what should i do? help

[thomfoun]

I guy I know who is 28 me a naked photo of himself he then sent me a message saying would I kiss me. P.S. We are both are gay and I am just 18 . what should i do? help

[Atonement]

Though I don't know you very well, that's completely up to you. For me, that'd be a huge age gap. If he's sending naked photos and saying he wants physical contact. He could be a criminal. I don't know. Clearly, all he seems to be interested in is sex. If you just want sex, it's your decision.

Personally, I wouldn't have sex with a guy for just sex unless I know him very well. If you don't know him super well, I don't suggest advancing any type of relationship mainly due to the age gap.

[thomfoun]

thank you for your quick response. i know him very well. but i am not to date ore have sex with him but i dont know what to say to him especially that he is suicidal and i dont want to say anything that would push him over the edge

[Kujiro]

It's an online zone.
Just like the song by savage garden - Santa Monica
It's such a grey zone, there's no right or wrong, true or false.

The only advice I can deliver to you, walk away if you are uncertain.
It's not very difficult to close a chat window.

Unless we are talking about someone you are personally acquainted with, then you should begin to question your own feelings.

From the way it's dished, it seemed to be a lust driven conversation.
And if you are looking for that, to each his own.
But if you are looking at a relationship perspective, hence id suggest a great deal in spending sometime to understand your partner.

It does not hurt to be sure, over being hurt deeper later.
Give yourself sometime to understand where you are coming from, take your time on this.
It's not my place to say loving someone older is wrong, as I believe love has no age and gender boundaries.
With time and patience, the answers would reveal eventually.

Good luck
*smile*

[anyone50]

thank you for your quick response. i know him very well. but i am not to date ore have sex with him but i dont know what to say to him especially that he is suicidal and i dont want to say anything that would push him over the edge

I would just tell him that your not interested in a relationship sexual or otherwise if thats what you feel but do it in a way that lets him down easy such as use your age differece as an excuse. You can't feel responsible for what he might do to himself but if you know each other and know any of his friends all you can do is confide in them that their friend may not be thinking stright and to look for any suicidal signs. Don't be coreced into something because they threateb to hurt themselves.

[Atonement]

thank you for your quick response. i know him very well. but i am not to date ore have sex with him but i dont know what to say to him especially that he is suicidal and i dont want to say anything that would push him over the edge

In this case, I'd just make it clear that you are happy to be his friend or whatever, but you want nothing physical from him. Tell him the photo(s) are unwanted and that you simply don't feel attraction to him or however you feel is appropriate to handle the situation.

However, if he's suicidal, handle the situation carefully and encourage him to get help.