Shoud I?

[josephdaniel]

Lately I have been thinking about coming out ALOT but I told my self that I would wait untill I am at least 16 to be sure. Several times I gave gotten on face book and almost posted something like incase you didn't notice I am gay but i never actually post it. That is my question do you think that I should just go ahead and post it and get it over with or wait untill I'm older?

[Cognizant]

It's all about motivation, not age. Though perhaps you're waiting because you think you may be too young to know, as the case may be. If you want to, I advise this: Don't think about age, but think about: "are you 100% sure I'd be comfortable telling people?"

[Atonement]

I agree with Pat.

You really need to ask yourself why you want to come out. What is there to gain? Could you openly date someone? Is there someone you want to openly date? Do you feel like you just can't hold it in? Do you feel like you're being pressured to come out?

Ask yourself why you feel the desire to come out then decide if it's worth potential adversity. For example, I grew up in the rural Midwest. For me, I came out right before going to university because during high school there weren't other gay boys to associate with and all I would be doing is welcoming harassment on myself. I don't want you to welcome harassment on yourself but if this is something you feel strongly about, go for it. Just make a pros and cons list.

[josephdaniel]

Well something I forgot to put in my first post is that I am lready out to all my friends at school and that went really well but for some reasion I am terrifyed about telling my famil...

[Pierce]

Well something I forgot to put in my first post is that I am lready out to all my friends at school and that went really well but for some reasion I am terrifyed about telling my famil...

If you just need to come out to your family, I wouldn't do it on Facebook. Tell them in person. I u0nderstand coming out to friends on Facebook but it would be better to come out tot hem in person. First tell your parents and any siblings (and any extended family you're very close to). Then just come out to distant family members as you go along. Best of Luck!

[deanbrodi]

Joseph, do you even know if your mum & dad hate gays, or if they support gays? You have to know THAT b4 you dare come out, otherwise you mite be instantly homeless. Have they ever made comments about gay issues in the news?

[josephdaniel]

I know my dad isn't crazy about gay people but he tolerates them my mom on the other hand is very pro gay rights and stuff.

[Atonement]

From my perspective they don't sound too bad to come out to. Sounds like there is support there. I would never post it on Facebook before telling them in person. That's not a great way to find out. Also, I don't understand the desire to post stuff like that on Facebook. I mean, being gay isn't a big deal. It's a sexuality. Everyone has one. To make a big announcement about it makes it a big deal. So, from my point of view, I would just tell people as necessary. Just like straight people don't have to announce anything, neither should you.

[Syvelocin]

I kind of regret it. I mean, I guess it would be worse if I came out and discovered I was straight all along, but because I didn't wait a year or two, I had to come out twice to my parents, and as accepting as they are, having that talk twice with my dad was two times too many.

"So you've been doing it then?" Fuck OFF. I can like a girl without fucking her.

In addition to what the others have said, just take some time. How much have you discovered yourself since you started doubting your sexuality? Do you REALLY know who you are yet? Cause I bet you it'll be completely different in about five years time. Hell, by the time I left the nest at 18 I was a totally different person than I was three years prior, let alone what three years of independence has done to me.

[dontfiguremeout]

It's all your choice when you feel like it's the right time. But I wouldn't do it over facebook. I would say it in person. Once you've said it in person to your family and friends, pretty much it will be a talk during school for sure. Then that's when people will start questioning, then that's the time to say on facebook you are gay and the stories they herd were true. Yeah, it's going to take some gut to do it, but if you feel like it's time, then go ahead and do it!

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Only do it when you are truly ready to. Coming out isn't something you can rush.