to guys. maybe its just the way guys seem to find girl on girl sexy that makes me feel sexy when im thinking of a girl in a sexual way. but i'm not gonna label myself bisexual because i dont want to be.

anyways, i'm confusing myself. i think i just proved my original point wrong haha. i'm not trying to criticize anyone, i'm just meditating out loud.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

I think that being gay is looked down upon by many, and they are all scared about it. I really find that sad, why cant people just have fun regardless of who they are sexually attracted to?

[Sapphire]

The only problem with what you are saying Jane is that you are implying that sexuality is a choice. In no such way is it a choice. Why would people choose to be victims of discrimination and prejudice?

Sexuality and the associated long term relationships demand a desire to have sex and an emotional attachment with the other person. To be in a relationship because you are sexually attracted to them (and nothing else) is a cruel thing to do and the relationship will ultimately break down. The nature of relationships combines love, trust, sexuality and companionship. A relationship cannot last, or be satisfying, if it is based on sexuality alone.

[LateForTheSky]

My definition of homosexuality is when a man and a man or indeed a women and a women love each other both physicaly and emotionaly. It NEEDS to be both, and for your you not to be bisexual you need to feel not emotion (in sexual way) towards women, the odd sexual fantasy is ok tho. You are not gay if you are overly flamboughent this is a stereotype. You could just be metro. (Is that the right term :confused: ) So thats my short definition

[mynameisjane]

i think for most, its not, but i think it is for some. i know i could be emotionally attracted to a girl. its hard to understand how you feel sometimes, ya know? i could be bi if i wanted to be, but i dont want to be so i'm just gonna say i was kidding myself when i thought i might have been emotionally attracted to a girl.

[The Batman]

i think you are what you say you are like if someone says your black you don't have to be black cause they say you are you could just be brown or dark skinned in other words you can only be gay or straight if in your mind and heart you say that you are and also i don't think anyone in the world is completely gay or straight cause there is always an attraction between friends