I Just Cant

[JoeHillsTSD]

This is a follow up to this thread: http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=167614
In this thread I discussed the problem I was having asking this girl out.
Well, ive tried some of the ideas given to me. But they don't work.

Whenever I'm thinking about asking my crush, i have all the confidence in the world. But when it's time to do it, my heart starts beating like crazy, and my courage shrinks down to the size of a peanut.

Before I could sit down and talk to her during class. But now that my body knows a conversation will lead to me asking her out, I cant even get close to her.

Take today for instance: In class, I usually sit behind her seat where she usually sits so that I can talk with her before class starts. But today, I ended up avoiding her during class.

I even tried to go to her locker and talk to her and the only thing I could manage to do was walk by her and say 'hey'.

Please, someone, help me with this dilemma. I really like this girl, and I want to date her., but I cant even manage to ask her to the movies.

[ProudConservative]

Just spit it out.

[AbbaZabba]

The difficulty is that the answer is breathtakingly simple, you just do it.

[Pierce]

I agree with the 2 posts above me. The only thing stopping you now isn't your method of asking her out, it's you. You're going to have to gather up the courage and do it. No further amount of advice will help you with he next step you are going to take. You have to do that yourself.

[anyone50]

Why do you feel that you have to ask her out when you talk to her. Can't you just talk to her first and work up to asking her out. You say you lose your confidence because you feel that if you talk to her you have to ask her out and your afraid she will say no or someothere type of rejection.

Talk to her about school activities or maybe a hormework assignment. you already said hey to her so just put a couple more words with it and say "hey did you find that test hard we took today" or something school related. After you have broken the ice and she hasn't done what you fear most and run the other way talk to her the way you would talk to a friend that your not trying to ask out and you'll find the more you talk the eaier it gets.

Who knows once you get to know her you might not have the same feelings for her but if you do it's a hell of a lot eiasir to ask someone out that you talk to on a regular basis. That first step is the hardest but once you make it you'll wonder why it took you so long. Hope this helps Good luck