I have a guy friend...

[ThatGayishKidFrom98]

I have this friend, I really like him. I sit next to him in Geometry (We're in 8th grade) and we...I could say....Flirt.. I like this kid a lot...He's like a nerdy swimmer and has these abs you could die for. I like him but don't know how to tell him. What do I do? I'm really in love with him.....Help...

[NeuroTiger]

If you "flirt", things are easier.
Just compliment his personality, his body and see his reactions.
If everything is 'still' ok, just tell him you like him.

[HumbleMuffin]

You could try asking out his opinion on the LGBT community, see what he thinks. Could work as a warm up?

[Atonement]

So, at your age and if most of your peers are like the majority of the nation, I would be very careful in this situation. You need to make sure that you get the information from him that you want without potentially calling unwanted attention, bullying, or anything like that onto yourself. I suggest you get to know him well so you can find out if he is curious at all, gay, or whatever. Take it very easy. Jumping at him, telling him you're in love, or things like that will probably only ruin it all. Try to find out if the messages you're getting from him are what you think they are or if he's just friendly. It's complicated, we know that. Just be careful and make sure he won't flip.

[Naue]

Try and talk to him more, get a feel for his personality.

Talking to him online might be a good option too, it removes a lot of those personal barriers.

As stated above, try not to do anything which might have a negative impact on your school life. If you're not out yet it's always best to play it safe.

Good luck :-)

[Redrocket]

First of all is he gay? If he's not he
Might get a little creeped out!

[Swagamemmnon]

You have to subtly flirt, but also ask him about his opinion on LGBT matters. When flirting, its best to maintain eye contact and smile (but not to the point that it's creepy).

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He's most likely straight (that's how odds work), but if he isn't, then go for it!

[Eth_94123]

I'd say continue as normal, don't tell him it could ruin it if your not sure about his sexuality! But keep us posted on how things go :)

[crepesuzette]

try talking to him more. i would ask him point-blank if he's against gays and if he's dating. but of course, just to be on the safe side, don't ask if you aren't sure. YOU DON'T HAVE TO FOLLOW MY ADVICE IF YOU ARE COMPLETELY SURE THAT IT WILL WORK.

[gamerdudeW]

Before u out yourself, I would try the "straight" test on him first. ask him how often he works out and that u want abs like that for yourself. Then ask him where and when he works out..see if he's interested in doing anything with you OUTSIDE of class without showing too much direct attention TO him. if he takes the bait or continues with this line of thinking, then u have a chance at talking about more. =)

[Second Chance]

I agree with the person above that you have to be really careful here because until you know for 100% that the dude is gay/bi, then you might get yourself in a bad situation. Get to know this guy's personality and the kind of folks who he hangs with. Also, figure out what kind of family he is from, too. All those will give clues as to how he's like. What I mean is that if all his friends are homophobic and his family are hard core anti gay people, then chances are you probably can't be more than friends with this guy. On the other hand, if this guy is all right with gays/bi people and is all right with being with another guy, then you're fine. It just will take some time to figure all of this out because most gay/bi guys especially in junior high are not going to advertise themselves. At very least, even if the guy turns out to be straight after you get to know him, then you will at least end up with a good friend.