Trust issues :/

[Marcus_Stockley]

So, I have feelings for a girl. We've been friends for almost 3 years now. I've been wanting to ask her out ( I've been flirting with her a lot recently ), but she told me she had serious trust issues and she has a hard time trusting me. This is unfortunate and I want her to be able to trust me because I care for her and I want her to know that. Any advice on how I can gain my trust from her?

[screamtobeheard]

Honestly, all you can do is be real and honest and show her that you can be trusted. Often times, individuals with trust issues have them for really complicated reasons, but if you're patient and don't put pressure on her, she'll eventually grow to trust you. Just be careful not to put pressure on her or act upset because she has trust issues. That's likely to make her withdraw herself even further from you.

Good luck.

[dontfiguremeout]

Hmmm, maybe just take down the flirtiness just a tad bit. But just show her she can trust you, but don't over do it, because then she won't want to go in a relationship at all. And if you have done some things in the past that maybe hurt her feelings, or she didn't like, clear them away and talk to her about them. That's all I really got to say.

[unnamed94]

my advice would be to slow down the flirtiness as realgone said. then get to know her better and trust her with your things, thoughts, feelings, etc so she will start feeling she could trust you. give it some time

[AbbaZabba]

You need to talk to her about what you just posted, to her. Communication is a great way to build trust. If she is interested, she will talk to you about it. Make sure you find out exactly what she means, and don't make excuses for anything she brings up. Let her know you'll work on anything she brings up, not why you do it. She's probably right about anything she is saying or questioning about you.