Crush scared of me

[Redrocket]

Well I have a crush on this girl at my
School but she's scared of me heres the story! One time I was at a school dance dancing with random people
Then some girl said "Patrick this girl wants to dance with you." So I started dancing with her But I walked off because I was
Nervous.

for about 3 or 4 mouths I
was wondering who the mystery woman was. My friends
told me it was that quite girl
In the hallway that always has lunch by herself.

So early February
of 2013 I found out she was in some of my classes and I began talking to her she was a really nice girl and we had the same interests, we were both gamers and loved music.

Then one day she was looking for me at school and she found me outside
And asked me to have lunch with her.
So we had lunch together then we started exchanging cell phone numbers!

Then my friend came up to me and told the girl that he had to talk to me for a minute and I told him I would talk to him later (he wanted to hook we up with her but I did it myself.)

She asked "what did he want?"
The I said "he's trying to hook me up with a girl"
Then she says " oh"

"But I amNot looking for a girlfriend" I said

I"no that came out wrong I am In love with someone"

"Who me" she says"

Then I stutter "Uhh uhh uhh no I I I I am in love with is other girl"

"Who you can tell me were friends"

" then I stuttered "I I I I I I like
you"

Then she says "omg really?"

" yes I do but I wan to try being" friends first I said

"Yeah good I idea lets try being friends first"

Then I told her I been In love with her for a long time and that I finally
Found the mystery girl from the dance!

Then sometime that week I asked her out to a movie and she said "yes" Then on a Saturday night we went to Handsel and Greddle witch hunters movie there was allot of blood in it and she held my hand very tight through the film!

Then after the movie we went to subway for our supper but she ended up paying for it when I wasn't looking
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Here's the main part of what happened
She started talking about this other guy durning dinner and told me he had a strong friendship for him and she was getting me jealous i told her I had to get some air! And I ran outside!

Then she followed me outside and asked me " whats wrong?" Then I went crazy and told her to leave me the F alone! She ran away from me and I chased her and told her I was"sorry" and told her that "I like "I just got kicked in the nuts!" Then she kept saying sorry over and over again!"

Then she was like "how bout if we're just friends and not boyfriend and girl friend!" Then I went crazy and scared her away and I did the most childish thing I threw myself in the snowbank and started crying!"

I called her name many times but she was no where to be found!

Later I got a text that night and she told me that "she was sorry for doing that to me and she just wanted to take it slow and didn't want to date any one yet!"

I understood that but I avoided her around school because I wasn't sure if she wanted to talk or not.

She asked me "patrick why can't you accept my Friendship?"

I told her that I would accept it if she talked to me ! Then one day
She asked if I wanted to walk her to the dollar store after school I told her yes I would but then something happened again! After school I met her outside then my friend came to me and asked if he can come with us and I said "fine"!

Then found out her and my friend dated in public/elementry. That kinda got me ticked off for a moment! Then they were exchanging numbers and my jealousy pushed to far! Then I got my feet wet and
I yelled a f bomb so loud that I scared her!!

Then I went crazy started listening to death metal and ran to my best friends place I hugged him
And told him he was right about everything then both of us went nuts
And scared her and my other friend away!

Now she won't talk to me
Anymore cause she thinks I am
nuts !

Well that's my story

[sampelly5]

sad, interesting story

[CharlieHorse]

That's interesting. I would ask her to sit down with you so you can tell her that you really like her, but you feel really jealous when there are other guys around her, and when she's talking about other guys. I know how hard it is to admit jealousy but know you can. Be honest. if you're honest and calm, she'll understand.

[Mirage]

That's a really sad story. As Charlie said, honesty is the best policy. Just be honest about your feelings and she's sure to understand. If she's not, then she's not worth your time anyways.

[Redrocket]

Thanks for the support guys you guys been
really helpful and yeah I hope she talks to me soon.
I miss her everyday and I still got her number and
I will try texting her sometime this week!

[Gwen]

Don't be feel too bad, every guy has been "Green Faced" before. I don't know what I can say what hasn't already been discussed... The Basic is to talk you need to just sit and discuss your problems, she needs to you to understand her and vice versa. It's about trust.

[Redrocket]

I have bad news! She won't talk to me anymore! I tried
texting but no response and at she stares at me at school
But she don't speak. I think I lost the love
Of my life and I can't do anything about it!

[anyone50]

Don't take this the wrong way but you can't act the way you said you did in the last part of your post and expect her to just forget it. I think I would have been a little scared as well if i was her. All is not lost but you do have a lot of damage repair ahead of you if you still want to be her friend and you need to get back the friendship before you have a chance to ask her out again.

First give her some time to get over what you did to her and in the meantime go out of your way to show her from a distance your not the same guy you were when this happened. After awhile just start saying hi to her when you see her in the hall or classroom and i bet eventually she will start saying it back. Once she has started talking again it's all on you to show her your not the scary guy she thinks you are.

[Redrocket]

Well it's to late guys I lost her I wrote her a
Detailed letter and all I got is a
"Give up Patrick" well there's nothing I can
do now!

[anyone50]

Well it's to late guys I lost her I wrote her a
Detailed letter and all I got is a
"Give up Patrick" well there's nothing I can
do now!

I don't want to say I told you so but writing her a detailed letter is pretty much the same as coming on to strong. All you acclomplished with that letter is to reafirm her impression of you. Just leave it alone for now and see what happens down the road in a few months. Maybe if she's see's you have totally forgotten about her it will peak her interest.

[Redrocket]

Update: I found a poem on the
Internet and send it to her


My life was changed, turned, and twisted,
when I knew our friendship no longer existed.
I know I was wrong, I know I messed up,
and that's why I'm sitting here typing this up.
I'm sorry for all the things I let go to my head,
I'm sorry for all the things that I said.
I'll make it better I'll make it oh so right,
as long as you promise us never to fight.

Then all I got is a "-_- UMMMMMMMM"

and anyone50 I just read your last post and yeah I will
do what you say and don't bother with her for a while

[xmojox]

Dude you can't rave like a lunatic and expect a girl to not be weirded out by it. I'm guessing you've learned that lesson. You have to be kind, compassionate, caring, and respectful with girls. Understand that even if a girl is your girlfriend, she's allowed to speak with whomever she pleases. Your girlfriend isn't your property. She's a feeling person who has decided to spend some of her time with you. Respect her. Cherish her. Don't rave at her and go off like that.

[Redrocket]

Update: I found her number in the phone book and
called it and here's what happened
First her mom answered and as soon
as I told her who it was she said 1 sec
then the phone went quite then

I talked to her and told her I was sorry and
everything! Then she said "you really scared me" and that
I really needed to control my temper.

I told her that I was trying hard and
I knew how to keep cool. Then I asked
Her if me and her were friends.

She said " I don't know"
Then we had a bit of side conversations
Then she said "thanks for calling" then
We hung up.

[crazy_teen]

Just let her be for awhile. You can't go around stalking her or she'll get more scared of you. Let things cool off first. If she really likes you, she'll show signs again.

[Redrocket]

Update It's the last time
. Well I found a new crush on a different girl and the girl is jealous and here's what happened she kept stalking me today at school walking by me and my friends 20 times. Then after school her mom texted me and told me to leave her alone when I wasn't even bothering with her! She told her mom that I was harassing her and kept texting her! She is jealous because I found a new girl and here's what her mom wrote me

Its Not Her but Her Mom...She has my phone because u won't leave her alone! Please don't call the house either, thanks and have a nice day.

Then I said

"You know I didn't do anything I haven't even been bothering her honest to god I left her alone for about a week so I don't know what ur saying!"

Her mom:
"She has asked u politely to move on and yet ur texting is absolute proof of u NOT MOVING ON! Move on son."

Me; I am moving on I haven't even text her for about a week all I did was ask how her march break was I was just being nice that's all I just wanted her to be my friend... But can you please tell her not to look at me in the hallway
Her mom:
That works...thanks 4 understanding...you will understand that l will not give her old phone back to her...........

Me: I know she's probably jealous because I found another girl I am interested in so she told you I was bothering her...

Her mom: Whatever....MOVE ON!!!!!!!!!

Me:
You don't have to b***h at me you don't even know me and you don't like to hear the truth...you girls I don't understand them

Then I finnally send this

I I know I messed up so bad but I guess your not a forgiving person and I know that now! Now you think I am a monster but deep inside I am a nice guy! I just wanted you to be my friend because your a special person dawn and I guess we can't be friends now I walk the vally of Sadness!

Then an hour later her mom sends this

no subject
Patrick, she doesn`t want to be friends with you...l know this hurts but with all the people on your contact list you shouldn`t need to keep badgering her about being your friend. You`re just hurting yourself and as a Mother it doesn`t please me to see you hurting yourself this way. Really.... let this go, okay?

So this is the end between me and that girl

[NUGGETMAN1]

Sorry, man. I think that if it was meant to be, it was meant to be. What happened happened, and you can't chang that. Leave her alone for a while, and see if you guys can at leastbe friends. I know how u feel bc i was in a situation where i asked a girl out and was told that she wasn't ready. She said she only wanted to b friends.When I get angry, I try to calmly stop what ever is bothering me before i get aggresive. This is starting to get long, but I hope you take somthing from this.

[Redrocket]

I blew it again first of all I called her and her mom picked up and I said "is your daughter able to chat" Then she says "no she don't live here!" I feel so stupid now! I will. Just stick with the new girl I like!

Well here's the sad truth I think she used me to get popular! Because no one hardly talks to her so she used me to make friends because I am a semi popular guy! But still she has no friends lol

[peaceNlove]

Hey sorry, i think you should just let her go. You weren't meant to be with her.

[Horatio Nelson]

After reading this, I think there is a strong message of "you need to control your anger." Which you obviously have a lot of. Well, good luck to you friend.

[Bobbyhill]

Well you should have just told her you don't like games

[Redrocket]

Update: its been a while
here's a quick update I found her on PSN a mouth ago and
Wrote her these arnt exactly the same as the messages but similar and she said "y do you even like me I am a loner" I told her I
"I like you because You really stood out toMe at the dance and i was once a loner like you and the only friend I had was you and the only for until The only friend I had was my dad until I met Evan and I thought I could help you out and be your friend"

Then she said "No thanks goodbye

than I lost my temper AGAIN and said

"you know what your lucky anyone even talks to you like the only people who talk to you are teachers and the peer assistants you must love It when you see me PLEAD FOR YOUR FRIENDSHIP BECAUSE YOUR A GIRL!!!"

Then sometime a week later she told the principle on me the principle told me "patrick your not on trouble but I will tell you some things to
Not get you in trouble.

Principle: "I know you have feelings for Dawn but you can't me messaging her or contacting her because she's a little scared.

Me: "WHAT HOW DID YOU FIND OUT ABOUT THIS???

Principle: us staff are good at finding stuff out. *That's the biggest lie I ever heard someone say*

"You know I haven't been messaging her for about a week because I got a new girlfriend now"

Then after I delt with the principle I Lost full contact with my former crush for good and now she hangs with this guy in my class and she still avoids me around the school like when we do our laps around the school track she runs away from me when I try to pass her and when she sees me and my best friend at school she's always to scared to come walk by us.

well this is the end I think