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Freelance
February 11th, 2013, 03:57 PM
Hey people.
I'm a 16 year old male living in Europe, after having lived in the USA for most of my life. I am in my sophmore year in a K-12 international school that happens to be extremely small (6 kids in my class total). Anyways, recently i've come to really enjoy chatting with/being in the company of this girl, and i think i might want to actually start a relationship.
Whats the catch? She goes into 9th grade next year, when i go into 11th. Shes 14, and while she is often easily as mentally mature as me, she of course isnt as physically mature.
Is it a necessary that I date her? Probably not. Can i go for anyone else in other classes closer to my own? Probably not. We will have 1 girl in my class next year, and other options are virtually non-existant. I also dont want to spend my teenage years (aka what many consider the best years of my life) studying, playing games, and working without ever having a real enjoyable relationship.
I'm not thinking about sex for at least another year and a half if even, i just want to have a good time with a girl i like, maybe move a base or two if im lucky.

What do you think? Would this be acceptable? What should i do if not(or if? What would i ask her out to do?!?)

Tldr: 16 yr old boy wants to date 14 yr old girl. Interesting life situation, non american small school. Help?

Stryker125
February 11th, 2013, 04:11 PM
I don't really see anything wrong with it. Two years isn't a big age difference at all, and if she's a mentally mature as you say, it shouldn't be a problem. It's definitely not necessary that you date her at all. If you like hanging out with her, keep hanging out with her. Maybe you can ask her if she wants to hang out with you outside of school sometime. If you're comfortable with it, let her know you like her.

All it has to be is you hanging out with someone you like being around. It shouldn't be a big deal unless you make it one. Hope I helped.

AbbaZabba
February 11th, 2013, 09:32 PM
Go for it dude, if you like her and you all have fun, nothing else matters. Good Luck.

Aves
February 12th, 2013, 02:19 AM
Just go for it. Two years is no big deal. Simply put. If you like her, try. You'll regret not doing it more than you ever will from doing it.

Freelance
February 12th, 2013, 09:43 AM
Thanks for the advice guys, i'll ask her if she wants to get a coffee or something in a couple weeks (on vacation and Valentine's day is so cliché), and go from there.

Also cool sketches/ drawings stryker, they look quite good ^-^

hscott729
February 12th, 2013, 02:44 PM
im in a similar boat as u. although my schools bigger - about 600 people in it and a boarding one.i also like a girl 2 years younger, but i feel kinda awkward about it :/

message me and tell me how u get on :D mabye u'll give me some courage :P

Stryker125
February 12th, 2013, 03:05 PM
Also cool sketches/ drawings stryker, they look quite good ^-^

Thanks dude :)