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cra1g
February 15th, 2013, 09:22 PM
My girlfriend and i are 16 and have been dating for 15 months. Last week we had a fight. It wasnt really a fight neither of us were mad at each other but did almost break up. We were talking with a couple of our friends about Church and such. We are both Christian just different denomination. Im Methodist and shes Church of Christ. Anyways we were talking about our beliefs and my girlfriend said that in the Church of Christ they believe that you aren't an "official" Christian until you are baptized and i dont believe that. I said as much and she said that we are going to have to have a bible study and that she would make me change my mind and i said that no matter how much we study the bible that she isnt going to get me to compromise my beliefs. The conversation goes on and she ends up saying she could never marry someone who doesnt believe what she does and go to the same church even after i said that im not going to change my beliefs. Now i know that it might sound ridiculous but i honestly thought that she was The One before this but now i dont know what to think. Before she said that i could see myself married to her but now i cant really. Anytime i try it pops back up into my mind that she said that and i dont see the point in continuing to date her if, ultimately, we could never have a future together. I dont want to waste my life in a pointless relationship when i could possibly be with the one im supposed to be with. We decided to not worry about it right now since marriage is a ways off for us but i feel like my love for her is fading. Its been a week since the fight and i still feel the same. I dont know what to do now. On one hand i dont really want to lose her but now im feeling like i could lose and be ok. And its going to be really hard for us to remain friends if we do break up and i dont want to stop being friends with her. My group of friends are really close and i dont want there to be any hard feelings but i dont know if my love for her will come back as its almost gone right now. I mean i still love her as a friend but not as a girlfriend anymore.
Any advice is welcome. Thank you.

Fireflame
February 15th, 2013, 09:52 PM
Dude I am in the exact same situation as you are.

I met this girl 2 years ago and it was love at first sight. Then she brought religion into the equation and everything went downhill. I do not want to lose her yet I know that things would be difficult if I tried to work things out. She wants to marry me and we planned out out future as well.

Enough about me. My advice would be this: If you really like this girl, or even love her. If she is the One for you, then do not give up. No you should not change your beliefs, do not let her change that. But it is your call.

If you have strong feelings for her, then try to fix things and work it out. But she should not be trying to make you change your beliefs. Good luck