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[candabear17]

How do you feel when you see someone whose 13 saying that they've had sex and that they're currently active? I feel like crying when I see/read things like that.... I guess it's just because I lost my virginity at such a young age and regret it very much... Am I the only one who feels this way?

[fallman]

Too young. I know some people choose their own paths and if they are only 15 or 16 yet lost their virginity at 13 or younger and they do not yet regret it I feel they will someday. I have purposely waited due to the fear of regret. I have had too many friends regret it. Not all was their choice and that then should not be looked down on if they had no say in what happened.

Young people, wait.

[WalkingOnDisaster]

I'm fairly young- I'll be 16 in a couple weeks and I hate the idea of 13-year-olds having sex. It's too young. Kids should have fun and experience life rather than jump from little to adult instantly.

[eddward]

I had sex very young. It was great, I don't regret it. But after that summer and she went back home, could not stop thinking about it and could not turn off the desire for more. That was the only bad thing about it. No turning back.

[Abyssal Echo]

I think 13 is a bit too young. but, then again who am I to talk I lost my virginity at 11 and have been sexually active ever since. I don't regret it but, do wonder if it (sex)would have been better if I had done it with someone that I loved or really cared about.

[SammyG17]

I was writing my experiences but realized I may have been story telling so erased it all. I was very young when the whole topic was introduced, and 11 when the "real" thing actually happened. However, in my case it was what I wanted. I knew what to expect, how to respect my own body, and how to respect someone else. I grew up with "No" meaning "Stop, no or not now," so I never felt forced. I don't regret it, but for me it was a very loving and intimate moment.

[Iron Man]

Absolutely not. If the contraception fails, you get babies having babies. Procreation isn't a game for the young.

[AbbaZabba]

I think emotionally it is definitely too young. I'm 15 and don't want the emotional issues, I don't want to change the wonderful relationship I have with my BF, who is also my best friend and has been since we were 6. I'm still a virgin, plan on staying that way, and proud of it.

[Mobalo]

This must be one of the most useful threads for me so far. I'm 13 and haven't had sex. Not that I've actually considered doing it yet, but now I have these advices in the back of my head if I come to a situation where I have to make this choice :) Thank you!

[Pipo]

How do you feel when you see someone whose 13 saying that they've had sex and that they're currently active? I feel like crying when I see/read things like that.... I guess it's just because I lost my virginity at such a young age and regret it very much... Am I the only one who feels this way?

I don't really care about that some 13 year old girl/boy has sex with someone. It's their life and they choose what they want to do not mine. I'm the one who is doing the decisions in my life and no body else so why would I start to waste my energy thinking why some 13 had sex? There's no point I can't change it no matter what I do? Done is done. More less chances cus it's over the internet but if I knew someone like my friend who's 13 and he'd come to me like "I had sex" well? I'd probably say was it safe sex or not? Plus maybe give him/her some education about it but over internet it's just waste of time.

I don't want to judge anyone who's 13 or whatever age just do what you want.

[Macman11]

way to young

[Coolboi]

it just to young hard for me to say much because I lost mine young to and sure wish I never did it now . It's like once you do it you can't stop .save it for later please !

[Lovelife090994]

I think 13 is a bit too young. but, then again who am I to talk I lost my virginity at 11 and have been sexually active ever since. I don't regret it but, do wonder if it (sex)would have been better if I had done it with someone that I loved or really cared about.

When you have sex with the person you truly love that is when you lose your true virginity. You can be a virgin to love sometimes.

[Troy35216]

When you have sex with the person you truly love that is when you lose your true virginity. You can be a virgin to love sometimes. so if you have sex just cuz it feels good and it's not with someone you love then your still a virgin? there are a lot of pregnant virgins then and a lot of virgins with STDs. wow.

i think it's too young but that might just be cuz i'm jealous cuz i never had sex. but even if i had i would still think 13 was too young. damn 13 is 8th grade!!! IMO if you have to sneak to have sex or make sure your parents don't find out your having sex then you are too young to have sex. BUT idk if that means I would follow my own rule in certain circumstances or not but only in certain circumstances. how is that for a straightforward answer? lol

[Xpert]

Tell me your first experience....please

[Lovelife090994]

so if you have sex just cuz it feels good and it's not with someone you love then your still a virgin? there are a lot of pregnant virgins then and a lot of virgins with STDs. wow.

i think it's too young but that might just be cuz i'm jealous cuz i never had sex. but even if i had i would still think 13 was too young. damn 13 is 8th grade!!! IMO if you have to sneak to have sex or make sure your parents don't find out your having sex then you are too young to have sex. BUT idk if that means I would follow my own rule in certain circumstances or not but only in certain circumstances. how is that for a straightforward answer? lol

I'm not saying I condone sex for people younger than 13 and true you do lose your virginity when you have sex but when you have sex with a person you have feelings for versus lust, it is different.

[thisisben]

I find it far too young , I even think my age at 15 is too young yet lots of people still do it but it is their body and decision to be fair.

[clarksonian]

How do you feel when you see someone whose 13 saying that they've had sex and that they're currently active? I feel like crying when I see/read things like that.... I guess it's just because I lost my virginity at such a young age and regret it very much... Am I the only one who feels this way?

I lost mine at 14 and still regret it I wasnt ready. The girl was 2 years old and I basicly only dated her to do it but it wasn't worth it looking back at it at the age of 16

[Mirage]

I think 13 is too young as well. Your mind is still not totally developed and you really aren't very rational at 13.

[candabear17]

I don't really care about that some 13 year old girl/boy has sex with someone. It's their life and they choose what they want to do not mine. I'm the one who is doing the decisions in my life and no body else so why would I start to waste my energy thinking why some 13 had sex? There's no point I can't change it no matter what I do? Done is done. More less chances cus it's over the internet but if I knew someone like my friend who's 13 and he'd come to me like "I had sex" well? I'd probably say was it safe sex or not? Plus maybe give him/her some education about it but over internet it's just waste of time.

I don't want to judge anyone who's 13 or whatever age just do what you want.

I didn't ask what you thought about how I feel about it. I understand people make their own choices but how can you make a choice like that at 13? It's based on maturity which no 13 y/o is mature enough to have sex in my opinion. We can change whats been done but if we can prevent someone else from making a mistake than shouldn't we at least try?

It's not judging someone to say that 13 is too young. It's an opinion that doesn't single anyone out. How is that judging? If you're going to post a comment at least answer the question please.

Tell me your first experience....please
Who are you asking? and don't forget that story telling is against the rules...

[Mortal Coil]

Even though I personally don't think kids should be having sex when they're 13, it would be hypocritical of me to judge because I lost my virginity much earlier. I also am not one to police other people's decisions.

[Majin Vegeta]

I'm fairly young- I'll be 16 in a couple weeks and I hate the idea of 13-year-olds having sex. It's too young. Kids should have fun and experience life rather than jump from little to adult instantly.

it's not gonna make you an "adult" nor will you lose childish innocence. I think it's more logical to use that reasoning for marriage which could change a person

[dvd333]

Too young by far. Im 18 and still waiting...there are alternatives and sex changes so much. Too much for us already emotional teens.

[WalkingOnDisaster]

Well I don't mean adult in the sense that they grow up, but rather that they are making big life decisions at such a young age... No logic in my opinion.

[PinkFloyd]

13 is way too young in my opinion. I lost mine when I was 14. While that was fantastic during it,my girlfriend and I still went through a lot of emotional and physical trauma. The next morning we both woke up feeling awful and didn't know why. We also both threw up at least once. We were both 14 then. I can't inagine what it must b like for a 13 year old...

[Pipo]

How do you feel when you see someone whose 13 saying that they've had sex and that they're currently active? I feel like crying when I see/read things like that.... I guess it's just because I lost my virginity at such a young age and regret it very much... Am I the only one who feels this way?

I did answer the question.

[candabear17]

I did answer the question.

All you said is that you don't judge people. I asked is if you think it's ok for a 13 y/o to have sex.

[Chimpchar]

I don't think a 13 y/o should even be in a relationship, it's not like we could go out on dates or w/e, let alone have sex. I mean, it's not like you'll find and date your "soul mate" or w/e at 13. Hell, you most likely won't even know them when you get older, or if you do you certainly won't be close. Ok, I think I'll leave now.

[Pipo]

All you said is that you don't judge people. I asked is if you think it's ok for a 13 y/o to have sex.

let me help you

I don't really care about that some 13 year old girl/boy has sex with someone. It's their life and they choose what they want to do not mine. I'm the one who is doing the decisions in my life and no body else so why would I start to waste my energy thinking why some 13 had sex? There's no point I can't change it no matter what I do? Done is done. More less chances cus it's over the internet but if I knew someone like my friend who's 13 and he'd come to me like "I had sex" well? I'd probably say was it safe sex or not? Plus maybe give him/her some education about it but over internet it's just waste of time.

I don't want to judge anyone who's 13 or whatever age just do what you want.

And I said that if someone find my post offensive.

If you don't understand what I said: I said that I don't care if 13yo has sex with someone cus it's their body and they do the choices in their life. I've been 13yo and I did my choices and actions so what can you do about it? nothing? ya probably.

Second you shouldn't be worried about reading from internet that 13yo kids have sex there's a high chance they just want attention or lie cus it's apparently so "cool" and what else in their world to have sex.

If you've had sex you know it won't change anything in you.

[Apollo.]

This sounds terrible but I don't actually think its to young, if it's two consenting 13 year olds or maybe a year or two each way then whats the harm if they take precautions and think it out? If it was sonebody older having sex with a 13 year old I'd have a problem because its sick. I don't think it should be a problem as long as it doesn't harm anyone else.

[Swagging god]

I lost my virginity young at age 12. I however do not regret it I was in love with the girl and had been dating her 2 years before we lost our virginity to eachother. Overall I believe that if both people are truly in love and consent to the act that it is ok.

[IAMWILL]

13 year olds should not be having sex. I don't think anyone is ready until 17, because thats when puberty calms down and you can seriously think about these decisions, instead of being impulsive and jumping into it too quick.

Sex to me is an extremely special thing, and although sometimes I think I'd like to wait until marriage, I'm not sure if I would deny the opportunity if I was in a relationship for a year or more and I really loved the girl, and she felt the same way. At 13 or younger, no one is mentally capable of understanding the consequences of sex, and almost all relationships at that age don't last beyond 5 or 6 months, if that. I hate how losing you're virginity is seen as so cool, because when I look at a friend or someone who is proud of losing their virginity at 13,14,15,16 or younger, I feel a bit ashamed for them and slightly embarrassed.

[Pierce]

I think it's fine if both are mature, understand what they are doing, and go about doing it in a safe way.

[candabear17]

let me help you

I don't really care about that some 13 year old girl/boy has sex with someone. It's their life and they choose what they want to do not mine. I'm the one who is doing the decisions in my life and no body else so why would I start to waste my energy thinking why some 13 had sex? There's no point I can't change it no matter what I do? Done is done. More less chances cus it's over the internet but if I knew someone like my friend who's 13 and he'd come to me like "I had sex" well? I'd probably say was it safe sex or not? Plus maybe give him/her some education about it but over internet it's just waste of time.

I don't want to judge anyone who's 13 or whatever age just do what you want.

And I said that if someone find my post offensive.

If you don't understand what I said: I said that I don't care if 13yo has sex with someone cus it's their body and they do the choices in their life. I've been 13yo and I did my choices and actions so what can you do about it? nothing? ya probably.

Second you shouldn't be worried about reading from internet that 13yo kids have sex there's a high chance they just want attention or lie cus it's apparently so "cool" and what else in their world to have sex.

If you've had sex you know it won't change anything in you.

I understand everything you said. You didn't answer the question. You said you didn't care. If that's the case, it was pointless for you to even comment on this thread for any reason other than spamming and harassment which your last post obviously is. I find your comments degrading and unnecessary. As the person who started this thread, I kindly ask you to stop leaving comments like this to avoid fights which are against the rules.
Thank you.

[Snookers]

I always go by the "you need to be spiritually and physically prepared blah blah" thing, but lets be serious, at 13 years or younger a kid just got into puberty, it doesn't matter how mature or prepared are they, their body and mind is definitely not ready for those kind of things. At 13 years old a kid is into that childhood-teenage stage, and it's a pretty difficult period for them, mentally talking, they don't even fully know themselves yet they want to abuse their bodies.
And I also highly doubt that they actually know what they're getting themselves into.
I mean lets be serious, 11-12 year old kids get into relationships, they think they're adults, but no, they're just making fools of themselves.
Oh well, it's their body/future, not mine.

[darthearth]

To me there are three fundamental viewpoints. One is the person who does not think sex is "special" at all and does it casually and freely without regret. Another is one who does think it's special, but feels like they are ready at a young age. The third is the person who thinks it's special and does not perceive themselves to be (or mistakenly thinks) they are ready at a young age. Only the last case would regret, the others would not. It's an issue where different people can be completely different and I have that in mind when I read posts.

[Orangeman]

That's too young

[matty123]

I was 14 and too young. Not that I really regret it because every experience that we have forms who we are today - both good and bad things help us to develop and learn. I did not have friends to "experiment" with like so many have talked about in these posts. If I did, I probably wouldn't have had sex so young and would have been more ready for it later when I did.

[candabear17]

I was 14 and too young. Not that I really regret it because every experience that we have forms who we are today - both good and bad things help us to develop and learn. I did not have friends to "experiment" with like so many have talked about in these posts. If I did, I probably wouldn't have had sex so young and would have been more ready for it later when I did.

I think a lot of the people who lost their virginity to "the right person" will eventually regret it because of their age and the fact that when they really do find the one they'll wish they had waited. That's one of my biggest problems... But it could also be because of the fact that I don't remember my first time so obviously that sucks.

[Sean4U]

I answered NO to the survey question, but I feel a bit of a hypocrite because I was younger than 13 when I first had sex, but looking back I really wish that I hadn't....too much pressure today in JR HIGH to have sexual experiences....by sex, I am talking intercourse either anal or vaginal....not mutual masturbation or oral....because I think that is pretty common at any age