Confused about my sexuality HELP!!

[Dymond]

So, I've been dating my girlfriend for a year now and I love her a lot. Just recently like three weeks ago I started to question if I was really gay. Now the thought of not being with her makes me really sad and I get these really sharp pains in my stomach. Well here's a little history on my past. Ever since I can remember I've always been attracted to girls (I'm a girl myself). I've had boyfriends but I was never really satisfied with dating them. I wanted to be with a female. I've had sex with like two guys just to make sure if I was really gay when I got to college. I will didn't like it. But now when I look at a guy I'm like he's cute then my mind starts to wonder about sex with them. Now I still get turned on to the thought of my girlfriend, but when I look at a guy I think is cute I get this anxious feeling and I start to second guess myself all over again and then I start to wonder if I really am a lesbian. But here's the kicker when I look at a guys body it doesn't turn me on neither does their Gentiles its just the thought of it. So I really am confused right now and I need help badly. I really don't want to be straight because I think about being with my girlfriend for awhile but I'm having confusing thoughts

[lyriclover]

It's normal. If you aren't turned on by the guy then you aren't attracted to him in that way. Straight girls can think other straight girls are pretty without having a sexual attraction to them. It's human nature to mentally point out attractive people. I'm gay and I know some guys are just plain sexy but that doesn't mean I'm not gay.

[Atonement]

I'm going to go on a mini-rant here which in no way is directed at you, but more at society. However, I think it's a message you could benefit from, which is why I am doing it here.

Why the hell does society create a black and white idea of sexuality? Sexuality, in almost every person, is a strong gray-scale. Virtually no one is completely straight or completely gay. Instead, we feel the need to identify with one of the definitions which only causes us confusion when we deviate from the definition we've chosen to identify with. I'm gay and sometimes I find girls sexually appealing. Does that mean I like men any less? Does that mean I might be straight? No. It means I'm human. We all have attraction to some member of the opposite, same, or anywhere in between gender. If society could recognize that sexuality isn't one or the other (straight or gay), then we wouldn't have teenagers confused about how to identify but rather grow up being comfortable loving whomever they so feel they should. It's not a difficult concept.

However, back to you. You're completely normal. If you didn't have any smidgen of attraction to the group you don't identify with, I would be more concerned. You like what you like. There's no wrong. There's no right. It just is. You can find men attractive. You can find women attractive. Do not fret. From your definition, if you must define yourself, I would probably call you a lesbian. You are seemingly happy with a woman, you don't have attraction to men but rather just think they're cute. Everyone can appreciate someone's looks or personality. It doesn't challenge their sexuality.

-end rant-

[Dymond]

thank you for your help. I think my real problem that has me worried is that I dont exactly get excited anymore at the thought of having sex with my girlfriend and this worries me. This is why I think I like men more. In fact i don't get excited looking at other girls either. I feel really indifferent. Except today I saw a guy and I thought he was really cute. Idk I'm still confused. To the point its drivng me insane. And idk if im thinking about it to much or if I really dont like women anymore. I'm just really scared that I dont like my girlfriend anymore.

[Eth_94123]

It's completely normal :) I hope you figured it all out :)