Who's wrong or are we even?

[Ghostspectre]

My parents are nagging me at the bit to do my homework. I agree an do it, my mother sits next to me to help me. We get started. I then simply state that section A is same as section B (implying that I would then have to write very similar text) and she responds with "Don't you dare speak to me with that disrespect". Remember, I did say this in a calm tone. My dad then gets involved saying I better not speak to my teachers like that and then I start getting angry after my mother walks away abruptly. (note: The homework given is a pointless book review, note 2: don't comment about the homework). My father and I begin arguing him shouting at me, I then disprove him and then comes up to me and speaks in a deep tone slightly spitting at my face. I tilt my head down and eyes up looking at him directly into the angry, plain eyes of his.

After some more arguing my mother comes back and very shortly goes absolutely crazy, she walks up to me and put her hands down by her waist and screamed at the top of her voice (happened before) telling me to go to my room. Slapping my laptop lid closed (slightly damaging the internal HDD) and now I am writing this.

Who is wrong or do we both have even points, I may have just written a story more of what the problem was but still...

[Sonic Boom]

I then simply state that section A is same as section B (implying that I would then have to write very similar text) and she responds with "Don't you dare speak to me with that disrespect".

Even if you did say this is a calm tone, your mum might have interpreted that as a rude/cheeky response. So maybe just apologise for the misunderstanding and explain that you didn't mean to be rude.

[Gwen]

Really the best option is to listen my parent is like this too. She takes everything as rude just agree and apologize you'd rather pretend your sorry then get in an argument.

[AbbaZabba]

Here's something I posted once, pretty well sums it up.

Here is something my Mom sent me a while back:

I will always be your parent first and your friend second. I will stalk you, flip out on you, lecture you, hunt you down like a bloodhound when I have to, because I love you. When you understand that, I will know you have become a responsible adult. You will never find anyone else in your life who loves, prays, cares and worries about you more than I do. If you don't mutter "I Hate You" under your breathe at least once in your life, then I am not doing my job properly, Love, MOM

[Atonement]

I think the worst possible thing you can do is directly "fight" back in any manner. Remain calm. A shouting match won't get you anywhere. I'm not saying it is a shouting match, but clearly emotions and tensions are high. Therefore, just state in your calmest voice possible that you didn't mean to sound disrespectful nor intend anything by it, but rather you're just frustrated. Clear calm communication will be your best friend in these types of situation.