should i tell?

[sedona123]

i've been wanting to tell one of my friends about my cutting, but how would i tell him? and im worried that if i tell him, he will think in a freak and stop talking to me, any help??

[xarvon1412]

Yeah, it's hard. The first friend I told was convinced that I was possessed by a demon, and I'm not kidding. You have to pick the right friend, you have to pick the one that you know will stick with you through thick and thin. You could start out by taking it slowly. Tell him that you have something serious to talk about and then tell him that you don't want him to freak out when you say it. I'm not saying that you should do exactly what I'm telling you, I'm just saying that this might be a good way to start it out. Don't worry though, I'm sure they'll understand :) I'd love to hear what happens and if you need somebody to talk to, just wall me. I'll respond as soon as possible.

[autismtwin]

If you do tell him and he stops talking to you, then he isn't a real friend. As stated above, make sure you pick someone you trust and who will stay with you. Maybe you could bring up cutting (without saying you do it) and kind of get his opinion on it. I think you should tell him small things at first, and if he takes those well then you can tell him the bigger things.

[Mynick]

xarvon1412 is right, you need to pick the right friend. Most of my friends freak out when i bring cutting up in a conversation, many people aren't ready to hear that their friend cuts. When you choose one person, try saying that you have being depressed and see how he reacts, then talk a bit about cutting. Ask him to heard you 'till the end, and one thing, give him time to think and accept all.

I talked to my best friend and she told me that she hates when people self-harm, because she used to do that. I just stared at her and told, well you will probably hate me then. After that she helped me a lot...

[struggling]

3 of my friends know ....
worst mistake ever, they look at me funny and ask me how i am everyday and try "save me " in fact the one day when i didn't answer my friend when she asked how i was she proceeded to tell me she didn't have yo ask me and she was doing it out of the good of her heart and i should appreciate it more

[xDarkAngelx]

I guess firstly how good is your relationship with him? Do you trust him to know that you do self harm?

[Atonement]

I agree with a large majority of the advice above.

My two cents: If you want to share your struggles with your friend, I would suggest sharing what is bothering you first, if you haven't already. Saying, "I cut myself." won't go across very well but sharing what's making you upset is a much easier topic for other people to understand and support. If they handle that and seem like a great support for you and can handle more information, then I would think telling them of your self-harm would be a potentially good move. However, I would ease into because some people simply don't know what to think of it.

[jayyy-lmao]

I talk about these things on fb chat. I know it sounds rude but it's easier.

[Wanderer_]

If you trust him to be discrete then totally tell him
Sharing and talking is very helpful

[ImCoolBeans]

I agree with a large majority of the advice above.

My two cents: If you want to share your struggles with your friend, I would suggest sharing what is bothering you first, if you haven't already. Saying, "I cut myself." won't go across very well but sharing what's making you upset is a much easier topic for other people to understand and support. If they handle that and seem like a great support for you and can handle more information, then I would think telling them of your self-harm would be a potentially good move. However, I would ease into because some people simply don't know what to think of it.

This is very good advice.

If you trust this friend enough, I would start by sharing how you feel and sharing what makes you upset. This is something that you should take in steps to make sure that you don't blindside him rather than in leaps where he may be totally caught off guard and take it badly. Easing into the discussion is how I would go about it, otherwise your friend may not know what to do, say or think about it -- as Addi said. Whatever you decide to do, I hope all goes well.