Fairly Awkward Relationship... Any Advice?

[Arther443]

So, I've been dating this girl for about a week now. We only have 1 class together so we don't get to hang out that much. When we do, and she is around her friends, she sorta locks up and doesn't really want to talk. I've tried the "So tell me about yourself" and such but she gives short, awkward responses. Do any of you have any advice on how to get her talking?

[Ryhanna]

Maybe she's shy or nervous. Try asking more specific questions than just "tell me about yourself." That's too general. Try asking her what her favourite movie is, or what music she likes, or if she has any hobbies. Sometimes it's easier for shy people to answer questions when they're very specific. It requires less thinking and pondering.

[Pierce]

I think it wold be better to tell her more about yourself first. She might be acting that way because she knows very little about you. Tell her something about yourself and then ask her a question based on what you said. Another reason she might be acting that way is because she is just not interested. So approach her make smal talk and let the conversation flow. Do not make it chopy like question and answer. Best of Luca!

[AbbaZabba]

The term dating is being used very loosely if you are not communicating. First, how did you all determine you were dating, you had to talk about it. Second, I would ask if you can call her at home. That way you can get her out of the school and friend barrier and see how she reacts then. I like it when people ask things about me, I wouldn't talk a ton about yourself. Try to find out what she likes to do, tv shows she likes, movies, her family life, etc. Getting to know one and other is the key to a relationship. You have to find out if you have things in common or at least things you'd like to do together. Anyways, good luck Ron.

[Arther443]

Well it's not like I haven't talked to her at all... Whenever we're alone talking (on the phone or in person) it's much easier for both of us to just talk and laugh and have a good time. A friend of hers told me she liked me, and since I liked her too we started talking to each other. A few days later, I asked her out and she said yes so I'm pretty sure the problem isn't with her not liking me.

[JoeHillsTSD]

Ask her to a movie or to bowling or something our of school. Get her away from her friends. Im not saying that you need to keep her away from them, but your time spent with her shouldnt be time spent with her friends as well. That will only kill the relationship.

Talk to her about your interests and get her opinion. Ask her about hers. What kind of sports does she play? Movies she likes? Things she likes to do for fun? Does she play an instrument? Is she involved in a group activity? These things are specific enough for you to ask and they allow you to get to know her better. Share some of this stuff about you. She will open up if you can open up to her.