Losing your virginity

[Leftyxx69xx]

Hey boys and girls...

I recently have a lot of friends (mostly male) telling me that they HAVE TO lose their virginity before they grad from high school. It seems like a lot of ppl having this believe that you must lose your virginity before you turn 18.

What do you guys think? Why do you think ppl are so desperate to lose it? Is it that they just want to have sex? Or is there deeper reasons to that?

[zerosix22]

Actually from my point of view,its just rubbish. In catholic beliefs,when marrying your wife,youre wife is supposed to be dressed in white because she is pure and virgin. Its just that virginity is like a glass,once shattered,it cant be fixed anymore.

[ReginaGeorge]

Maybe they associate sex with adulthood or something, or maybe it's just pressure on themselves personally to live up to a certain standard or not be "frigid" or a loser by their definition.

I think it's stupid. People have sex when they're ready. If you're not ready at 18, you don't have to have it. If you're ready at 14, I can only pray you use protection but like I said, best time is when both parties having the sex feel they are truly ready.

[Ryhanna]

They're feeding you bullshit. You do what YOU feel comfortable doing, not what you feel pressured to do.

[AbbaZabba]

I just went through a bout of wanting to lose it and was going to lead the cause, but I realized that was my hormones talking. Then I realized I am so happy right now, having so much fun, and I love Jordan very much, so why take a chance on losing that. At this age, I don't think I'm ready for those emotions. I'm proud of who I am and very happy, so life is good this way.

[Leftyxx69xx]

Great responses guys :) Glad that you guys are all mature ~!!

Yes i would have to agree with NotSoSilent... a lot of ppl associate virginity with "loserism"... or that they feel like they are unattractive or unlike becus nobody wants to sex them... i understand where they are coming from, but its a very childish way of thinking..

[tovaris]

in my opinion the notion one HAS TO lose their virginati in only a nother aspekt of the societi, it is op to every person to decide on theyr own if they are redy to lose their virginati and not be presured by society and religion

[PinkFloyd]

I don't think it is all that big of a deal. I mean people just get so hyped up about it because it's against the rules. There are a lot of mis-conseptions about sex. Your first time is most likely not going to be awesome. My first times was awkward and uncomfortable. It takes a lot of trust and bonding to pull off. In my opinion, one does not simply get laid (no pun intended). It's much, much deeper than that. In order to have sex, you need to know the person very well and be very close to them emotionally. You also need to be smart.